1 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:22,148 When we are told all of our lives 2 00:00:22,190 --> 00:00:26,481 that there are only two possibilities, either, or, 3 00:00:26,523 --> 00:00:29,148 it can be hard to look beyond that. 4 00:00:29,190 --> 00:00:31,606 Some of us think outside the box. 5 00:00:31,648 --> 00:00:32,689 But for many of us, 6 00:00:32,731 --> 00:00:35,438 the box becomes our world. 7 00:00:35,480 --> 00:00:38,355 There is no outside the box. 8 00:00:49,565 --> 00:00:50,439 If someone had told me 9 00:00:50,481 --> 00:00:53,648 I'd play myself in a movie about my life, 10 00:00:53,690 --> 00:00:55,773 I'd have laughed. 11 00:00:55,815 --> 00:00:57,856 Thank god I did. 12 00:00:57,898 --> 00:01:00,148 I'd been off into the world. 13 00:01:00,189 --> 00:01:02,773 I have become more open to myself. 14 00:01:05,648 --> 00:01:09,523 Watch your step. ♪ Feeling change in the wind ♪ 15 00:01:09,565 --> 00:01:13,230 ♪ Golden fields, tall grass ♪ 16 00:01:13,272 --> 00:01:18,272 ♪ Find the sun here ♪ 17 00:01:19,147 --> 00:01:19,856 Watch out for the wall. 18 00:01:19,898 --> 00:01:21,397 Right here, Miss Birdsall? 19 00:01:21,439 --> 00:01:22,731 Yeah, right there in the middle. 20 00:01:22,773 --> 00:01:23,773 Okay. 21 00:01:25,648 --> 00:01:27,648 Have I transformed? 22 00:01:27,690 --> 00:01:28,856 Not really. 23 00:01:28,898 --> 00:01:32,106 I carry too much of my past with me. 24 00:01:32,147 --> 00:01:34,606 Am I free to be who I am? 25 00:01:34,648 --> 00:01:35,856 Yes. 26 00:01:35,898 --> 00:01:37,564 And with that, 27 00:01:37,606 --> 00:01:42,147 perhaps transformation isn't the central issue after all. 28 00:01:43,147 --> 00:01:48,106 ♪ Reimagine living this time ♪ 29 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:54,939 ♪ Looking back on where we've been ♪ 30 00:01:54,981 --> 00:01:59,648 ♪ We'll leave them all behind ♪ 31 00:01:59,690 --> 00:02:04,481 ♪ No one has a name for what we'll find ♪ 32 00:02:10,230 --> 00:02:11,648 You know, this is a transition thing 33 00:02:11,690 --> 00:02:14,188 for both of us, actually. 34 00:02:14,230 --> 00:02:14,939 Are you liking it there? 35 00:02:14,981 --> 00:02:17,856 Yes, it's beautiful here. 36 00:02:17,898 --> 00:02:19,564 It's really beautiful. 37 00:02:19,606 --> 00:02:21,439 I think this is a good move. 38 00:02:21,481 --> 00:02:22,814 If you need anything, 39 00:02:24,773 --> 00:02:26,439 let me know. 40 00:02:26,481 --> 00:02:29,773 Well, I really don't even think about that, you know. 41 00:02:29,815 --> 00:02:33,230 Between my age and my background. 42 00:02:33,272 --> 00:02:36,689 I'll be living alone the rest of my life, 43 00:02:36,731 --> 00:02:38,690 and that's okay, you know. 44 00:02:41,355 --> 00:02:42,898 That's, this is nice. 45 00:02:45,523 --> 00:02:47,272 I can learn to be me. 46 00:03:12,356 --> 00:03:13,356 Excuse me. 47 00:03:14,314 --> 00:03:15,314 Hi there. 48 00:03:16,731 --> 00:03:18,398 - Oh hi. - My name is Zoey, 49 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:19,981 and I live right down here. 50 00:03:20,023 --> 00:03:22,564 I wonder if I could ask you for a favor. 51 00:03:22,606 --> 00:03:23,606 Uh, okay. 52 00:03:25,481 --> 00:03:26,689 What kind of favor? 53 00:03:26,731 --> 00:03:28,523 Well, I have this problem. 54 00:03:28,565 --> 00:03:31,481 I can't reach the top shelf of my kitchen cabinets. 55 00:03:31,523 --> 00:03:34,356 And for some reason, best known to himself, 56 00:03:34,398 --> 00:03:35,731 when my son comes over, 57 00:03:35,773 --> 00:03:37,689 he puts everything up there, 58 00:03:37,731 --> 00:03:39,314 and he doesn't seem to realize 59 00:03:39,356 --> 00:03:41,523 that they're empty for a reason. 60 00:03:41,565 --> 00:03:42,814 He's got a tall wife, 61 00:03:42,856 --> 00:03:45,731 and he seems to forget that he has a short mom. 62 00:03:45,773 --> 00:03:48,648 So I was wondering if you could reach some stuff for me. 63 00:03:48,690 --> 00:03:49,690 Please. 64 00:03:50,606 --> 00:03:52,898 Okay, I'm Kate, by the way. 65 00:03:52,940 --> 00:03:54,856 It's nice to meet you. 66 00:03:54,898 --> 00:03:56,898 And this is my partner Max. 67 00:03:56,940 --> 00:03:59,063 - My best friend. - Hi Max. 68 00:03:59,105 --> 00:04:01,063 Okay let's go down here. 69 00:04:01,105 --> 00:04:02,105 Okay. 70 00:04:03,815 --> 00:04:04,606 I gotta tell you, 71 00:04:04,648 --> 00:04:07,439 I really admire that you're tall. 72 00:04:07,481 --> 00:04:09,939 As a matter of fact, I envy your height. 73 00:04:09,980 --> 00:04:12,564 It's very challenging to be this short. 74 00:04:12,606 --> 00:04:14,898 Oh, I would think so. 75 00:04:14,940 --> 00:04:16,564 Absolutely. 76 00:04:16,606 --> 00:04:18,898 But I don't think I'm gonna grow at this point. 77 00:04:18,940 --> 00:04:20,980 - I think. - Oh probably not. 78 00:04:21,022 --> 00:04:22,856 This is a great place to live. 79 00:04:22,898 --> 00:04:24,814 I think you're gonna like it here. 80 00:04:24,856 --> 00:04:27,356 Everybody cares about everyone else. 81 00:04:27,398 --> 00:04:29,398 It's like we're living among old people, 82 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:31,898 but we don't realize we're old. 83 00:04:31,940 --> 00:04:34,565 Who are all these old people? 84 00:04:36,856 --> 00:04:37,773 It's right over there. 85 00:04:37,815 --> 00:04:40,064 This cabinet on the top shelf. 86 00:04:42,064 --> 00:04:45,773 So didn't I see you at First Unitarian last week? 87 00:04:45,815 --> 00:04:47,648 No, I just moved in. 88 00:04:48,565 --> 00:04:50,648 Oh, where'd you come from? 89 00:04:50,690 --> 00:04:52,105 Laramie, Wyoming. 90 00:04:52,147 --> 00:04:53,606 Wow, Wyoming. 91 00:04:54,939 --> 00:04:56,856 Does everyone dress like that in Wyoming? 92 00:04:56,898 --> 00:04:58,856 No, most people wear jeans. 93 00:04:58,898 --> 00:05:01,606 Well, that's pretty unique, I'll say that. 94 00:05:01,648 --> 00:05:03,898 - Okay. - Thanks a lot, you know? 95 00:05:03,939 --> 00:05:05,081 I keep meaning to get a stool, 96 00:05:05,105 --> 00:05:06,689 and I keep forgetting. 97 00:05:06,731 --> 00:05:08,314 But now with neighbors like you, 98 00:05:08,356 --> 00:05:10,398 who needs a stool, right? 99 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,898 Right, well, I'm glad to help. 100 00:05:12,939 --> 00:05:14,356 Well how about sticking around 101 00:05:14,398 --> 00:05:15,731 and having a cup of tea? 102 00:05:15,773 --> 00:05:18,022 - I have, I have... - Oh come on, come on come on. 103 00:05:18,064 --> 00:05:19,481 Just say yes. 104 00:05:19,523 --> 00:05:21,731 It's just a cup of tea, no commitment. 105 00:05:21,773 --> 00:05:23,564 Okay, yeah, sure. 106 00:05:23,606 --> 00:05:25,398 Okay, let me get some. 107 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,481 How about some cheese and crackers with that? 108 00:05:27,523 --> 00:05:28,690 Oh, alright. 109 00:05:32,690 --> 00:05:33,938 Mm, now that I think of it, 110 00:05:33,980 --> 00:05:36,523 how about some wine instead? 111 00:05:37,648 --> 00:05:38,731 Sure, why not? 112 00:05:38,773 --> 00:05:41,148 You know, one of the good things about getting old 113 00:05:41,190 --> 00:05:44,356 is that we can drink whenever we want. 114 00:05:44,398 --> 00:05:46,148 We don't have to ask anyone's permissions. 115 00:05:46,190 --> 00:05:47,773 Oh that's plenty. 116 00:05:47,815 --> 00:05:48,856 Thank you. 117 00:05:50,606 --> 00:05:52,398 - Cheers. - Cheers. 118 00:05:56,980 --> 00:05:58,814 So did you come here alone, Kate? 119 00:05:58,856 --> 00:05:59,938 I did. 120 00:05:59,980 --> 00:06:02,856 My partner died four years ago. 121 00:06:02,897 --> 00:06:04,814 I'm really sorry to hear that. 122 00:06:04,856 --> 00:06:06,897 Well yeah, thanks. 123 00:06:08,064 --> 00:06:09,606 But you know, 124 00:06:09,648 --> 00:06:13,481 just in case you might be interested, 125 00:06:13,523 --> 00:06:15,022 I know a lot of single people. 126 00:06:15,064 --> 00:06:17,855 Oh, I don't need that. 127 00:06:17,897 --> 00:06:19,897 Thank you very much. 128 00:06:19,939 --> 00:06:21,731 Well, amen to that. 129 00:06:21,773 --> 00:06:23,189 Have some more wine, Kate. 130 00:06:23,231 --> 00:06:25,189 It's good for you. 131 00:06:27,897 --> 00:06:28,897 Cheers. 132 00:06:28,939 --> 00:06:32,063 Cheers. 133 00:06:39,939 --> 00:06:43,938 ♪ Riding 'round roads I know ♪ 134 00:06:43,980 --> 00:06:48,231 ♪ Feeling change in the wind ♪ 135 00:06:48,273 --> 00:06:52,648 ♪ Golden fields, tall grass ♪ 136 00:06:57,939 --> 00:07:01,189 I had become friends with Albert in fourth grade. 137 00:07:01,231 --> 00:07:02,481 He was my age, 138 00:07:02,523 --> 00:07:03,897 and lived in a brown brick house 139 00:07:03,939 --> 00:07:07,231 on the other end of the next block. 140 00:07:07,273 --> 00:07:09,481 This was the 1950s, 141 00:07:09,523 --> 00:07:12,897 a time when people didn't talk about their bodies. 142 00:07:12,939 --> 00:07:15,731 And my family certainly didn't. 143 00:07:17,148 --> 00:07:20,855 ♪ Imagine me, imagine you ♪ 144 00:07:28,231 --> 00:07:30,231 Hey Danny, here it is. 145 00:07:34,606 --> 00:07:35,855 Said you liked 'em. 146 00:07:35,897 --> 00:07:36,980 That's real neat. 147 00:07:37,022 --> 00:07:38,481 My uncle has one. 148 00:07:57,606 --> 00:08:00,106 ♪ Without your love ♪ 149 00:08:50,939 --> 00:08:51,939 Hey. 150 00:08:57,023 --> 00:08:58,565 What are you doing? 151 00:09:04,315 --> 00:09:06,148 Why did you take that? 152 00:09:13,981 --> 00:09:15,813 Think it's pretty? 153 00:09:15,855 --> 00:09:16,855 Mm-hmm. 154 00:09:20,023 --> 00:09:22,148 What do you like about it? 155 00:09:23,148 --> 00:09:25,730 I like the color, patterns. 156 00:09:29,023 --> 00:09:30,106 It's beautiful. 157 00:09:43,897 --> 00:09:47,064 That's why I like playing down here so much. 158 00:09:47,106 --> 00:09:48,190 There's more. 159 00:10:21,981 --> 00:10:22,981 It's okay. 160 00:10:31,148 --> 00:10:35,855 What's the name? 161 00:10:38,231 --> 00:10:41,106 Thank you for inviting me to this, Zoey. 162 00:10:41,148 --> 00:10:45,315 Any time, Kate. 163 00:11:01,273 --> 00:11:05,023 ♪ As I went down to the river to pray ♪ 164 00:11:05,065 --> 00:11:08,314 ♪ Studying about that good old way ♪ 165 00:11:08,356 --> 00:11:12,064 ♪ And who shall wear the starry crown ♪ 166 00:11:12,106 --> 00:11:16,148 ♪ Good lord, show me the way ♪ 167 00:11:16,190 --> 00:11:19,688 ♪ O sisters, let's go down ♪ 168 00:11:19,730 --> 00:11:23,398 ♪ Let's go down, come on down ♪ 169 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:27,148 ♪ O sisters, let's go down ♪ 170 00:11:27,190 --> 00:11:32,023 ♪ Down to the river to pray ♪ 171 00:11:32,065 --> 00:11:35,772 ♪ As I went down to the river to pray ♪ 172 00:11:35,814 --> 00:11:39,730 ♪ Studying about that good old way ♪ 173 00:11:54,231 --> 00:11:55,898 Thanks for coming. 174 00:11:55,940 --> 00:11:58,106 - That was so nice. - Yeah. 175 00:11:58,148 --> 00:11:59,023 - Thank you. - That music 176 00:11:59,065 --> 00:11:59,939 was just wonderful. 177 00:11:59,981 --> 00:12:01,898 I saw Sue this morning. 178 00:12:01,940 --> 00:12:03,273 They're back from their trip. 179 00:12:03,315 --> 00:12:04,231 Oh, where'd they go this time? 180 00:12:04,273 --> 00:12:05,356 I forget. 181 00:12:05,398 --> 00:12:06,730 Montana, doesn't matter. 182 00:12:06,772 --> 00:12:09,148 I have to tell you something. 183 00:12:09,190 --> 00:12:12,898 Well, before they went on their trip, 184 00:12:12,940 --> 00:12:14,398 John and I got together, 185 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,190 and we went hiking. 186 00:12:18,273 --> 00:12:20,064 It was wonderful. 187 00:12:20,106 --> 00:12:22,273 We had this fabulous trip, 188 00:12:23,605 --> 00:12:26,772 and we stopped at this perfect spot. 189 00:12:28,398 --> 00:12:32,231 And well, it proceeded and let me tell you, 190 00:12:32,273 --> 00:12:34,273 John has a lot of stamina. 191 00:12:36,106 --> 00:12:38,231 There we were, you know. 192 00:12:38,273 --> 00:12:40,314 Really going at it. 193 00:12:40,356 --> 00:12:41,563 Good grief, woman. 194 00:12:41,605 --> 00:12:43,064 Don't you know you're not supposed 195 00:12:43,106 --> 00:12:45,273 to put your paws on some other woman's husband? 196 00:12:45,315 --> 00:12:47,231 No, he's not married. 197 00:12:47,273 --> 00:12:49,398 Well, then have at it. 198 00:12:49,440 --> 00:12:51,898 You will, anyway. 199 00:12:51,940 --> 00:12:53,814 Oh, Andrea. 200 00:12:55,148 --> 00:12:56,314 Hi. 201 00:12:56,356 --> 00:12:57,314 - That was gorgeous. - Oh thank you. 202 00:12:57,356 --> 00:12:58,374 - Just gorgeous. - Thank you, 203 00:12:58,398 --> 00:12:59,856 thanks very much. 204 00:12:59,898 --> 00:13:01,356 We have some new people. 205 00:13:01,398 --> 00:13:03,273 Yeah, I thought I saw some new faces over here. 206 00:13:03,315 --> 00:13:04,438 Do you know Zoey? 207 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:06,023 No, no, hi Zoey. 208 00:13:06,065 --> 00:13:07,106 Hi, nice to meet you. 209 00:13:07,148 --> 00:13:08,023 Nice to meet you, too. 210 00:13:08,065 --> 00:13:09,480 And this is Kate. 211 00:13:10,439 --> 00:13:11,563 Hi Kate. 212 00:13:11,605 --> 00:13:12,438 Hi Andrea. 213 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:13,273 Nice to meet you. 214 00:13:13,315 --> 00:13:15,189 Oh, my pleasure. 215 00:13:15,231 --> 00:13:16,456 - Please stay, have a seat. - Come on, have a seat. 216 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:18,189 - Join us. - Oh we want to see you. 217 00:13:18,231 --> 00:13:19,981 - Alright. - Have a seat, have a seat. 218 00:13:20,023 --> 00:13:21,023 Meet Kate. 219 00:13:21,065 --> 00:13:24,563 Your public wants you. 220 00:13:24,605 --> 00:13:25,898 Really nice evening, huh? 221 00:13:25,940 --> 00:13:27,106 Yeah, yeah, 222 00:13:27,148 --> 00:13:29,398 it's been a really great evening. 223 00:13:34,356 --> 00:13:36,647 So, I haven't seen you 224 00:13:36,689 --> 00:13:39,314 at one of our concerts before. 225 00:13:39,356 --> 00:13:42,356 Oh yeah, I just moved to Portland. 226 00:13:43,605 --> 00:13:45,356 You were great, by the way. 227 00:13:45,397 --> 00:13:46,480 Oh, thanks. 228 00:13:48,023 --> 00:13:49,480 Maybe you'd like to join us sometime. 229 00:13:49,522 --> 00:13:53,273 Oh no, I ruined my voice years ago. 230 00:13:53,315 --> 00:13:54,939 You don't want to hear me sing. 231 00:13:54,981 --> 00:13:58,273 Oh well, if you ever change your mind, 232 00:13:59,273 --> 00:14:00,522 come on over. 233 00:14:00,564 --> 00:14:01,940 Okay. 234 00:14:02,564 --> 00:14:05,148 So, I noticed you. 235 00:14:05,190 --> 00:14:08,356 I've been admiring your earrings and your necklace. 236 00:14:08,397 --> 00:14:09,273 It's very pretty. 237 00:14:09,315 --> 00:14:10,939 Thank you. 238 00:14:10,981 --> 00:14:14,064 I was afraid maybe I'd dressed too loud for the occasion. 239 00:14:14,106 --> 00:14:15,106 No, no. 240 00:14:15,898 --> 00:14:18,065 Anything goes around here. 241 00:14:19,023 --> 00:14:20,231 So, no problem. 242 00:14:21,356 --> 00:14:23,898 Have you lived in Portland long? 243 00:14:23,940 --> 00:14:25,397 Yeah, I have. 244 00:14:25,439 --> 00:14:28,189 How many years has it been now? 245 00:14:28,231 --> 00:14:29,355 42 years. 246 00:14:29,397 --> 00:14:30,397 Oh wow. 247 00:14:30,439 --> 00:14:31,355 Yeah. 248 00:14:31,397 --> 00:14:32,397 Almost a native. 249 00:14:37,273 --> 00:14:41,106 So what are those guys talking about? 250 00:14:41,148 --> 00:14:43,023 I really don't know them. 251 00:14:43,065 --> 00:14:44,273 You don't know them? 252 00:14:48,690 --> 00:14:52,438 - My favorite subject. - Yeah. 253 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:53,981 They seem to be enjoying themselves. 254 00:14:54,023 --> 00:14:56,438 They do seem to be enjoying themselves. 255 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:57,522 I am too. 256 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:00,397 Oh yeah, me too. 257 00:15:00,439 --> 00:15:02,689 Feeling a little shy, though. 258 00:15:02,731 --> 00:15:05,106 Oh, yeah, me too. 259 00:15:10,439 --> 00:15:12,397 Is Lilly always that way? 260 00:15:12,439 --> 00:15:14,355 - Yeah. - Oh. 261 00:15:16,355 --> 00:15:18,106 When we met the other day, 262 00:15:18,148 --> 00:15:21,689 I thought to myself, what an interesting person. 263 00:15:21,731 --> 00:15:25,397 I'd really like to get to know her. 264 00:15:25,439 --> 00:15:27,189 Oh. 265 00:15:27,231 --> 00:15:30,564 Well, I don't know how interesting I am. 266 00:15:33,106 --> 00:15:37,231 So, Lilly told me you'd been in the Coast Guard. 267 00:15:37,273 --> 00:15:38,355 I was. 268 00:15:38,397 --> 00:15:40,397 - 21 years. - Wow. 269 00:15:40,439 --> 00:15:41,231 I was in the Army, too. 270 00:15:41,273 --> 00:15:44,438 But I liked the Coast Guard, better. 271 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,231 Must have been interesting to be out there 272 00:15:46,273 --> 00:15:48,273 on a ship with all those guys. 273 00:15:48,314 --> 00:15:49,648 Ha, well. 274 00:15:50,731 --> 00:15:53,731 Most of my stations were on shore. 275 00:15:53,773 --> 00:15:56,438 So what brought you to Portland? 276 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:58,438 Well, I wanted to be closer to my daughter. 277 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:00,314 She's up in Olympia. 278 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:02,272 I wanted to be able to see her 279 00:16:02,314 --> 00:16:04,148 more than once a year. 280 00:16:05,439 --> 00:16:09,272 I think I also wanted to be in a bigger place. 281 00:16:10,522 --> 00:16:12,272 So you're starting over. 282 00:16:12,314 --> 00:16:15,355 Yep, 68 years old. 283 00:16:15,397 --> 00:16:18,314 It took me a long time to get here. 284 00:16:22,606 --> 00:16:24,689 Oh gosh, after my divorce, 285 00:16:24,731 --> 00:16:26,606 I moved to Portland. 286 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:29,814 And I worked as a librarian, 287 00:16:29,856 --> 00:16:32,313 for 15, maybe 20 years. 288 00:16:32,355 --> 00:16:34,313 And then I started my own business. 289 00:16:34,355 --> 00:16:35,522 And here I am. 290 00:16:37,106 --> 00:16:39,480 Well, it seems funny that we can 291 00:16:39,522 --> 00:16:42,606 sum up our lives in just a few sentences. 292 00:16:42,648 --> 00:16:44,023 Yeah. 293 00:16:44,065 --> 00:16:45,707 We all know that there's more to it than that, 294 00:16:45,731 --> 00:16:48,148 - but, yeah. - Yeah. 295 00:16:48,190 --> 00:16:50,564 We've lived long lives, Kate. 296 00:16:50,606 --> 00:16:51,606 Yep. 297 00:16:54,355 --> 00:16:56,397 This is a nice place you got here. 298 00:16:56,439 --> 00:16:57,313 Well thanks. 299 00:16:57,355 --> 00:16:59,189 Do you have it all to yourself? 300 00:16:59,230 --> 00:17:00,272 Yeah, I do. 301 00:17:01,148 --> 00:17:02,523 I don't have any roommates, 302 00:17:02,565 --> 00:17:04,481 and I don't have a boyfriend. 303 00:17:04,523 --> 00:17:07,355 Just some good girlfriends and my business. 304 00:17:07,397 --> 00:17:12,064 Yeah, sometimes relationships can get so complicated. 305 00:17:12,106 --> 00:17:13,313 You want to live life. 306 00:17:13,355 --> 00:17:15,689 I want to live life. 307 00:17:15,731 --> 00:17:18,397 Well, I hope you do. 308 00:17:20,731 --> 00:17:25,439 You're so cute. 309 00:17:25,481 --> 00:17:26,773 You're pretty cute yourself. 310 00:17:26,815 --> 00:17:30,272 Oh thanks. 311 00:17:47,230 --> 00:17:48,397 Hello? 312 00:17:48,439 --> 00:17:51,188 Oh hi, Kate, this is Andrea. 313 00:17:51,230 --> 00:17:52,689 Oh, Andrea. 314 00:17:52,731 --> 00:17:54,188 Good morning. 315 00:17:54,230 --> 00:17:55,689 Hi. 316 00:17:55,731 --> 00:17:58,523 I hope I didn't wake you up. 317 00:17:58,565 --> 00:17:59,773 Oh, no. I'm up. 318 00:18:01,940 --> 00:18:03,313 I was thinking about 319 00:18:03,355 --> 00:18:06,648 going shopping today for some clothes, 320 00:18:06,690 --> 00:18:09,606 and I wondered if you'd like to go with me. 321 00:18:09,648 --> 00:18:11,272 Oh, yeah, sure. 322 00:18:13,481 --> 00:18:15,689 Okay. 323 00:18:15,731 --> 00:18:16,648 I could get some things too. 324 00:18:16,690 --> 00:18:19,230 Well don't sound too excited. 325 00:18:19,272 --> 00:18:21,564 Oh no, I'd like to go with you. 326 00:18:21,606 --> 00:18:23,773 It sounds like fun. 327 00:18:23,815 --> 00:18:25,564 Well you get your breakfast, 328 00:18:25,606 --> 00:18:28,398 and I'll pick you up a little after noon. 329 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:29,731 Okay, okay, bye. 330 00:18:31,648 --> 00:18:32,856 Bye. 331 00:18:44,230 --> 00:18:45,648 How do you think that works? 332 00:18:45,690 --> 00:18:47,898 It's nice, I like it. 333 00:18:47,940 --> 00:18:48,940 Alright. 334 00:18:50,940 --> 00:18:52,648 I liked it, too. 335 00:18:58,314 --> 00:19:00,272 Well here's one I think 336 00:19:00,314 --> 00:19:01,731 really delivers your message. 337 00:19:05,355 --> 00:19:07,606 Wow, classy and feminine. 338 00:19:29,690 --> 00:19:33,690 Well, I always thought clothes made the woman. 339 00:19:39,815 --> 00:19:42,272 Puberty can be tough. 340 00:19:42,314 --> 00:19:45,773 Getting the wrong puberty can be even worse. 341 00:19:47,398 --> 00:19:50,606 And if you don't have people around you who understand, 342 00:19:50,648 --> 00:19:52,481 it can be devastating. 343 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:01,773 I made dinner. 344 00:20:02,690 --> 00:20:04,356 Looks nice. 345 00:20:12,272 --> 00:20:13,356 How is it? 346 00:20:13,398 --> 00:20:14,565 Really good. 347 00:20:15,731 --> 00:20:16,815 It's perfect. 348 00:20:19,690 --> 00:20:20,690 No, let me. 349 00:20:35,773 --> 00:20:36,773 Thank you. 350 00:21:27,898 --> 00:21:29,315 Are you okay? 351 00:21:30,815 --> 00:21:31,815 I'm fine. 352 00:21:37,147 --> 00:21:38,147 No. 353 00:21:38,815 --> 00:21:40,523 Something's wrong. 354 00:21:43,105 --> 00:21:44,356 Not really. 355 00:21:48,356 --> 00:21:49,356 Sorry. 356 00:21:53,939 --> 00:21:55,565 Give me some more. 357 00:22:24,523 --> 00:22:25,523 Al? 358 00:22:56,815 --> 00:22:57,815 Al. 359 00:23:00,565 --> 00:23:02,897 Your father's on his way home. 360 00:23:02,939 --> 00:23:05,897 So you two should get cleaned up. 361 00:23:40,897 --> 00:23:43,022 Why didn't you tell me? 362 00:23:43,064 --> 00:23:44,440 You're moving? 363 00:23:46,855 --> 00:23:49,439 My dad told me you're moving. 364 00:23:49,481 --> 00:23:51,190 Why didn't you tell me? 365 00:23:52,148 --> 00:23:54,148 I didn't know, either. 366 00:23:55,523 --> 00:23:58,939 Not until my mother told me like a week ago. 367 00:24:02,939 --> 00:24:05,690 But, my dad got a job in Indiana. 368 00:24:07,106 --> 00:24:08,939 So we have to go, too. 369 00:24:11,022 --> 00:24:12,064 I'm sorry. 370 00:24:16,106 --> 00:24:20,481 I'm never gonna have a friend like you again, am I? 371 00:24:35,897 --> 00:24:36,897 Listen. 372 00:24:40,731 --> 00:24:43,980 They're gonna tear the house down. 373 00:24:44,022 --> 00:24:45,065 So... 374 00:24:49,065 --> 00:24:51,772 Let's go downstairs one more time. 375 00:24:51,814 --> 00:24:54,648 Okay. 376 00:25:39,106 --> 00:25:40,730 Albert was leaving. 377 00:25:40,772 --> 00:25:44,023 His house was getting torn down for the freeway. 378 00:25:44,065 --> 00:25:48,023 Our secret haven was being taken away. 379 00:25:48,065 --> 00:25:49,730 It's just so unfair. 380 00:26:38,106 --> 00:26:42,065 ♪ I think myself a lucky man ♪ 381 00:26:54,106 --> 00:26:57,106 I never saw Albert again. 382 00:26:57,148 --> 00:26:59,398 And it would be more than 50 years 383 00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:01,106 before I told anyone 384 00:27:01,148 --> 00:27:03,273 about playing in his basement. 385 00:27:08,315 --> 00:27:10,189 Over the winter of 1983, 386 00:27:10,231 --> 00:27:12,939 I was an engineer in the Coast Guard. 387 00:27:12,981 --> 00:27:14,231 I was divorced, 388 00:27:14,273 --> 00:27:16,148 and my daughter Casey was nine, 389 00:27:16,190 --> 00:27:17,813 living with her mother. 390 00:27:17,855 --> 00:27:19,398 I was alone and lonely, 391 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:20,772 and I had begun to dress 392 00:27:20,814 --> 00:27:22,439 in women's clothes in private 393 00:27:22,481 --> 00:27:24,148 to comfort myself. 394 00:28:57,856 --> 00:29:01,814 ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪ 395 00:29:01,856 --> 00:29:05,981 ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪ 396 00:29:06,023 --> 00:29:11,023 ♪ Happy birthday dear Andrea ♪ 397 00:29:12,148 --> 00:29:17,148 ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪ 398 00:29:18,273 --> 00:29:21,439 ♪ And many more ♪ 399 00:29:23,148 --> 00:29:25,023 Make a wish! 400 00:29:26,356 --> 00:29:28,856 Oh yes! 401 00:29:28,898 --> 00:29:30,189 Happy birthday! 402 00:29:30,231 --> 00:29:33,231 ♪ Father and child ♪ 403 00:29:33,273 --> 00:29:38,273 ♪ Holy infant so tender and mild ♪ 404 00:29:39,940 --> 00:29:44,940 ♪ Sleep in heavenly peace ♪ 405 00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,981 ♪ Sleep in heavenly ♪ 406 00:29:48,023 --> 00:29:49,314 When I met Linda, 407 00:29:49,356 --> 00:29:51,231 I saw that she liked her wine, 408 00:29:51,273 --> 00:29:53,273 but didn't think much about it. 409 00:29:53,315 --> 00:29:57,189 Her father and older brother were alcoholics. 410 00:29:57,231 --> 00:30:00,189 And Linda was okay with my cross-dressing. 411 00:30:00,231 --> 00:30:01,356 At least at first. 412 00:30:01,398 --> 00:30:03,314 How are the potatoes? 413 00:30:03,356 --> 00:30:05,148 - They're good. - Yeah? 414 00:30:05,190 --> 00:30:06,398 Just right. 415 00:30:06,439 --> 00:30:08,273 I made 'em the way you like 'em. 416 00:30:08,315 --> 00:30:11,189 She was jealous of the other woman. 417 00:30:11,231 --> 00:30:13,939 Even though that was me. 418 00:30:13,981 --> 00:30:16,480 Oh, you're probably really tired, huh? 419 00:30:16,522 --> 00:30:18,231 I don't really get that. 420 00:30:18,273 --> 00:30:21,314 When people are tired after traveling. 421 00:30:21,356 --> 00:30:23,605 All I did was sit on a train. 422 00:30:27,315 --> 00:30:31,314 Well, you must be looking forward to Christmas. 423 00:30:31,356 --> 00:30:32,273 Excited about it? 424 00:30:32,315 --> 00:30:33,397 Not really. 425 00:30:33,439 --> 00:30:36,438 I can't fit my presents in my suitcase. 426 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,605 So I can't take them home. 427 00:30:40,273 --> 00:30:42,563 Well, maybe that's okay. 428 00:30:42,605 --> 00:30:45,148 Maybe they'll just be here for you 429 00:30:45,190 --> 00:30:47,648 when you come to visit. 430 00:30:47,690 --> 00:30:49,314 What do you mean? 431 00:30:49,356 --> 00:30:50,981 Well, we were thinking that 432 00:30:51,023 --> 00:30:52,148 if you had your own room 433 00:30:52,190 --> 00:30:53,480 and some of your own things, 434 00:30:53,522 --> 00:30:57,231 that maybe you'd feel more comfortable to come visit, 435 00:30:57,273 --> 00:30:59,356 maybe a little more often. 436 00:30:59,397 --> 00:31:00,397 Oh. 437 00:31:02,273 --> 00:31:03,623 You know, your father wanted to get you something 438 00:31:03,647 --> 00:31:05,397 really special, 439 00:31:05,439 --> 00:31:08,314 and we thought you'd like it. 440 00:31:08,355 --> 00:31:09,522 You know, when I was little, 441 00:31:09,564 --> 00:31:13,480 I was lucky to get a good job from my parents once a year, 442 00:31:13,522 --> 00:31:15,522 much less a new bicycle. 443 00:31:17,397 --> 00:31:19,315 You should be grateful. 444 00:31:23,397 --> 00:31:24,397 Casey. 445 00:31:26,231 --> 00:31:28,064 Oh, just let her cool down, Dan. 446 00:31:28,106 --> 00:31:31,940 She's just tired. 447 00:31:33,605 --> 00:31:36,231 What are you doing? 448 00:31:36,273 --> 00:31:38,355 You said yourself that divorce is hard on children. 449 00:31:38,397 --> 00:31:42,898 But she doesn't need to punish you for it. 450 00:31:42,940 --> 00:31:46,355 You just, you let me handle this, okay? 451 00:31:50,355 --> 00:31:54,522 ♪ Merry merry merry Christmas ♪ 452 00:31:55,439 --> 00:31:57,606 Casey, this is hard on both of us. 453 00:31:57,648 --> 00:32:00,606 Can we just try to not make it worse? 454 00:32:01,981 --> 00:32:03,564 I came here to see you, 455 00:32:03,606 --> 00:32:05,940 not your wino girlfriend! 456 00:32:38,773 --> 00:32:40,397 Fly like an eagle. 457 00:32:40,439 --> 00:32:42,106 Just like an eagle. 458 00:32:42,148 --> 00:32:44,564 What are you watching? 459 00:32:44,606 --> 00:32:47,355 Oh it's just this old cop show. 460 00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:50,480 I like these. 461 00:32:52,148 --> 00:32:53,166 Justice, loyal, and German soldiers. 462 00:32:53,190 --> 00:32:54,397 Any prisoner here is- 463 00:32:54,439 --> 00:32:56,064 - You want to watch something else? 464 00:32:56,106 --> 00:32:57,439 No, this is fine. 465 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:07,606 Why'd you leave? 466 00:33:15,272 --> 00:33:16,272 Well, 467 00:33:18,690 --> 00:33:19,690 sweetie. 468 00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:23,648 Your mother and I, 469 00:33:23,690 --> 00:33:26,481 we decided that we would, 470 00:33:26,523 --> 00:33:29,230 well, it'd be better for you, 471 00:33:29,272 --> 00:33:31,189 and it'd be better for her, 472 00:33:31,230 --> 00:33:32,564 if you stayed. 473 00:33:32,606 --> 00:33:36,190 Well you know, your school, your friends. 474 00:33:40,190 --> 00:33:42,439 But why did you leave me? 475 00:33:45,148 --> 00:33:46,148 Sweetie, 476 00:33:48,731 --> 00:33:51,355 I wish it had been different. 477 00:33:56,189 --> 00:33:57,648 I don't know, hon. 478 00:33:59,523 --> 00:34:01,148 It's just, I'm sorry. 479 00:34:02,731 --> 00:34:04,481 I am Major Hoffman. 480 00:34:04,523 --> 00:34:06,355 Of the funeral staff. 481 00:34:06,397 --> 00:34:07,606 Oh you are? 482 00:34:07,648 --> 00:34:10,523 And why didn't you bring your funeral with you? 483 00:34:14,230 --> 00:34:15,523 Were my relationships difficult 484 00:34:15,565 --> 00:34:18,188 because I didn't know who I was? 485 00:34:18,230 --> 00:34:20,065 Couldn't be who I was. 486 00:34:21,230 --> 00:34:24,188 Or did I just not know how to love another? 487 00:34:24,230 --> 00:34:27,397 When I didn't know how to love myself. 488 00:34:29,523 --> 00:34:32,230 It was fun spending time with your friends. 489 00:34:32,272 --> 00:34:33,564 Thanks for including me. 490 00:34:33,606 --> 00:34:34,689 Oh, you're welcome. 491 00:34:34,731 --> 00:34:36,355 I'm glad you could come over. 492 00:34:36,397 --> 00:34:37,272 They're fun. 493 00:34:37,314 --> 00:34:38,731 Yeah, they are. 494 00:34:42,690 --> 00:34:44,606 So this is on me. 495 00:34:44,648 --> 00:34:45,689 - Yeah? - Yeah. 496 00:34:45,731 --> 00:34:47,230 You don't have to do that. 497 00:34:47,272 --> 00:34:48,523 I want to. 498 00:34:48,565 --> 00:34:51,230 Okay, well I'll get the next time. 499 00:34:51,272 --> 00:34:52,272 Okay. 500 00:34:54,272 --> 00:34:57,272 So what sounds good to you? 501 00:34:57,314 --> 00:35:01,106 If I get the dead guy wings, will you share with me? 502 00:35:01,147 --> 00:35:02,648 No. 503 00:35:02,690 --> 00:35:04,731 No, that's entirely too messy. 504 00:35:04,773 --> 00:35:06,398 Oh, yeah. 505 00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:07,564 You could get 'em. 506 00:35:07,606 --> 00:35:10,230 Yeah, but you're probably right. 507 00:35:10,272 --> 00:35:11,690 Maybe I'll get the, 508 00:35:12,981 --> 00:35:14,773 well, I don't know. 509 00:35:19,397 --> 00:35:20,439 Casey's coming soon. 510 00:35:20,481 --> 00:35:23,648 I'd love for you to meet her. 511 00:35:23,690 --> 00:35:26,606 I would very much like to meet her, too. 512 00:35:26,648 --> 00:35:28,147 She sounds like a wonderful girl. 513 00:35:28,189 --> 00:35:29,606 Oh, I think so. 514 00:35:29,648 --> 00:35:31,731 I'm very lucky. 515 00:35:31,773 --> 00:35:34,898 Are you still in touch with Casey's... 516 00:35:40,690 --> 00:35:41,690 I... 517 00:35:45,189 --> 00:35:46,481 Not very often. 518 00:35:47,731 --> 00:35:51,230 They were with me through the tough times. 519 00:35:54,815 --> 00:35:56,189 We're friends. 520 00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:58,606 That's nice. 521 00:36:02,523 --> 00:36:05,648 So, since we're telling each other stories 522 00:36:05,690 --> 00:36:08,773 about our past relationships, 523 00:36:08,815 --> 00:36:11,856 I'll tell you about my first marriage. 524 00:36:11,898 --> 00:36:14,272 It was really quite awful. 525 00:36:18,731 --> 00:36:19,648 A couple years into it, 526 00:36:19,690 --> 00:36:21,356 I met another teacher, 527 00:36:21,398 --> 00:36:22,940 and we had an affair. 528 00:36:24,648 --> 00:36:25,957 Turned out to be seven of the nine years 529 00:36:25,981 --> 00:36:27,773 that I was married. 530 00:36:29,648 --> 00:36:30,689 When I was 29, 531 00:36:30,731 --> 00:36:33,648 I realized that I couldn't stay married to two guys 532 00:36:33,690 --> 00:36:35,690 for the rest of my life. 533 00:36:36,940 --> 00:36:41,648 And so, I divorced 'em both and moved to Oregon. 534 00:36:41,690 --> 00:36:43,440 Oh, good for you. 535 00:36:44,940 --> 00:36:47,314 Well, that was a long time ago. 536 00:36:47,356 --> 00:36:48,606 Yeah, it was. 537 00:36:50,815 --> 00:36:53,814 You know, I think we make 538 00:36:53,856 --> 00:36:56,356 the best decisions that we can at the time. 539 00:36:56,398 --> 00:36:57,689 Yeah. 540 00:36:57,731 --> 00:37:00,856 And they end up being our stories. 541 00:37:02,398 --> 00:37:03,689 And without them, 542 00:37:03,731 --> 00:37:06,481 we wouldn't be where we are now. 543 00:37:06,523 --> 00:37:07,690 That's true. 544 00:37:08,856 --> 00:37:11,731 I like where we are today. 545 00:37:12,940 --> 00:37:14,565 Yeah, I do too. 546 00:37:16,565 --> 00:37:19,398 I'll just get my keys. 547 00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:20,898 After we'd lived in Laramie 548 00:37:20,940 --> 00:37:22,773 for a couple of years, 549 00:37:22,815 --> 00:37:24,731 Linda got sick. 550 00:37:24,773 --> 00:37:26,856 Now, I'll be right back. 551 00:37:26,898 --> 00:37:30,898 The diagnosis was that it was terminal. 552 00:37:31,856 --> 00:37:34,439 Unless she could stop drinking. 553 00:37:34,481 --> 00:37:37,022 After several tries, she gave up, 554 00:37:37,064 --> 00:37:38,815 resigned to her fate. 555 00:37:51,773 --> 00:37:52,773 Oh... 556 00:38:01,815 --> 00:38:02,648 Where is it, where is it, 557 00:38:02,690 --> 00:38:04,040 where is it, where is it, where is it? 558 00:38:04,064 --> 00:38:08,606 God damn it! 559 00:38:09,856 --> 00:38:12,898 No no, no no, no no no no no no no, no no. 560 00:38:16,565 --> 00:38:18,022 Where is the opener? 561 00:38:18,980 --> 00:38:20,398 I threw it away. 562 00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:21,791 Well then I'll just push the cork down. 563 00:38:21,815 --> 00:38:22,815 I've done it plenty! 564 00:38:22,856 --> 00:38:24,856 That's pathetic! 565 00:38:24,898 --> 00:38:26,606 You're pathetic! 566 00:38:28,481 --> 00:38:31,731 What would Casey think if she knew about you? 567 00:38:31,773 --> 00:38:34,938 If she knew you liked to wear women's clothes! 568 00:38:34,980 --> 00:38:36,582 - You're killing yourself! - I bet she'd love 569 00:38:36,606 --> 00:38:37,773 to know that! 570 00:38:37,815 --> 00:38:40,856 Linda, you are killing yourself. 571 00:38:42,105 --> 00:38:43,105 You are. 572 00:39:45,190 --> 00:39:46,938 As she became sicker, 573 00:39:46,980 --> 00:39:50,523 I had to spend more and more time taking care of her. 574 00:39:50,565 --> 00:39:51,897 She resented that. 575 00:40:08,980 --> 00:40:09,897 Is it too hot? 576 00:40:09,939 --> 00:40:11,022 Well it's, a little bit. 577 00:40:11,064 --> 00:40:12,980 - It'll be okay. - Okay. 578 00:41:03,231 --> 00:41:04,231 Thank you. 579 00:41:15,690 --> 00:41:18,648 After Linda died in '07, 580 00:41:18,690 --> 00:41:21,772 I worked to put my life back together. 581 00:41:21,814 --> 00:41:23,938 She and I had been good together, 582 00:41:23,980 --> 00:41:28,855 but her decline had stretched me all too close to breaking. 583 00:41:28,897 --> 00:41:30,314 I blamed her and her drinking 584 00:41:30,356 --> 00:41:33,606 for the misery of the last few years. 585 00:41:33,648 --> 00:41:38,022 And I blamed myself for my inadequacies in helping her. 586 00:41:57,690 --> 00:41:59,897 Your succulents are fake. 587 00:42:08,148 --> 00:42:10,148 I'm sorry for your loss. 588 00:42:14,148 --> 00:42:17,314 I don't know what to say at these things. 589 00:42:17,356 --> 00:42:19,148 It's okay, Bruce. 590 00:42:22,648 --> 00:42:24,106 She was too young. 591 00:42:26,231 --> 00:42:28,897 But, you're gonna feel better. 592 00:42:31,939 --> 00:42:33,689 You're gonna be okay. 593 00:42:36,023 --> 00:42:38,189 Thank you, it's nice of you to say that. 594 00:42:38,231 --> 00:42:40,065 I needed to hear it. 595 00:42:44,065 --> 00:42:47,106 Oh, and thank you for all of your help today. 596 00:42:47,148 --> 00:42:49,648 And if you need anything else, you know, 597 00:42:49,689 --> 00:42:51,065 I'll do whatever. 598 00:42:52,065 --> 00:42:53,814 Right, thank you. 599 00:42:55,939 --> 00:42:57,398 Thanks for coming. 600 00:42:57,440 --> 00:42:58,606 Of course. 601 00:43:00,981 --> 00:43:01,981 Okay. 602 00:43:08,897 --> 00:43:10,207 Let us know if you need anything, okay? 603 00:43:10,231 --> 00:43:11,064 I will, thank you for coming. 604 00:43:11,106 --> 00:43:12,106 No problem. 605 00:43:12,148 --> 00:43:12,939 See you in church, okay? 606 00:43:12,981 --> 00:43:14,106 Okay, alright. 607 00:43:27,023 --> 00:43:28,106 Doing okay? 608 00:43:29,106 --> 00:43:30,106 Yeah. 609 00:43:35,315 --> 00:43:38,855 Did you at least get something to eat? 610 00:43:40,148 --> 00:43:42,106 I'm just glad it's over. 611 00:43:47,981 --> 00:43:49,082 Well, it was a beautiful service. 612 00:43:49,106 --> 00:43:51,231 You did a great job. 613 00:43:51,273 --> 00:43:52,273 Thank you. 614 00:43:54,814 --> 00:43:58,064 I'm glad you could come up for this. 615 00:43:58,106 --> 00:43:59,772 Me too. 616 00:43:59,814 --> 00:44:01,231 I wanted to be here. 617 00:44:04,315 --> 00:44:06,148 Is that your old bike? 618 00:44:08,981 --> 00:44:09,981 Yeah. 619 00:44:10,730 --> 00:44:12,189 Yeah. 620 00:44:12,231 --> 00:44:13,231 The... 621 00:44:14,981 --> 00:44:17,689 Brings back memories, doesn't it? 622 00:44:19,356 --> 00:44:21,855 Linda and I rode everywhere. 623 00:44:23,190 --> 00:44:25,273 That's how we found Laramie. 624 00:44:25,315 --> 00:44:26,148 We went out to the Rocky Mountains, 625 00:44:26,190 --> 00:44:29,856 and just started thinking of moving West. 626 00:44:32,273 --> 00:44:33,315 Dad. 627 00:44:36,315 --> 00:44:40,190 I'm sorry that Linda and I were never that close. 628 00:44:44,106 --> 00:44:46,314 Look, I know that was a difficult relationship 629 00:44:46,356 --> 00:44:47,689 for you both. 630 00:44:49,065 --> 00:44:51,314 I wanted to like her. 631 00:44:51,356 --> 00:44:53,439 I did, I just... 632 00:44:53,481 --> 00:44:55,315 It was a tough time. 633 00:44:58,564 --> 00:44:59,898 There is this. 634 00:45:00,772 --> 00:45:02,023 Well, I hate to even say this, 635 00:45:02,065 --> 00:45:03,356 but there's a small part of me 636 00:45:03,398 --> 00:45:05,231 that's relived that... 637 00:45:07,898 --> 00:45:10,023 I feel guilty for even thinking that. 638 00:45:10,065 --> 00:45:11,315 I mean, that's... 639 00:45:12,356 --> 00:45:13,356 That's bad, isn't it? 640 00:45:13,398 --> 00:45:14,398 No. 641 00:45:16,231 --> 00:45:18,356 You loved her so much. 642 00:45:18,398 --> 00:45:21,856 You took care of her for so long. 643 00:45:21,898 --> 00:45:24,398 Now it's time to live your life. 644 00:45:26,522 --> 00:45:28,981 Can I tell you something? 645 00:45:30,231 --> 00:45:32,856 I need to tell you something. 646 00:45:32,898 --> 00:45:34,190 Yeah, of course. 647 00:45:35,564 --> 00:45:40,023 I wish I had mentioned it a long time ago. 648 00:45:40,065 --> 00:45:41,065 Okay. 649 00:45:47,356 --> 00:45:51,231 I find comfort in wearing women's clothes. 650 00:46:09,231 --> 00:46:11,898 Some of this still doesn't make sense to me, 651 00:46:11,940 --> 00:46:14,273 but I've grown to accept it. 652 00:46:15,273 --> 00:46:18,148 Some things just don't make sense. 653 00:46:19,023 --> 00:46:20,023 Here. 654 00:46:35,148 --> 00:46:36,439 What do you think? 655 00:46:42,356 --> 00:46:43,398 Well, 656 00:46:45,439 --> 00:46:47,522 it's age appropriate. 657 00:46:53,315 --> 00:46:54,815 I suppose it is. 658 00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:23,480 I'm sorry. 659 00:47:24,190 --> 00:47:25,356 No, it's okay. 660 00:47:26,564 --> 00:47:28,356 I'm sorry, I'm sorry. 661 00:47:30,356 --> 00:47:31,397 Are you okay? 662 00:47:31,439 --> 00:47:33,106 I'm okay, I'm okay. 663 00:47:33,148 --> 00:47:34,563 - Okay. - Are you okay? 664 00:47:34,605 --> 00:47:36,315 Yeah, I will be. 665 00:47:37,397 --> 00:47:39,023 - Okay. - Alright. 666 00:47:41,273 --> 00:47:44,397 Come on, let's forget this. 667 00:47:44,439 --> 00:47:46,605 Okay, show me that bike. 668 00:48:05,231 --> 00:48:06,606 Hey Kate. 669 00:48:06,648 --> 00:48:07,940 Are you okay? 670 00:48:09,273 --> 00:48:10,397 Oh yeah. 671 00:48:10,439 --> 00:48:11,397 I'm fine. 672 00:48:11,439 --> 00:48:15,273 I just, I'm a little in my head this afternoon. 673 00:48:17,439 --> 00:48:21,148 Would you like me to let you go home to take a nap? 674 00:48:21,190 --> 00:48:22,190 Oh, no. 675 00:48:24,231 --> 00:48:27,731 No, no, I'm having a wonderful time. 676 00:48:27,773 --> 00:48:28,773 So am I. 677 00:48:29,731 --> 00:48:30,731 So am I. 678 00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:38,231 This is really, really pretty. 679 00:48:38,273 --> 00:48:40,231 It is a pretty place. 680 00:48:55,981 --> 00:48:57,438 Beautiful picture. 681 00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:59,106 Looks like Wyoming. 682 00:48:59,148 --> 00:49:00,355 It is. 683 00:49:00,397 --> 00:49:02,148 I love that painting. 684 00:49:15,148 --> 00:49:17,106 Great, appreciate it. 685 00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:21,731 It's nice to be here. 686 00:49:21,773 --> 00:49:24,397 Well, I'm glad you're here. 687 00:49:34,606 --> 00:49:36,064 This must be Casey. 688 00:49:36,106 --> 00:49:37,480 Yeah, that's her. 689 00:49:38,522 --> 00:49:39,565 Yeah... 690 00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:43,606 I loved her the moment she appeared. 691 00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:49,648 And I wasn't always there when she was crying out. 692 00:49:53,648 --> 00:49:56,690 I had a little growing up to do myself. 693 00:49:58,272 --> 00:50:00,313 Want to see my flutes? 694 00:50:04,648 --> 00:50:05,648 Yeah. 695 00:50:10,606 --> 00:50:12,190 That's beautiful. 696 00:50:46,523 --> 00:50:48,148 So that's what I was saying. 697 00:50:48,189 --> 00:50:51,523 What makes it unusual is that it's white oak, 698 00:50:51,565 --> 00:50:53,606 almost all the floors you see are red oak, 699 00:50:53,648 --> 00:50:56,564 and those are white, white oak. 700 00:50:59,690 --> 00:51:00,355 God, did I tell you about 701 00:51:00,397 --> 00:51:02,606 trying to permit my greenhouse? 702 00:51:02,648 --> 00:51:03,832 And you know what, that's invasive. 703 00:51:03,856 --> 00:51:06,230 You should tear that out. 704 00:51:06,272 --> 00:51:07,397 I don't know plants. 705 00:51:07,439 --> 00:51:08,814 Well, it shouldn't be there. 706 00:51:08,856 --> 00:51:10,397 It looks nice what you did with it, 707 00:51:10,439 --> 00:51:11,397 but it should go. 708 00:51:11,439 --> 00:51:14,188 So between the setbacks from the property line, 709 00:51:14,230 --> 00:51:16,481 and the minimum distance between buildings, 710 00:51:16,523 --> 00:51:19,439 I don't have a greenhouse big enough to do anything, 711 00:51:19,481 --> 00:51:21,230 and let alone, do all my research. 712 00:51:21,272 --> 00:51:22,606 But you know, 713 00:51:22,648 --> 00:51:23,731 well what the heck? 714 00:51:23,773 --> 00:51:25,648 Who are they to say? 715 00:51:25,690 --> 00:51:26,564 And the thing is, 716 00:51:26,606 --> 00:51:28,188 you don't even need a permit 717 00:51:28,230 --> 00:51:29,707 for an agricultural building out in the county. 718 00:51:29,731 --> 00:51:32,439 But in the city, you can't get an agricultural permit. 719 00:51:32,481 --> 00:51:34,439 - Hey Bruce, Bruce. - What? 720 00:51:34,481 --> 00:51:35,731 Bruce, can I, 721 00:51:36,690 --> 00:51:39,898 look, can I talk to you for a second? 722 00:51:39,940 --> 00:51:40,940 Yeah. 723 00:51:42,606 --> 00:51:46,606 I'd like to tell you something about myself. 724 00:51:47,731 --> 00:51:48,731 Okay. 725 00:51:52,690 --> 00:51:54,355 I'm transgender. 726 00:51:56,898 --> 00:51:59,230 What does that mean? 727 00:51:59,272 --> 00:52:00,272 Well, 728 00:52:01,440 --> 00:52:03,439 when I was little, 729 00:52:03,481 --> 00:52:05,314 I wanted to be a girl. 730 00:52:06,606 --> 00:52:08,606 But I didn't know how it worked. 731 00:52:08,648 --> 00:52:12,314 I just thought my body would heal itself. 732 00:52:13,606 --> 00:52:14,606 Shut up. 733 00:52:17,731 --> 00:52:21,898 I've dressed in women's clothes most of my life. 734 00:52:24,731 --> 00:52:27,898 I don't know how far I'll pursue this, 735 00:52:29,523 --> 00:52:33,355 but it's time for me to be more open about it. 736 00:53:10,731 --> 00:53:12,981 How much time do you think you have left? 737 00:53:13,023 --> 00:53:14,481 Maybe 30 years? 738 00:53:16,523 --> 00:53:18,439 - Well... - 20? 739 00:53:18,481 --> 00:53:20,356 Yeah, yeah I hope so. 740 00:53:21,815 --> 00:53:24,898 That's a long time to not be happy. 741 00:53:30,356 --> 00:53:31,731 - Yeah. - Right? 742 00:53:31,773 --> 00:53:33,272 I suppose it is. 743 00:53:35,815 --> 00:53:38,856 You're gonna stay though, right? 744 00:53:39,773 --> 00:53:42,273 You're not gonna move off somewhere. 745 00:53:42,315 --> 00:53:46,731 Yeah, I need my home, and my friends, my community. 746 00:53:49,064 --> 00:53:50,814 Okay, okay. 747 00:53:50,856 --> 00:53:53,523 Those will be imperative for me 748 00:53:53,565 --> 00:53:56,356 to feel like I can move forward. 749 00:53:56,398 --> 00:53:58,856 'Cause I got your back here. 750 00:54:01,940 --> 00:54:03,731 If you go off to... 751 00:54:05,773 --> 00:54:07,773 - Right. - San Francisco. 752 00:54:09,940 --> 00:54:11,773 I don't know. 753 00:54:11,815 --> 00:54:12,898 Thanks Bruce. 754 00:54:16,940 --> 00:54:17,956 You know, when you pull that out, 755 00:54:17,980 --> 00:54:20,398 you gotta get the roots, too. 756 00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:22,523 You gotta take it all the way down, 757 00:54:22,565 --> 00:54:23,565 and you gotta watch it, 758 00:54:23,606 --> 00:54:24,856 and if it comes back, 759 00:54:24,898 --> 00:54:27,356 you gotta pull every bit of it. 760 00:54:27,398 --> 00:54:29,939 Maybe you ought to burn it. 761 00:54:29,980 --> 00:54:31,731 - Okay. - I'll do it. 762 00:54:31,773 --> 00:54:33,856 - Okay. - I'll do it tonight. 763 00:54:33,898 --> 00:54:35,856 Do it, I'll go make more cookies right now. 764 00:54:38,898 --> 00:54:39,898 Alright. 765 00:54:42,690 --> 00:54:43,606 It seems like everyone 766 00:54:43,648 --> 00:54:47,439 has always wanted me to be something else. 767 00:54:47,481 --> 00:54:49,731 Even I have wanted it. 768 00:54:49,773 --> 00:54:53,064 But Andrea seems to want me to just be me. 769 00:54:56,481 --> 00:54:57,523 There's a bench over here. 770 00:54:57,565 --> 00:54:58,773 Do you mind if we sit down? 771 00:54:58,815 --> 00:55:00,731 No, that'd be fine. 772 00:55:11,690 --> 00:55:13,481 Beautiful here. 773 00:55:13,523 --> 00:55:15,440 Oh, it sure is, Kate. 774 00:55:29,815 --> 00:55:30,856 So, Kate. 775 00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:45,440 I have the sense you were born into a male body. 776 00:55:55,773 --> 00:55:57,523 Well, you're right. 777 00:56:02,398 --> 00:56:05,148 I thought of it as being out of register. 778 00:56:05,190 --> 00:56:09,897 You know, like when the colors of an image don't line up. 779 00:56:12,064 --> 00:56:14,897 Somehow, wearing women's clothes 780 00:56:17,190 --> 00:56:20,855 gave me a break from pretending to be a man. 781 00:56:26,565 --> 00:56:28,731 The pressure kept building 782 00:56:29,731 --> 00:56:30,855 to do something. 783 00:56:46,855 --> 00:56:50,022 When I was finally able to transition, 784 00:56:52,939 --> 00:56:53,939 it was just, 785 00:56:55,939 --> 00:56:56,939 amazing. 786 00:56:58,690 --> 00:57:00,106 It was so wonderful. 787 00:57:14,814 --> 00:57:16,648 I'm so proud of you. 788 00:57:21,481 --> 00:57:22,481 Bless you. 789 00:57:26,606 --> 00:57:28,440 You're just wonderful. 790 00:57:29,772 --> 00:57:30,772 Am I? 791 00:57:57,315 --> 00:58:01,939 Kate, you're such an interesting and complex person. 792 00:58:03,106 --> 00:58:03,980 Am I? 793 00:58:04,022 --> 00:58:05,565 Yeah, you are. 794 00:58:08,273 --> 00:58:12,189 It's funny, I was always so forgettable as this guy, 795 00:58:12,231 --> 00:58:15,148 but people seem to remember me now. 796 00:58:17,190 --> 00:58:18,980 You're wonderful. 797 00:58:20,023 --> 00:58:22,855 Well, I don't know about that. 798 00:58:23,980 --> 00:58:28,023 Well, I think you're wonderful. 799 00:58:28,065 --> 00:58:29,813 Thank you. 800 00:58:29,855 --> 00:58:34,023 There's something I've wanted to tell you today. 801 00:58:36,231 --> 00:58:38,689 You remember a couple weeks ago, 802 00:58:38,730 --> 00:58:41,772 we got to sit next to each other in church 803 00:58:41,814 --> 00:58:43,813 for the first time. 804 00:58:43,855 --> 00:58:46,772 ♪ Sing in my heart ♪ 805 00:58:48,023 --> 00:58:51,981 Well, we were singing "Spirit of Life," 806 00:58:52,023 --> 00:58:53,897 and at some point, 807 00:58:53,939 --> 00:58:58,231 your voice dropped into its natural baritone register. 808 00:58:59,648 --> 00:59:04,106 ♪ Lies in the sea ♪ 809 00:59:04,148 --> 00:59:08,897 ♪ Move in the hand ♪ 810 00:59:08,939 --> 00:59:13,939 ♪ Giving life the shape of justice ♪ 811 00:59:14,897 --> 00:59:19,897 ♪ Truth hold me close ♪ 812 00:59:20,648 --> 00:59:23,065 ♪ Grace, set me free ♪ 813 00:59:26,148 --> 00:59:30,023 I literally felt my heart crack open. 814 00:59:30,065 --> 00:59:32,813 It was a physical sensation. 815 00:59:32,855 --> 00:59:36,065 And I looked at you and I said to myself, 816 00:59:38,689 --> 00:59:42,606 "You have just fallen in love with this woman." 817 00:59:45,730 --> 00:59:46,981 Really? 818 00:59:47,023 --> 00:59:50,606 Yeah, really. 819 00:59:53,647 --> 00:59:56,064 But you've always been with men. 820 00:59:56,106 --> 00:59:57,106 I know. 821 00:59:58,981 --> 01:00:02,106 I know. I've been married to two men. 822 01:00:04,065 --> 01:00:06,772 But now I find that I have fallen in love 823 01:00:06,814 --> 01:00:08,940 with a transgender woman. 824 01:00:11,106 --> 01:00:13,189 I think I've scared you. 825 01:00:13,231 --> 01:00:15,023 Well, well, I, I, 826 01:00:16,231 --> 01:00:18,314 I didn't expect this, Andrea. 827 01:00:18,356 --> 01:00:20,106 Well, Kate, I didn't expect it either, 828 01:00:20,148 --> 01:00:21,689 but here we are. 829 01:00:23,814 --> 01:00:26,813 Let's just see where this goes. 830 01:00:26,855 --> 01:00:28,106 Oh, okay, okay. 831 01:00:33,855 --> 01:00:36,398 You don't need to say anything. 832 01:00:40,106 --> 01:00:41,356 Take care. 833 01:00:41,398 --> 01:00:42,398 I love you. 834 01:00:47,106 --> 01:00:48,106 Ah. 835 01:00:51,689 --> 01:00:53,814 See if my knees will work. 836 01:00:57,231 --> 01:00:59,314 It's easy to love Andrea. 837 01:00:59,356 --> 01:01:03,148 She's just so smart and kind and confident. 838 01:01:03,190 --> 01:01:07,148 It's harder to accept that she loves me. 839 01:01:07,190 --> 01:01:09,023 But I need to be free. 840 01:01:10,315 --> 01:01:13,106 Do I dare to try to love someone, 841 01:01:13,148 --> 01:01:15,898 to make space for her to love me? 842 01:01:23,273 --> 01:01:26,231 Oh gosh, what's, what's up? 843 01:01:29,856 --> 01:01:30,856 Uh oh. 844 01:01:32,856 --> 01:01:33,856 Hello? 845 01:01:34,940 --> 01:01:37,314 Oh hi Zoey, it's Andrea. 846 01:01:37,356 --> 01:01:39,356 Andrea, hi, what's up? 847 01:01:40,356 --> 01:01:42,981 Well, it's about Kate. 848 01:01:43,023 --> 01:01:44,023 Kate? 849 01:01:45,023 --> 01:01:46,291 What happened to Kate, what's wrong? 850 01:01:46,315 --> 01:01:48,398 She's fine, she's fine. 851 01:01:53,273 --> 01:01:57,148 It's just that I told her tonight that I love her. 852 01:01:57,190 --> 01:02:00,023 So wow, do you love her? 853 01:02:00,065 --> 01:02:01,106 Yeah, I do. 854 01:02:03,522 --> 01:02:04,856 Well, that's cool. 855 01:02:04,898 --> 01:02:07,064 So what's the problem? 856 01:02:07,106 --> 01:02:10,314 Well, I'm not supposed to fall in love with a woman. 857 01:02:10,356 --> 01:02:12,898 Oh baloney, come on. 858 01:02:12,940 --> 01:02:13,940 Man, woman. 859 01:02:14,940 --> 01:02:16,356 You know, it doesn't really matter. 860 01:02:16,398 --> 01:02:18,148 The big gift is love. 861 01:02:18,190 --> 01:02:20,730 You find love, you gotta go for it. 862 01:02:23,356 --> 01:02:24,440 Oh my gosh. 863 01:02:27,106 --> 01:02:28,398 But what if I scared her? 864 01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:29,398 Really? 865 01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:31,273 Kate's been in the Army, 866 01:02:31,315 --> 01:02:32,456 she's been in the Coast Guard. 867 01:02:32,480 --> 01:02:34,563 I doubt that she scares so easily. 868 01:02:37,398 --> 01:02:39,856 Well, she sure didn't say anything back. 869 01:02:39,898 --> 01:02:42,398 I think she just didn't know what to say. 870 01:02:42,440 --> 01:02:45,398 She didn't know what to do with that. 871 01:02:45,440 --> 01:02:48,314 Well, you know she's more reserved. 872 01:02:48,356 --> 01:02:52,023 But I think she's got the hots for you. 873 01:02:52,065 --> 01:02:54,106 Do you think so? 874 01:02:54,148 --> 01:02:55,356 It's obvious. 875 01:02:55,398 --> 01:02:58,314 You'd have to be blind not to notice it. 876 01:02:58,356 --> 01:02:59,356 Wow. 877 01:03:00,231 --> 01:03:05,064 Well, it's sure taken my by surprise. 878 01:03:05,106 --> 01:03:06,314 Well, we gave you some space. 879 01:03:06,356 --> 01:03:08,438 The rest is up to you. 880 01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:10,563 I should let you go to sleep. 881 01:03:10,605 --> 01:03:13,315 I think, I think I'll be fine, 882 01:03:14,480 --> 01:03:16,291 and I think that I'll get a good night's sleep, 883 01:03:16,315 --> 01:03:17,315 and I think, 884 01:03:18,940 --> 01:03:20,315 I think I love her. 885 01:03:21,647 --> 01:03:23,438 No worries. 886 01:03:23,480 --> 01:03:25,898 I got a really good feeling about this, 887 01:03:25,940 --> 01:03:28,814 so just want you to know that. 888 01:03:28,856 --> 01:03:30,356 Goodnight, dear. 889 01:03:49,981 --> 01:03:52,439 Now what, Max? These people... 890 01:03:54,522 --> 01:03:56,356 Hello? 891 01:03:56,397 --> 01:03:58,397 Hey Zoey, it's Kate. 892 01:03:58,439 --> 01:04:00,856 Ah Kate, what's up? 893 01:04:00,898 --> 01:04:03,314 I didn't wake you up, did I? 894 01:04:03,356 --> 01:04:04,397 Wake me? 895 01:04:04,439 --> 01:04:05,314 Nah, I was just reading, 896 01:04:05,356 --> 01:04:07,605 like I always do in the middle of the night. 897 01:04:07,647 --> 01:04:09,023 Oh, oh good. 898 01:04:10,439 --> 01:04:12,148 Well, it's Andrea. 899 01:04:13,148 --> 01:04:14,064 What about Andrea? 900 01:04:14,106 --> 01:04:15,898 Is something wrong? 901 01:04:15,940 --> 01:04:18,356 Oh, everything's fantastic. 902 01:04:19,356 --> 01:04:22,315 She told me she loved me tonight. 903 01:04:23,522 --> 01:04:24,522 Oh wow. 904 01:04:26,023 --> 01:04:27,148 That's cool. 905 01:04:27,190 --> 01:04:28,438 So what'd you do? 906 01:04:28,480 --> 01:04:30,898 Well I didn't know what to say. 907 01:04:30,940 --> 01:04:33,355 I was just, I was floored. 908 01:04:33,397 --> 01:04:34,397 I mean, it was, 909 01:04:35,981 --> 01:04:39,065 I didn't know that was a possibility. 910 01:04:41,690 --> 01:04:43,314 Well, you know, 911 01:04:43,355 --> 01:04:46,438 I hope I didn't screw anything up. 912 01:04:46,480 --> 01:04:49,189 Oh, I'm sure you didn't screw up. 913 01:04:49,231 --> 01:04:50,522 Andrea's a smart cookie. 914 01:04:50,564 --> 01:04:52,355 She'll get it. 915 01:04:52,397 --> 01:04:53,397 Yeah, well I, 916 01:04:55,564 --> 01:04:56,939 I'm a woman now. 917 01:04:56,981 --> 01:04:59,355 I thought I'd fall in love with a man, 918 01:04:59,397 --> 01:05:01,065 but here's Andrea. 919 01:05:01,940 --> 01:05:03,606 She's wonderful. 920 01:05:03,648 --> 01:05:06,355 You know, as you always tell me, 921 01:05:06,397 --> 01:05:08,189 what's so great about men? 922 01:05:08,231 --> 01:05:09,313 Yeah. 923 01:05:09,355 --> 01:05:11,231 But, just so you know, 924 01:05:11,273 --> 01:05:12,666 I have a really good feeling about this. 925 01:05:12,690 --> 01:05:14,397 I want you to know that. 926 01:05:14,439 --> 01:05:16,940 Oh, oh thank you. I hope so. 927 01:05:17,731 --> 01:05:20,064 So can I go back to sleep now? 928 01:05:20,106 --> 01:05:21,439 Oh, okay Zoey. 929 01:05:22,439 --> 01:05:23,480 Thanks. 930 01:05:24,439 --> 01:05:25,397 Relax. 931 01:05:25,439 --> 01:05:26,439 Bye. 932 01:05:28,731 --> 01:05:29,731 Geeze, Max. 933 01:05:30,480 --> 01:05:33,564 Really, these people, they're nuts. 934 01:05:33,606 --> 01:05:35,564 Not like my dog. 935 01:05:35,606 --> 01:05:37,314 You're a wise boy. 936 01:06:08,606 --> 01:06:10,689 These are for you, mom. 937 01:06:10,731 --> 01:06:13,480 I know you don't like flowers, dad. 938 01:06:13,522 --> 01:06:15,439 I didn't bring you any. 939 01:06:19,065 --> 01:06:20,981 The trees have grown a lot 940 01:06:21,023 --> 01:06:22,648 since I was here last. 941 01:06:25,690 --> 01:06:27,231 I didn't really want to come by. 942 01:06:27,272 --> 01:06:28,731 Not because, well... 943 01:06:32,480 --> 01:06:33,438 If you could see me, 944 01:06:33,480 --> 01:06:36,230 you would see things are 945 01:06:36,272 --> 01:06:37,648 a little different. 946 01:06:43,480 --> 01:06:45,106 When I was young, 947 01:06:46,480 --> 01:06:48,480 you told me I was a boy. 948 01:06:49,648 --> 01:06:52,648 Though I didn't doubt that I was male, 949 01:06:52,690 --> 01:06:54,690 I could see that, but... 950 01:06:58,565 --> 01:07:00,606 Somehow I knew that I should be a girl. 951 01:07:00,648 --> 01:07:03,480 That I would be happier as a girl. 952 01:07:05,106 --> 01:07:08,523 That I would fit into the world better as a girl. 953 01:07:12,065 --> 01:07:15,480 I didn't know how bodies worked, of course. 954 01:07:18,565 --> 01:07:20,230 I remember when I was little, 955 01:07:20,272 --> 01:07:24,397 being always so hopeful each night when I went to bed. 956 01:07:27,314 --> 01:07:29,106 Before falling asleep, I would just, 957 01:07:29,148 --> 01:07:31,523 I would think, well, perhaps tonight is the night 958 01:07:31,565 --> 01:07:34,648 when this extra stuff just falls off. 959 01:07:38,565 --> 01:07:43,565 Like how a scab falls off when the skin underneath heals. 960 01:07:44,731 --> 01:07:47,565 Well then everyone would see that I'm a girl. 961 01:07:51,606 --> 01:07:54,689 But I want to tell you both now that, 962 01:07:54,731 --> 01:07:57,272 I've finally figured it out. 963 01:07:58,565 --> 01:08:00,147 I'm just sorry that 964 01:08:01,314 --> 01:08:03,439 I wasn't able to get it all together 965 01:08:03,481 --> 01:08:05,481 soon enough to show you. 966 01:08:07,606 --> 01:08:08,564 'Cause I think your reaction would be, 967 01:08:08,606 --> 01:08:11,773 "Well, now it all makes sense." 968 01:08:19,731 --> 01:08:22,856 I just want you to know that 969 01:08:22,898 --> 01:08:26,606 your troubled and troublesome third child, 970 01:08:27,565 --> 01:08:30,856 who could never really quite find himself, 971 01:08:30,898 --> 01:08:31,898 well, 972 01:08:33,606 --> 01:08:35,856 she has turned out alright. 973 01:08:54,690 --> 01:08:56,731 So I was finally done. 974 01:08:56,773 --> 01:09:00,689 I didn't know if this day would ever come. 975 01:09:00,731 --> 01:09:04,440 I was ready to move on to my life as Kate. 976 01:11:24,939 --> 01:11:26,814 Sometimes it's easier if I act 977 01:11:26,856 --> 01:11:28,773 as if you'd never been. 978 01:11:30,481 --> 01:11:33,773 But I wouldn't have gotten here without you, Danny. 979 01:11:33,815 --> 01:11:34,815 I love you. 980 01:11:40,815 --> 01:11:42,980 Are you feeling okay? 981 01:11:43,022 --> 01:11:44,398 Yeah. 982 01:11:44,440 --> 01:11:45,814 I feel pretty good, actually. 983 01:11:45,856 --> 01:11:48,938 - Yeah? - All things considered. 984 01:11:48,980 --> 01:11:51,898 I even took a few steps around the room, 985 01:11:51,939 --> 01:11:52,980 and that's... 986 01:11:54,815 --> 01:11:55,939 That's good. 987 01:11:57,523 --> 01:11:59,898 Well, Dr. Bauer said that she did a great job, 988 01:11:59,939 --> 01:12:02,814 and that the surgery was a success. 989 01:12:02,856 --> 01:12:04,398 Yeah. 990 01:12:04,440 --> 01:12:07,856 - Yeah, she told me that too. - That's good. 991 01:12:09,856 --> 01:12:12,690 Casey, I know this is hard on you. 992 01:12:15,815 --> 01:12:18,398 But I'll always be your father. 993 01:12:25,022 --> 01:12:26,022 You know, 994 01:12:28,815 --> 01:12:30,356 a few months ago, 995 01:12:30,398 --> 01:12:32,564 I went to visit my friends down in the South, 996 01:12:32,606 --> 01:12:34,939 and it was just so wonderful 997 01:12:36,690 --> 01:12:39,565 to walk down the street as a woman. 998 01:12:41,440 --> 01:12:42,897 No hiding, no shame. 999 01:12:48,064 --> 01:12:50,523 Sometimes a man would open, 1000 01:12:50,565 --> 01:12:52,731 hold the door open for me. 1001 01:12:54,939 --> 01:12:58,731 And it felt real nice to be treated as a lady. 1002 01:13:02,064 --> 01:13:04,855 People have been so kind to me. 1003 01:13:06,064 --> 01:13:10,897 And I know, I know that not everyone's journey is like mine. 1004 01:13:14,105 --> 01:13:16,439 But it just seems like 1005 01:13:16,481 --> 01:13:19,398 this secret that I held so tightly, 1006 01:13:21,690 --> 01:13:23,773 hid so well for 65 years, 1007 01:13:27,481 --> 01:13:29,148 was far more interesting to me 1008 01:13:29,190 --> 01:13:30,855 than to anyone else. 1009 01:13:39,606 --> 01:13:42,064 It's been two years since I got to be Kate. 1010 01:13:42,106 --> 01:13:46,523 It's been wonderful, beyond my wildest dreams. 1011 01:13:46,565 --> 01:13:48,190 Andrea sure is a gift. 1012 01:13:49,606 --> 01:13:50,915 Maybe certain people come into our lives 1013 01:13:50,939 --> 01:13:53,022 to help us be who we are, 1014 01:13:54,231 --> 01:13:57,690 and to help us get to be who we can be. 1015 01:14:43,980 --> 01:14:46,772 You're beautiful, Kate. 1016 01:14:46,814 --> 01:14:48,814 I'm glad you think so. 1017 01:14:51,980 --> 01:14:56,273 I wish you could see yourself as beautiful. 1018 01:14:56,315 --> 01:14:57,315 I'll try. 1019 01:14:59,022 --> 01:15:00,981 You say it. 1020 01:15:01,023 --> 01:15:02,190 I'm beautiful? 1021 01:15:06,730 --> 01:15:08,939 Say it like you mean it. 1022 01:15:11,606 --> 01:15:12,939 I'm beautiful. 1023 01:15:14,065 --> 01:15:15,939 You are beautiful. 1024 01:15:17,065 --> 01:15:19,813 I don't think you would've 1025 01:15:19,855 --> 01:15:21,855 gone through all of this 1026 01:15:23,023 --> 01:15:26,106 if you didn't think you were beautiful. 1027 01:15:27,106 --> 01:15:28,106 Well, 1028 01:15:30,939 --> 01:15:33,981 it became more a matter of survival. 1029 01:15:34,023 --> 01:15:36,938 I didn't know how much longer I'd make it as, 1030 01:15:36,980 --> 01:15:38,523 what's his name. 1031 01:15:40,689 --> 01:15:43,565 I like you just as you are, Kate. 1032 01:15:47,065 --> 01:15:49,606 Well, I sure didn't expect this. 1033 01:15:49,648 --> 01:15:52,565 Oh, I didn't expect this, either. 1034 01:16:04,231 --> 01:16:07,190 You want to take your jacket off? 1035 01:16:23,440 --> 01:16:26,190 I haven't done this in a while. 1036 01:16:27,231 --> 01:16:28,981 I haven't either. 1037 01:16:30,356 --> 01:16:33,398 You might have questions. 1038 01:16:33,440 --> 01:16:35,606 Whatever is just fine. 1039 01:16:57,065 --> 01:16:58,106 Stuck. 1040 01:17:02,315 --> 01:17:04,023 You have a tattoo. 1041 01:17:23,273 --> 01:17:24,356 Come with me. 1042 01:17:50,065 --> 01:17:54,023 I'm not that heavy. 1043 01:17:59,356 --> 01:18:00,356 Here I come. 1044 01:19:02,273 --> 01:19:03,273 Hi Kate. 1045 01:19:03,315 --> 01:19:04,898 Hi Andrea. 1046 01:19:04,940 --> 01:19:06,814 I have a Yoga class first thing Monday morning, 1047 01:19:06,856 --> 01:19:08,231 so I just took off. 1048 01:19:09,564 --> 01:19:12,023 Oh, I had wondered where you'd gone. 1049 01:19:12,065 --> 01:19:14,356 Yeah, I'm sorry to worry you. 1050 01:19:14,398 --> 01:19:15,898 Oh, that's okay. 1051 01:19:18,398 --> 01:19:19,981 Would you like to come in? 1052 01:19:20,023 --> 01:19:21,398 Oh, no thanks. 1053 01:19:21,440 --> 01:19:24,273 I can only stay for just a second. 1054 01:19:26,065 --> 01:19:27,189 Everything okay? 1055 01:19:27,231 --> 01:19:28,273 Well... 1056 01:19:31,856 --> 01:19:33,273 Yeah, I guess so. 1057 01:19:35,148 --> 01:19:38,981 But, would you be okay if we took a break here 1058 01:19:39,940 --> 01:19:41,356 for a little bit? 1059 01:19:45,981 --> 01:19:48,189 What kind of break? 1060 01:19:48,231 --> 01:19:50,190 Well, I don't know. 1061 01:19:52,480 --> 01:19:56,314 One of my brothers is in town for a little while, 1062 01:19:56,356 --> 01:20:00,315 so I'd like to at least wait until he's gone, and, 1063 01:20:01,981 --> 01:20:03,480 see how I'm feeling. 1064 01:20:04,315 --> 01:20:06,023 Okay. 1065 01:20:06,065 --> 01:20:07,065 I'm sorry. 1066 01:20:08,106 --> 01:20:09,106 It's okay. 1067 01:20:11,315 --> 01:20:12,315 I'm sorry. 1068 01:20:13,315 --> 01:20:15,190 I'll be in touch, okay? 1069 01:20:22,397 --> 01:20:25,148 Actually, that's not it at all. 1070 01:20:29,106 --> 01:20:31,273 I'm struggling here, Kate. 1071 01:20:37,439 --> 01:20:42,439 I'm not supposed to have fallen in love with a woman. 1072 01:20:43,065 --> 01:20:44,065 But I have. 1073 01:20:47,898 --> 01:20:50,981 And I'm not sure what to do about it. 1074 01:20:54,106 --> 01:20:57,356 I need some time to sit with that, and, 1075 01:20:59,273 --> 01:21:00,273 I'm sorry. 1076 01:21:04,397 --> 01:21:05,397 It's okay. 1077 01:21:09,439 --> 01:21:10,939 Thank you. 1078 01:21:10,981 --> 01:21:12,522 I will be in touch. 1079 01:21:12,564 --> 01:21:14,522 I'll call you. 1080 01:21:14,564 --> 01:21:16,315 - Okay. - Okay, bye. 1081 01:21:39,065 --> 01:21:40,522 Hello, this is Andrea. 1082 01:21:40,564 --> 01:21:42,189 Please leave a message, 1083 01:21:42,231 --> 01:21:43,023 - and I will call you back. - Andrea opened 1084 01:21:43,065 --> 01:21:44,522 the door to love. 1085 01:21:44,564 --> 01:21:48,563 Loving me has to be way outside her comfort zone. 1086 01:21:48,605 --> 01:21:50,397 But whatever happens, 1087 01:21:50,439 --> 01:21:51,648 it was really wonderful 1088 01:21:51,690 --> 01:21:53,397 to have that little glimpse 1089 01:21:53,439 --> 01:21:57,355 of the sweet, powerful love that she offered. 1090 01:22:17,522 --> 01:22:20,522 Oh Katie, where did you come from? 1091 01:22:23,522 --> 01:22:25,522 Where did you come from? 1092 01:22:56,439 --> 01:22:58,189 You sure you live here? 1093 01:22:58,231 --> 01:22:59,314 This is it. 1094 01:23:00,522 --> 01:23:01,522 Wow. 1095 01:23:05,148 --> 01:23:06,148 I love it. 1096 01:23:08,190 --> 01:23:12,023 Yeah, it's the first time I used a designer. 1097 01:23:14,480 --> 01:23:15,480 Alright. 1098 01:23:16,773 --> 01:23:17,731 Can I? 1099 01:23:17,773 --> 01:23:19,397 Sure, go ahead. 1100 01:23:32,480 --> 01:23:34,481 So do you want to go somewhere tomorrow, 1101 01:23:34,523 --> 01:23:37,272 or do you just want to hang out? 1102 01:23:37,314 --> 01:23:39,355 I'm okay with whatever. 1103 01:23:43,355 --> 01:23:46,523 How are you and Thomas doing? 1104 01:23:46,565 --> 01:23:48,689 He's gone back to school. 1105 01:23:48,731 --> 01:23:50,439 Oh, that's good. 1106 01:23:51,272 --> 01:23:52,272 That's good. 1107 01:24:06,565 --> 01:24:10,148 Mama Kate, you're acting more like my father today. 1108 01:24:10,189 --> 01:24:14,523 It's weird, but I'm kinda happy to have him back. 1109 01:24:14,565 --> 01:24:15,523 You said a few months ago 1110 01:24:15,565 --> 01:24:18,230 that I'm pretty much the same. 1111 01:24:18,272 --> 01:24:20,272 Well, Papa had this... 1112 01:24:23,648 --> 01:24:25,606 I don't know, I guess you'd call it, like, 1113 01:24:25,648 --> 01:24:27,814 an underlying sadness. 1114 01:24:27,856 --> 01:24:29,188 And when you got to me, Mama Kate, 1115 01:24:29,230 --> 01:24:30,523 I didn't see that anymore, 1116 01:24:30,565 --> 01:24:32,731 but today, I see it again. 1117 01:24:39,314 --> 01:24:40,314 Well, 1118 01:24:43,690 --> 01:24:44,606 these last few weeks, 1119 01:24:44,648 --> 01:24:48,440 I've just been bolling over with happiness. 1120 01:24:49,648 --> 01:24:53,648 I didn't know one person could even be that happy. 1121 01:24:56,523 --> 01:24:57,565 I met a friend, 1122 01:24:58,815 --> 01:25:01,773 and she's become more than a friend. 1123 01:25:04,481 --> 01:25:05,481 And I, 1124 01:25:08,940 --> 01:25:12,147 I'm waiting for her to come to her senses, 1125 01:25:12,189 --> 01:25:13,272 and leave me. 1126 01:25:15,481 --> 01:25:17,272 Why would you say that? 1127 01:25:19,690 --> 01:25:23,648 Well, I bring a lot of baggage with me, 1128 01:25:23,690 --> 01:25:27,523 and maybe I'm too old to start all this again. 1129 01:25:34,773 --> 01:25:36,898 I can be happy living alone. 1130 01:25:47,440 --> 01:25:51,272 Mama Kate, I'm on my second marriage, right? 1131 01:25:52,773 --> 01:25:55,440 And I'm going to make this work. 1132 01:25:56,648 --> 01:25:59,773 I am going to give everything I have 1133 01:25:59,815 --> 01:26:01,648 to make this one work. 1134 01:26:05,272 --> 01:26:06,773 And if it doesn't, 1135 01:26:10,440 --> 01:26:12,981 'cause they don't always, 1136 01:26:13,023 --> 01:26:15,731 at least I will know that I tried, 1137 01:26:15,773 --> 01:26:17,815 and it sounds so dumb, 1138 01:26:18,815 --> 01:26:21,481 but I know that I would love again. 1139 01:26:21,523 --> 01:26:22,648 We can't help it, you know? 1140 01:26:22,690 --> 01:26:24,690 It's like, how we're built. 1141 01:26:27,815 --> 01:26:29,564 I'm glad for you, Casey. 1142 01:26:29,606 --> 01:26:31,773 You've been through a lot. 1143 01:26:37,815 --> 01:26:40,356 You know how your neighbor has a love bird? 1144 01:26:40,398 --> 01:26:41,731 I thought it was a parrot. 1145 01:26:41,773 --> 01:26:43,564 Mama, that's what love birds are. 1146 01:26:43,606 --> 01:26:44,481 Oh. 1147 01:26:44,523 --> 01:26:46,439 Anyways, they only have one of them, 1148 01:26:46,481 --> 01:26:48,898 and they're not supposed to be alone. 1149 01:26:48,940 --> 01:26:49,856 They don't do well. 1150 01:26:49,898 --> 01:26:53,273 They get erratic in captivity. 1151 01:26:53,315 --> 01:26:56,481 Some people are just meant to pair up. 1152 01:26:58,064 --> 01:27:00,731 If you really like this person, 1153 01:27:00,773 --> 01:27:03,230 as much as it seems you do, 1154 01:27:03,898 --> 01:27:06,731 then I think that you should try 1155 01:27:07,731 --> 01:27:11,606 and give everything you can to be with them. 1156 01:27:14,731 --> 01:27:15,606 It's funny, Mama Kate. 1157 01:27:15,648 --> 01:27:16,707 I feel like I can talk to you 1158 01:27:16,731 --> 01:27:19,481 more than I ever could with Papa. 1159 01:27:21,773 --> 01:27:22,773 Yeah. 1160 01:27:23,648 --> 01:27:24,689 It's nice. 1161 01:27:24,731 --> 01:27:26,230 Yeah. 1162 01:27:27,606 --> 01:27:30,523 Oh Casey and her talk of love birds. 1163 01:27:30,565 --> 01:27:32,606 Actually, all birds shed their feathers 1164 01:27:32,648 --> 01:27:34,898 and replace them with new ones. 1165 01:27:34,940 --> 01:27:37,731 Maybe that's what I've needed to do 1166 01:27:37,773 --> 01:27:39,689 so that I could find love. 1167 01:27:39,731 --> 01:27:41,731 And let myself be loved. 1168 01:27:46,731 --> 01:27:47,773 So Tom. 1169 01:27:49,440 --> 01:27:50,440 Yeah? 1170 01:27:53,398 --> 01:27:55,564 And Tom Flynn, down. 1171 01:27:55,606 --> 01:27:57,022 I've met someone. 1172 01:27:58,648 --> 01:28:01,440 And I believe I've fallen in love. 1173 01:28:02,606 --> 01:28:03,731 He was 10 for 14. 1174 01:28:03,773 --> 01:28:04,689 Under 10 yards. 1175 01:28:04,731 --> 01:28:06,689 That's the patience part we talked about. 1176 01:28:06,731 --> 01:28:08,440 Did you hear me? 1177 01:28:09,356 --> 01:28:11,689 Yeah, I heard you. 1178 01:28:11,731 --> 01:28:12,898 You fell in love. 1179 01:28:12,939 --> 01:28:15,481 Yeah, I've fallen in love. 1180 01:28:16,731 --> 01:28:17,939 Her name is Kate. 1181 01:28:20,815 --> 01:28:22,022 Really? 1182 01:28:22,064 --> 01:28:23,064 Yep. 1183 01:28:25,022 --> 01:28:26,689 You know, it seemed like 1184 01:28:26,731 --> 01:28:29,565 you might be happier with a woman. 1185 01:28:30,690 --> 01:28:33,773 Well Tom, it sure feels that way. 1186 01:28:33,815 --> 01:28:37,314 I don't think I've ever been in love. 1187 01:28:37,356 --> 01:28:40,689 Someone knocked it away. 1188 01:28:40,731 --> 01:28:42,731 John Elway, he did a quarrel on that. 1189 01:28:42,773 --> 01:28:45,022 There's a little more to the story. 1190 01:28:45,064 --> 01:28:46,897 He's gonna spin right around. 1191 01:28:46,939 --> 01:28:48,980 She was born transgender. 1192 01:28:50,064 --> 01:28:51,731 - Really? - Yeah. 1193 01:28:51,773 --> 01:28:53,939 Okay I'm gonna sit down. 1194 01:28:55,939 --> 01:28:58,938 I better sit down for this, I can see. 1195 01:29:00,897 --> 01:29:01,939 Oh Tom. 1196 01:29:04,856 --> 01:29:06,856 She's just wonderful. 1197 01:29:09,190 --> 01:29:13,856 One handed catch by Van Johnson. 1198 01:29:13,897 --> 01:29:14,897 You know, 1199 01:29:18,980 --> 01:29:22,980 the message I got from Dad, I'm sure it was Dad, 1200 01:29:24,606 --> 01:29:27,022 was that I was supposed to fall in love with a man, 1201 01:29:27,064 --> 01:29:28,939 be married to a man, 1202 01:29:30,398 --> 01:29:32,980 and be taken care of by a man. 1203 01:29:33,022 --> 01:29:34,648 Johnson makes the tackle, 1204 01:29:34,690 --> 01:29:37,106 or the catch when he's down. 1205 01:29:37,148 --> 01:29:40,564 So to fall in love with a woman 1206 01:29:40,606 --> 01:29:43,064 has presented a challenge to me. 1207 01:29:45,440 --> 01:29:47,773 You know, do I listen to my heart, 1208 01:29:47,815 --> 01:29:50,398 do I listen to the message in my head? 1209 01:29:50,440 --> 01:29:52,938 That's why Dan Reeves was so upset. 1210 01:29:52,980 --> 01:29:55,938 And it's been a struggle, 1211 01:29:55,980 --> 01:29:58,897 but it just comes down to my heart. 1212 01:30:00,105 --> 01:30:01,481 I, I love her. 1213 01:30:05,148 --> 01:30:06,731 And she loves me. 1214 01:30:12,565 --> 01:30:14,897 What can be wrong with that? 1215 01:30:27,273 --> 01:30:29,022 Would you get that? 1216 01:30:30,814 --> 01:30:31,814 Sure? 1217 01:30:37,897 --> 01:30:39,022 Oh, hi. 1218 01:30:39,064 --> 01:30:40,897 You must be Casey. 1219 01:30:40,939 --> 01:30:41,980 Are you Andrea? 1220 01:30:42,022 --> 01:30:43,022 I am. 1221 01:30:44,022 --> 01:30:45,481 Come in, please. 1222 01:30:49,190 --> 01:30:51,980 Mama Kate's just putting some things away in the back. 1223 01:30:52,022 --> 01:30:54,231 Let me get her for you. 1224 01:30:54,273 --> 01:30:56,855 Hey Mama Kate, Andrea's here. 1225 01:30:58,065 --> 01:30:59,207 She'll be really happy to see you. 1226 01:30:59,231 --> 01:31:00,897 I'll be happy to see her, too. 1227 01:31:00,939 --> 01:31:02,523 It's very nice to meet you. 1228 01:31:02,565 --> 01:31:03,565 You too. 1229 01:31:09,190 --> 01:31:10,190 Hi Andrea. 1230 01:31:11,897 --> 01:31:12,897 Hi Kate. 1231 01:31:15,065 --> 01:31:16,065 How are you? 1232 01:31:18,148 --> 01:31:19,148 I'm okay. 1233 01:31:19,980 --> 01:31:20,980 How are you? 1234 01:31:24,648 --> 01:31:27,523 I think I'm gonna go lay down for a little bit. 1235 01:31:27,565 --> 01:31:28,938 It was really nice to meet you. 1236 01:31:28,980 --> 01:31:30,106 Nice to meet you too, Casey. 1237 01:31:30,148 --> 01:31:31,106 Love you. 1238 01:31:31,148 --> 01:31:32,148 Good luck. 1239 01:31:35,897 --> 01:31:37,523 Can we sit down? 1240 01:31:37,565 --> 01:31:38,565 Sure. 1241 01:31:54,023 --> 01:31:56,565 Kate, the words to love songs 1242 01:31:58,730 --> 01:32:01,106 have never made any sense to me. 1243 01:32:02,648 --> 01:32:06,606 It was just like a language I didn't understand. 1244 01:32:07,730 --> 01:32:09,065 Until I met you. 1245 01:32:10,565 --> 01:32:11,980 And now I get it. 1246 01:32:13,023 --> 01:32:14,648 I love you, Kate. 1247 01:32:19,356 --> 01:32:23,064 Well, I feel like my life has just started, 1248 01:32:23,106 --> 01:32:25,523 and I'm already pushing 70. 1249 01:32:27,981 --> 01:32:32,772 Sometimes, I wonder if I'll even make it another 10 years. 1250 01:32:34,356 --> 01:32:38,730 I want to make most of these years that I do have. 1251 01:32:39,730 --> 01:32:41,688 Once I got to be Kate, 1252 01:32:41,730 --> 01:32:44,648 I was living just the perfect life. 1253 01:32:47,689 --> 01:32:51,231 I didn't think it was possible to be happier. 1254 01:32:52,772 --> 01:32:54,148 But with you, I am. 1255 01:32:55,939 --> 01:32:57,273 I love you, Andrea. 1256 01:32:59,814 --> 01:33:01,106 I love you, Kate. 1257 01:33:15,148 --> 01:33:18,148 I feel like such a mess sometimes. 1258 01:33:18,190 --> 01:33:19,730 Oh, we all do. 1259 01:33:22,814 --> 01:33:26,814 And I worry that I might lose my mind someday. 1260 01:33:29,065 --> 01:33:33,023 If that happened, would you take care of me? 1261 01:33:33,065 --> 01:33:35,356 I'd take care of you. 1262 01:33:35,398 --> 01:33:38,148 We could take care of each other. 1263 01:33:44,730 --> 01:33:47,023 Do you wish I hadn't transitioned? 1264 01:33:47,065 --> 01:33:50,898 That I was still pretending to be a man? 1265 01:33:50,940 --> 01:33:52,231 Oh Kate. 1266 01:33:52,273 --> 01:33:53,898 I wouldn't have given you a second look, 1267 01:33:53,940 --> 01:33:55,273 'cause you're too short. 1268 01:33:58,231 --> 01:33:59,231 Well. 1269 01:34:01,814 --> 01:34:04,314 Hey, do you like road trips? 1270 01:34:04,356 --> 01:34:08,106 I think a road trip with you would be fantastic. 1271 01:34:08,148 --> 01:34:11,106 Do you know that Johnny Cash song, "I've Been Everywhere." 1272 01:34:11,148 --> 01:34:12,898 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1273 01:34:12,940 --> 01:34:14,314 Yeah, I like Johnny Cash. 1274 01:34:14,356 --> 01:34:15,939 Yeah, how'd you like to go 1275 01:34:15,981 --> 01:34:17,772 to all those places in the song? 1276 01:34:17,814 --> 01:34:20,189 All those places? How many are there? 1277 01:34:20,231 --> 01:34:21,939 There are 92 of 'em. 1278 01:34:21,981 --> 01:34:25,231 - They're all over the place. - Oh my gosh. 1279 01:34:25,273 --> 01:34:27,106 Well, what's the closest one? 1280 01:34:27,148 --> 01:34:29,190 I think Crater Lake. 1281 01:34:31,023 --> 01:34:34,064 Well, that's just down the road. 1282 01:34:34,106 --> 01:34:35,314 Do you want to go? 1283 01:34:35,356 --> 01:34:36,356 I do. 1284 01:34:37,730 --> 01:34:39,356 How about next week? 1285 01:34:40,398 --> 01:34:43,106 Let's go, Katie bird. 1286 01:35:01,023 --> 01:35:02,231 I love you, Andrea. 1287 01:35:02,273 --> 01:35:03,231 I love you, Kate. 1288 01:35:03,273 --> 01:35:06,772 ♪ Something inside of me that had to be said ♪ 1289 01:35:06,814 --> 01:35:10,439 ♪ Like a sunburn burning in the back of my head ♪ 1290 01:35:10,481 --> 01:35:15,689 ♪ Like a needle pulling an unseen thread all my life ♪ 1291 01:35:18,981 --> 01:35:20,981 ♪ I can see it coming ♪ 1292 01:35:21,023 --> 01:35:22,981 ♪ But I just couldn't say ♪ 1293 01:35:23,023 --> 01:35:24,856 ♪ What tomorrow brought ♪ 1294 01:35:24,898 --> 01:35:26,981 ♪ 'Cause I was stuck in today ♪ 1295 01:35:27,023 --> 01:35:29,106 ♪ Was a light so bright ♪ 1296 01:35:29,148 --> 01:35:34,148 ♪ It would shine my way to you ♪ 1297 01:35:35,564 --> 01:35:39,398 ♪ It was always there, it was written that way ♪ 1298 01:35:39,440 --> 01:35:43,856 ♪ It was always there, it was written that way ♪ 1299 01:35:43,898 --> 01:35:46,106 ♪ It was always there ♪ 1300 01:35:46,148 --> 01:35:50,315 ♪ Just something that I had to do ♪ 1301 01:35:56,398 --> 01:35:58,356 ♪ It was always there ♪ 1302 01:35:58,398 --> 01:36:00,356 ♪ It was written that way ♪ 1303 01:36:00,398 --> 01:36:02,398 ♪ It was always there ♪ 1304 01:36:02,440 --> 01:36:04,773 ♪ It was written that way ♪ 1305 01:36:04,815 --> 01:36:07,023 ♪ It was always there ♪ 1306 01:36:07,065 --> 01:36:11,231 ♪ Just something that I had to do ♪ 1307 01:36:22,856 --> 01:36:27,856 ♪ I was toting my pack along a dusty Winnemucca road ♪ 1308 01:36:30,231 --> 01:36:35,398 ♪ When along came a semi with a high and canvas covered load ♪ 1309 01:36:35,439 --> 01:36:38,314 ♪ If you're going to Winnemucca, Mac ♪ 1310 01:36:38,356 --> 01:36:40,231 ♪ With me you can ride ♪ 1311 01:36:40,273 --> 01:36:42,563 ♪ And so I climbed into the cab ♪ 1312 01:36:42,605 --> 01:36:45,856 ♪ And then I settled down inside ♪ 1313 01:36:45,898 --> 01:36:48,273 ♪ He asked me if I'd seen a road ♪ 1314 01:36:48,315 --> 01:36:50,563 ♪ With so much dust and sand ♪ 1315 01:36:50,605 --> 01:36:53,231 ♪ And I said, listen ♪ 1316 01:36:53,273 --> 01:36:57,273 ♪ I've traveled every road in this here land ♪ 1317 01:37:00,439 --> 01:37:03,231 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1318 01:37:03,273 --> 01:37:06,397 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1319 01:37:06,439 --> 01:37:10,189 ♪ I crossed the deserts bare, man ♪ 1320 01:37:10,231 --> 01:37:12,981 ♪ I've breathed the mountain air, man ♪ 1321 01:37:13,023 --> 01:37:16,231 ♪ I traveled, I had my share, man ♪ 1322 01:37:16,273 --> 01:37:20,981 ♪ I've been everywhere ♪ 1323 01:37:21,023 --> 01:37:24,438 ♪ I've been to Reno, Chicago, Fargo, Minnesota ♪ 1324 01:37:24,480 --> 01:37:27,563 ♪ Buffalo, Toronto, Winslow, Sarasota ♪ 1325 01:37:27,605 --> 01:37:30,981 ♪ Wichita, Tulsa, Ottowa, Oklahoma ♪ 1326 01:37:31,023 --> 01:37:34,314 ♪ Napa, Panama, Mattawa, La Paloma ♪ 1327 01:37:34,356 --> 01:37:37,273 ♪ Bangor, Baltimore, Salvador, Amarillo ♪ 1328 01:37:37,315 --> 01:37:40,273 ♪ Tocopilla, Barranquilla, and Padilla ♪ 1329 01:37:40,315 --> 01:37:41,356 ♪ I'm a killer ♪ 1330 01:37:41,397 --> 01:37:43,981 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1331 01:37:44,023 --> 01:37:47,023 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1332 01:37:47,065 --> 01:37:50,355 ♪ I crossed the deserts bare, man ♪ 1333 01:37:50,397 --> 01:37:53,480 ♪ I breathed the mountain air, man ♪ 1334 01:37:53,522 --> 01:37:56,856 ♪ I traveled, I had my share, man ♪ 1335 01:37:56,898 --> 01:38:01,397 ♪ I've been everywhere ♪ 1336 01:38:01,439 --> 01:38:04,981 ♪ I've been to Boston, Charleston, Dayton, Louisiana ♪ 1337 01:38:05,023 --> 01:38:08,480 ♪ Washington, Houston, Kingston, Texarkana ♪ 1338 01:38:08,522 --> 01:38:11,522 ♪ Monterey, Faraday, Santa Fe, Tallapoosa ♪ 1339 01:38:11,564 --> 01:38:14,981 ♪ Glen Rock, Black Rock, Little Rock, Oskaloosa ♪ 1340 01:38:15,023 --> 01:38:18,189 ♪ Tennessee to Hennessey and Chicopee, Spirit Lake ♪ 1341 01:38:18,231 --> 01:38:21,355 ♪ Grand Lake, Devil's Lake, Crater Lake, for Pete's sake ♪ 1342 01:38:21,397 --> 01:38:24,313 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1343 01:38:24,355 --> 01:38:27,438 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1344 01:38:27,480 --> 01:38:30,939 ♪ I crossed the deserts bare, man ♪ 1345 01:38:30,981 --> 01:38:34,189 ♪ I breathed the mountain air, man ♪ 1346 01:38:34,231 --> 01:38:37,313 ♪ I traveled, I had my share, man ♪ 1347 01:38:37,355 --> 01:38:42,148 ♪ I've been everywhere ♪ 1348 01:38:42,190 --> 01:38:45,480 ♪ I been to Louisville, Nashville, Knoxville, Ombabika ♪ 1349 01:38:45,522 --> 01:38:48,564 ♪ Shefferville, Jacksonville, Waterville, Costa Rica ♪ 1350 01:38:48,606 --> 01:38:52,064 ♪ Pittsfield, Springfield, Bakersfield, Shreveport ♪ 1351 01:38:52,106 --> 01:38:55,231 ♪ Hackensack, Cadillac, Fond Du Lac, Davenport ♪ 1352 01:38:55,273 --> 01:38:59,438 ♪ Idaho, Jellicoe, Argentina Diamontina, Pasadena ♪ 1353 01:38:59,480 --> 01:39:01,397 ♪ Catalina, see what I mean, man ♪ 1354 01:39:01,439 --> 01:39:04,731 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1355 01:39:04,773 --> 01:39:08,064 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪ 1356 01:39:08,106 --> 01:39:11,231 ♪ I crossed the deserts bare, man ♪ 1357 01:39:11,272 --> 01:39:14,480 ♪ I breathed the mountain air, man ♪ 1358 01:39:14,522 --> 01:39:17,397 ♪ I traveled, I had my share, man ♪ 1359 01:39:17,439 --> 01:39:21,731 ♪ I've been everywhere ♪ 1360 01:39:21,773 --> 01:39:24,231 ♪ I've been to Pittsburgh, Parkersburg ♪ 1361 01:39:24,272 --> 01:39:25,648 ♪ Gravellburg, Colorado ♪ 1362 01:39:25,690 --> 01:39:29,106 ♪ Ellensburg, Rexburg, Vicksburg, Eldorado ♪ 1363 01:39:29,148 --> 01:39:32,564 ♪ Larrimore, Atmore, Haverstraw, Chattanika ♪ 1364 01:39:32,606 --> 01:39:35,438 ♪ Chaska, Nebraska, Alaska, Opelika ♪ 1365 01:39:35,480 --> 01:39:39,272 ♪ Baraboo, Waterloo, Kalamazoo, Kansas City ♪ 1366 01:39:39,314 --> 01:39:42,438 ♪ Sioux City, Cedar City, Dodge City, what a pity ♪ 1367 01:39:42,480 --> 01:39:47,397 ♪ I've been everywhere, man ♪