1 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:22,000 2 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,959 l have a friend, Deborah, a psychologist... 3 00:00:43,127 --> 00:00:45,294 ...who was asked by the city of Philadelphia... 4 00:00:45,462 --> 00:00:49,549 ...if she could offer psychological counseling to Cambodian refugees... 5 00:00:49,717 --> 00:00:53,261 ...boat people, who had recently arrived in the city. 6 00:00:53,429 --> 00:00:56,556 Deborah was daunted by the task. These Cambodians... 7 00:00:56,724 --> 00:01:01,728 ...had suffered genocide, starvation, relatives murdered before their eyes... 8 00:01:01,895 --> 00:01:05,648 ...years in refugee camps, harrowing boat trips to the West. 9 00:01:06,108 --> 00:01:07,984 How could she relate to their suffering? 10 00:01:08,152 --> 00:01:09,819 How could she help these people? 11 00:01:16,201 --> 00:01:18,703 So guess what all these people wanted to talk about... 12 00:01:18,871 --> 00:01:21,622 ...with my friend Deborah, the psychologist. 13 00:01:23,709 --> 00:01:26,544 lt was all, "l met this guy in the refugee camp. 14 00:01:26,712 --> 00:01:29,547 I thought he really loved me, but when we got separated... 15 00:01:29,715 --> 00:01:32,300 ...he took up with my cousin. Now he says he loves me... 16 00:01:32,468 --> 00:01:35,928 ...and keeps calling me. They're married now. What should l do?" 17 00:01:36,096 --> 00:01:37,180 This is how we are. 18 00:01:37,347 --> 00:01:38,556 May I help you? 19 00:01:38,724 --> 00:01:41,392 I'm Liz Gilbert. I'm writing a magazine article on Bali. 20 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:43,019 I wanted to meet a medicine man. 21 00:01:43,187 --> 00:01:46,272 Everyone said I should meet Ketut Liyer. Am l in the right place? 22 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:47,523 Wait. 23 00:01:47,691 --> 00:01:52,028 l mean, here I am with a ninth-generation medicine man... 24 00:01:52,196 --> 00:01:54,697 ...and what do I wanna ask him about? 25 00:01:54,865 --> 00:01:57,200 Getting closer to God? 26 00:01:57,367 --> 00:02:00,912 Saving the world's starving children? 27 00:02:01,663 --> 00:02:04,207 Happy to see you. l am Ketut Liyer. 28 00:02:04,374 --> 00:02:09,295 Nope. l wanna discuss my relationship. 29 00:02:12,591 --> 00:02:15,134 You are a world traveler. 30 00:02:15,302 --> 00:02:17,386 You will live a long time... 31 00:02:17,554 --> 00:02:20,890 ...have many friends, many experiences. 32 00:02:22,476 --> 00:02:26,145 You will have two marriages. One long, one short. 33 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:28,272 Am l in the long one or the short one? 34 00:02:28,816 --> 00:02:30,358 Can't tell. 35 00:02:30,526 --> 00:02:34,487 Also you will lose all your money. 36 00:02:35,572 --> 00:02:38,825 I think in next six to 1 0 months. 37 00:02:40,118 --> 00:02:43,204 Don't worry. You will get it all back again. 38 00:02:43,914 --> 00:02:46,290 And you will come back to Bali... 39 00:02:46,458 --> 00:02:52,755 ...and live here for three or four months and teach me English. 40 00:02:52,923 --> 00:02:56,384 I never had anybody to practice my English with. 41 00:02:57,135 --> 00:02:58,719 And then... 42 00:02:58,887 --> 00:03:04,267 ...l will teach you everything l know. 43 00:03:07,104 --> 00:03:08,938 Wait. 44 00:03:13,151 --> 00:03:15,069 I have this for you. 45 00:03:15,237 --> 00:03:18,698 Keep grounded so it's like you have four legs. 46 00:03:19,116 --> 00:03:21,367 That way, you can stay in this world. 47 00:03:21,952 --> 00:03:25,913 Also, no looking at world through your head. 48 00:03:26,081 --> 00:03:28,499 Look through your heart instead. 49 00:03:28,667 --> 00:03:30,793 That way, you will know God. 50 00:03:32,254 --> 00:03:34,463 Which is why you came here, no? 51 00:03:35,632 --> 00:03:39,051 See you later, alligator. 52 00:03:53,442 --> 00:03:56,819 I proofread all of her manuscripts. 53 00:03:56,987 --> 00:04:00,489 My wife is very, very beautiful, but she can't spell for anything. 54 00:04:00,657 --> 00:04:03,326 Look at Uncle Stephen. 55 00:04:04,828 --> 00:04:05,995 And Auntie Liz. 56 00:04:06,163 --> 00:04:09,874 I'm counting the minutes for this to be over so l can get in my big girl pants. 57 00:04:10,042 --> 00:04:12,001 You look fantastic. You just had a baby. 58 00:04:12,169 --> 00:04:14,170 Oh, you're lying. I'm fat, I'm exhausted... 59 00:04:14,338 --> 00:04:16,881 ...l can't keep two thoughts. I feel like Liza Minnelli. 60 00:04:17,049 --> 00:04:18,716 Stephen, can you hold Jack? 61 00:04:18,884 --> 00:04:21,218 -l'm gonna introduce you to Walter. -Yeah. 62 00:04:22,012 --> 00:04:25,431 Hey, dude, you wanna grab a beer or something? 63 00:04:25,682 --> 00:04:28,309 My new book comes out in April. Thank you for asking. 64 00:04:28,477 --> 00:04:29,518 -Great. -May. 65 00:04:29,686 --> 00:04:31,020 May. May. 66 00:04:31,688 --> 00:04:34,482 This is Andre. You two are Times' Most Notable nominees. 67 00:04:34,650 --> 00:04:37,360 -So glad to finally meet you. -Nice to finally meet you. 68 00:04:39,363 --> 00:04:41,072 I fed him nachos. ls that bad? 69 00:04:41,239 --> 00:04:43,741 You look comfortable. What'd you feed him, chloroform? 70 00:04:43,909 --> 00:04:45,868 -Give him to his dad. -l told you, nachos. 71 00:04:46,036 --> 00:04:48,579 Know what? I'd be asleep too if l had a dump like that. 72 00:04:48,747 --> 00:04:51,749 -We'll give him to his mom. -Come here then. 73 00:04:53,377 --> 00:04:55,503 -Wanna help me change his diaper? -Yes, I do. 74 00:04:55,671 --> 00:04:57,546 Hey, how's the vintage car thing going? 75 00:04:57,714 --> 00:05:00,508 Oh, no, no, no. l changed jobs. I'm a pastry chef now. 76 00:05:00,676 --> 00:05:02,802 -You mean you're a baker. -Yeah. 77 00:05:02,970 --> 00:05:04,720 You wanna get baked? 78 00:05:06,223 --> 00:05:08,849 I know, I know. 79 00:05:09,017 --> 00:05:11,060 It's hard, isn't it? 80 00:05:11,561 --> 00:05:15,356 Oh, no. This is so much fun. 81 00:05:15,899 --> 00:05:18,526 Did you know the exact moment you wanted to have a baby? 82 00:05:18,694 --> 00:05:23,197 I can't remember, but l've had the box since before l got married. 83 00:05:23,365 --> 00:05:24,907 What box? 84 00:05:25,075 --> 00:05:28,202 It's girly and embarrassing, and you'll laugh at me if I tell you. 85 00:05:28,662 --> 00:05:31,664 I will laugh at you, but you still have to tell me. 86 00:05:32,249 --> 00:05:34,000 Come on. 87 00:05:34,668 --> 00:05:36,168 Under the bed. 88 00:05:42,551 --> 00:05:45,261 I've been filling it with baby things... 89 00:05:45,429 --> 00:05:48,264 ...waiting until Andy was ready to be a father. 90 00:05:50,350 --> 00:05:53,227 So sweet. 91 00:05:53,395 --> 00:05:55,062 Does this come in my size? 92 00:06:01,111 --> 00:06:04,613 I have a box just like this, except it's filled with National Geographics... 93 00:06:04,781 --> 00:06:06,949 ...and The Times travel section. 94 00:06:07,117 --> 00:06:10,244 All the places l wanna see before l die. 95 00:06:10,412 --> 00:06:14,874 Liz, having a baby is like getting a tattoo on your face. 96 00:06:16,293 --> 00:06:18,461 You kind of wanna be fully committed. 97 00:06:22,424 --> 00:06:25,801 So my trip to Aruba next week, which is just a basic, you know... 98 00:06:25,969 --> 00:06:28,596 ..."where to sleep, swim and stuff your face" piece.... 99 00:06:28,764 --> 00:06:30,222 I got a new bikini. 100 00:06:30,390 --> 00:06:33,893 And it turns out, I have unlimited minibar access. 101 00:06:34,061 --> 00:06:35,895 -You know what that means? -Jet lag? 102 00:06:36,063 --> 00:06:38,773 You, me... 103 00:06:38,940 --> 00:06:40,316 ...macadamia nuts. 104 00:06:41,860 --> 00:06:42,943 That was cute. 105 00:06:43,111 --> 00:06:46,322 You know who l was talking to at the party who was really inspiring... 106 00:06:46,490 --> 00:06:47,865 -...was Tara's friend. -Brian. 107 00:06:48,033 --> 00:06:51,202 Brian. Unbelievable. He's a teacher, you know that? 108 00:06:51,369 --> 00:06:53,120 He's a substitute teacher, isn't he? 109 00:06:53,288 --> 00:06:56,332 Yeah. He was talking about the budget cuts that are happening now. 110 00:06:56,500 --> 00:06:58,250 There's no money for anything. 111 00:06:58,418 --> 00:07:01,087 There's no music classes, there's no arts classes. 112 00:07:01,254 --> 00:07:04,215 They're volunteering their time to do all of this after school. 113 00:07:04,382 --> 00:07:06,425 They're educating our kids, you know? 114 00:07:06,593 --> 00:07:09,470 I think you'd make a great teacher, honey. 115 00:07:09,638 --> 00:07:12,848 Thank you, but I was thinking more of like... 116 00:07:13,433 --> 00:07:16,769 ...education. Getting my masters, going back to school. l don't know. 117 00:07:16,937 --> 00:07:18,604 You know? 118 00:07:25,362 --> 00:07:27,488 I-- You know.... 119 00:07:28,115 --> 00:07:30,699 -Going back to school. -l'm just thinking out loud. 120 00:07:33,245 --> 00:07:38,290 I was getting the sinking feeling that Ketut's prophecy was coming true. 121 00:07:38,458 --> 00:07:41,127 Was l in the shorter marriage? 122 00:07:42,879 --> 00:07:45,881 We'd only bought this house a year ago. 123 00:07:46,550 --> 00:07:47,967 Hadn't I wanted this? 124 00:07:50,428 --> 00:07:54,723 I had actively participated in every moment of the creation... 125 00:07:54,891 --> 00:07:56,725 ...of this life. 126 00:07:56,893 --> 00:08:00,229 So why didn't I see myself in any of it? 127 00:08:05,652 --> 00:08:09,572 The only thing more impossible than staying... 128 00:08:09,739 --> 00:08:11,615 ...was leaving. 129 00:08:13,243 --> 00:08:17,413 I didn't wanna hurt anybody. l wanted to slip quietly out the back door... 130 00:08:17,581 --> 00:08:21,083 ...and not stop running until l reached Greenland. 131 00:08:25,547 --> 00:08:28,090 lnstead, l made a decision. 132 00:08:28,717 --> 00:08:30,426 To pray. 133 00:08:30,677 --> 00:08:34,096 You know, like, to God. 134 00:08:34,806 --> 00:08:39,351 And it was such a foreign concept to me, that l swear l almost began with: 135 00:08:39,519 --> 00:08:41,520 "l'm a big fan of your work." 136 00:08:48,737 --> 00:08:50,821 Hello, God? 137 00:08:53,700 --> 00:08:56,785 Nice to finally meet you. l.... 138 00:08:57,704 --> 00:09:03,959 I am sorry l've never spoken directly to you before... 139 00:09:04,127 --> 00:09:05,794 ...but... 140 00:09:06,630 --> 00:09:09,465 ...l hope l've expressed my... 141 00:09:10,133 --> 00:09:14,178 ...ample gratitude for all the blessings you've given... 142 00:09:14,346 --> 00:09:16,639 ...to me in my life. 143 00:09:26,483 --> 00:09:28,984 I'm in serious trouble. 144 00:09:30,987 --> 00:09:33,322 I don't know what to do. 145 00:09:34,658 --> 00:09:37,159 I need an answer. 146 00:09:37,661 --> 00:09:41,872 Please, tell me what to do. 147 00:09:43,416 --> 00:09:46,335 Oh, God, help me, please. 148 00:09:52,509 --> 00:09:55,469 Tell me what to do and l'll do it. 149 00:09:58,306 --> 00:10:01,016 Go back to bed, Liz. 150 00:10:22,414 --> 00:10:24,373 I don't wanna go to Aruba. 151 00:10:28,003 --> 00:10:30,629 I don't wanna be married. 152 00:10:47,939 --> 00:10:50,733 You know, there's a whole divorce section downstairs. 153 00:11:09,502 --> 00:11:11,086 -"Pepper grinder." -She's having... 154 00:11:11,254 --> 00:11:13,464 -...a nervous breakdown. -This is what girls do. 155 00:11:13,631 --> 00:11:16,133 -She's processing. -Why doesn't she get drunk or laid? 156 00:11:16,301 --> 00:11:18,302 That's what l would do if you left me. 157 00:11:18,470 --> 00:11:19,845 No, you wouldn't. 158 00:11:20,013 --> 00:11:22,723 -No, I wouldn't. -She moved out, she filed for divorce. 159 00:11:22,891 --> 00:11:26,185 They were together eight years. She's got no home. 160 00:11:33,276 --> 00:11:35,194 "Legacy." 161 00:11:37,781 --> 00:11:42,618 Every word in Italian is like a truffle. A magic trick. 162 00:11:43,119 --> 00:11:46,163 Honey, l get it. It's your life raft right now. 163 00:11:46,331 --> 00:11:49,583 When Andy and l broke up for two weeks, l bought a loom. 164 00:11:49,751 --> 00:11:52,586 A frigging loom. And he tried to start a microbrewery. 165 00:11:52,754 --> 00:11:55,714 I don't know how you guys aren't sick of me now. I'm sick of me. 166 00:11:55,882 --> 00:11:58,133 Are you kidding me? We love having you. 167 00:11:58,301 --> 00:12:00,427 It's kind of like having a writer in residence. 168 00:12:00,595 --> 00:12:03,097 But you are a writer. You should be writing something. 169 00:12:03,264 --> 00:12:07,434 Maybe I could write about a woman who goes to Italy to learn ltalian. 170 00:12:07,602 --> 00:12:11,063 Call it Carbohydrates and Conjugations. 171 00:12:11,231 --> 00:12:13,774 I'll start looking for a place. 172 00:12:15,527 --> 00:12:18,237 -l'm falling in love with you. -l'm not who you think I am. 173 00:12:18,405 --> 00:12:19,905 I'm just your fantasy. 174 00:12:20,073 --> 00:12:24,284 No, that's bullshit. You're real. 175 00:12:25,161 --> 00:12:27,454 Your scars, your talent. 176 00:12:27,622 --> 00:12:29,706 The fact that I own a piece-of-crap bar... 177 00:12:29,874 --> 00:12:32,126 ...and you accept that that's all l'm gonna do. 178 00:12:32,293 --> 00:12:33,669 Okay, this sucks. 179 00:12:33,837 --> 00:12:36,338 -l second that. -Don't be rude. 180 00:12:43,430 --> 00:12:45,556 I love your pain. 181 00:12:46,307 --> 00:12:50,269 And l love that when we're together, I can make it go away. 182 00:12:51,354 --> 00:12:52,855 -Oh, he's good. -You're love... 183 00:12:53,022 --> 00:12:56,692 -He's hot, there's a difference. -...is like a hot panini. 184 00:12:56,860 --> 00:13:01,989 And when I look into your eyes, I hear dolphins clapping. 185 00:13:02,157 --> 00:13:04,658 I did not write that line. 186 00:13:04,826 --> 00:13:06,326 Here's what he doesn't know yet. 187 00:13:07,579 --> 00:13:11,290 I disappear into the person l love. 188 00:13:11,458 --> 00:13:16,378 I am the permeable membrane. If l love you, you can have it all. 189 00:13:16,546 --> 00:13:19,381 My money, my time, my body... 190 00:13:19,549 --> 00:13:23,051 ...my dog, my dog's money. 191 00:13:23,219 --> 00:13:26,388 I will assume your debts and project upon you... 192 00:13:26,556 --> 00:13:31,727 ...all sorts of nifty qualities you've never actually cultivated in yourself. 193 00:13:31,895 --> 00:13:34,480 I will give you all this and more... 194 00:13:34,647 --> 00:13:37,483 ...until l am so exhausted and depleted... 195 00:13:37,650 --> 00:13:40,486 ...the only way l can recover... 196 00:13:40,653 --> 00:13:43,197 ...is by becoming infatuated with someone else. 197 00:13:50,413 --> 00:13:52,623 -Elizabeth, hi. -Hi. 198 00:13:52,790 --> 00:13:54,416 Oh, really? 199 00:13:57,337 --> 00:13:59,421 How you doing? 200 00:14:30,703 --> 00:14:32,454 Cheers. 201 00:14:34,123 --> 00:14:36,583 -Thank you. -l owe you an apology. 202 00:14:36,751 --> 00:14:40,629 -For the walkouts. -Well, l'm not everyone's cup of tea. 203 00:14:41,381 --> 00:14:43,340 I doubt that. 204 00:14:44,092 --> 00:14:46,093 I, on the other hand, was shit. 205 00:14:46,886 --> 00:14:51,640 -Although l was trying very hard. -"Shit" is a strong word. 206 00:14:52,308 --> 00:14:53,517 Thank you. 207 00:14:53,685 --> 00:14:56,645 You seem shorter in person than on the stage. 208 00:14:56,813 --> 00:14:58,730 -Really? l hear that a lot. -Sorry. 209 00:14:58,898 --> 00:15:00,440 It's okay. 210 00:15:01,234 --> 00:15:03,360 It's unnerving when... 211 00:15:03,528 --> 00:15:07,489 ...a total stranger sees you more clearly than you see yourself. 212 00:15:07,657 --> 00:15:09,908 That's what l mean by saying you're short. 213 00:15:14,330 --> 00:15:17,583 Are you hearing dolphins clapping right now? 214 00:15:18,918 --> 00:15:22,337 I took a few liberties with your material. 215 00:15:22,505 --> 00:15:25,799 I give you full permission to make fun of me. I know you're dying to. 216 00:15:27,510 --> 00:15:30,387 You're far too charming to make fun of. 217 00:15:34,767 --> 00:15:37,019 I'm still hearing them. 218 00:15:45,987 --> 00:15:48,322 Is that your guru? 219 00:15:49,407 --> 00:15:52,284 You're joking, but, yes, it is. 220 00:15:53,578 --> 00:15:55,495 She's beautiful. 221 00:15:55,663 --> 00:15:58,332 Yeah. A friend told me about her. 222 00:15:59,208 --> 00:16:02,127 I was out of work and feeling pretty desperate for something. 223 00:16:02,295 --> 00:16:05,130 Not the last time I was out of work, the time before that. 224 00:16:05,298 --> 00:16:10,552 And l just had this feeling like I was looking in all the wrong places. 225 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:11,970 Looking for what? 226 00:16:12,305 --> 00:16:13,347 God. 227 00:16:14,932 --> 00:16:18,268 She has an ashram in India. I'm dying to go, but... 228 00:16:18,436 --> 00:16:21,772 ...you know, you have to get, like, three stages of hepatitis shots... 229 00:16:21,939 --> 00:16:24,816 ...and my insurance always runs out. 230 00:16:25,026 --> 00:16:26,943 I'll go when the time's right. 231 00:16:27,111 --> 00:16:30,280 There's a gathering of her students every morning. 232 00:16:31,407 --> 00:16:34,409 If you want, I could take you sometime. 233 00:16:34,577 --> 00:16:39,915 If you're not unnerved by 1 00 crunchy people chanting in Sanskrit. 234 00:16:40,750 --> 00:16:43,001 I need to be unnerved. 235 00:17:13,908 --> 00:17:17,577 David. A yogi from Yonkers. 236 00:17:19,122 --> 00:17:22,499 I didn't exactly fall in love with the guy. 237 00:17:23,918 --> 00:17:26,586 What happened was I dove out of my marriage... 238 00:17:26,754 --> 00:17:28,380 ...and into David's arms... 239 00:17:28,548 --> 00:17:31,800 ...exactly the same way a cartoon circus performer... 240 00:17:31,968 --> 00:17:36,596 ...dives off a high platform and into a small cup of water... 241 00:17:37,014 --> 00:17:38,473 ...vanishing completely. 242 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:50,068 Your underwear, my queen. 243 00:17:53,656 --> 00:17:56,241 He just folded my delicates. 244 00:17:56,409 --> 00:18:00,120 Oh, my God, baby, you are in so much trouble. 245 00:18:52,173 --> 00:18:53,548 Thirty-six? 246 00:19:07,230 --> 00:19:09,731 My client is simply not interested in a divorce. 247 00:19:11,609 --> 00:19:13,777 Is he serious? 248 00:19:13,945 --> 00:19:15,821 Is he really representing himself? 249 00:19:15,988 --> 00:19:18,073 One semester of law school right here, baby. 250 00:19:18,241 --> 00:19:20,992 Great. Well, what would it take to interest your client? 251 00:19:21,577 --> 00:19:24,746 Okay, so here's the deal. You have screwed up my life... 252 00:19:24,914 --> 00:19:27,791 ...but what l wanna know is why couldn't you find yourself... 253 00:19:27,959 --> 00:19:30,836 ...in our marriage? Why didn't you say what you were thinking? 254 00:19:31,003 --> 00:19:33,505 -l did. You never listened to me. -No. You never said: 255 00:19:33,673 --> 00:19:36,424 "Hey, you know what? You suck. l'm deeply unhappy." 256 00:19:36,592 --> 00:19:39,928 You just took off. You never gave me a chance to address those problems. 257 00:19:40,096 --> 00:19:42,931 That's not fair. That's just quitting. I took vows. 258 00:19:43,099 --> 00:19:46,017 Till death. And l take them seriously. 259 00:19:46,519 --> 00:19:49,396 I believe this is just a phase and l'm willing to wait it out. 260 00:19:49,564 --> 00:19:51,022 You are always waiting, Stephen. 261 00:19:51,190 --> 00:19:53,441 Waiting for me to come home, to wanna have kids... 262 00:19:53,609 --> 00:19:56,278 ...to make you dinner. I don't know why we can't accept... 263 00:19:56,445 --> 00:19:58,613 ...we don't wanna live in unhappiness anymore. 264 00:19:58,781 --> 00:20:01,283 I accept the fact that I am occasionally unreliable... 265 00:20:01,450 --> 00:20:04,703 ...and l often get sidetracked, but I thought you liked that about me. 266 00:20:04,871 --> 00:20:07,205 I thought it was okay that I had hopes and dreams. 267 00:20:07,373 --> 00:20:10,959 Have a dream. Stephen, great, fine. Do that. Just pick one. 268 00:20:11,127 --> 00:20:13,128 Okay, l pick one. I pick you. 269 00:20:22,930 --> 00:20:25,348 I know this is awful. 270 00:20:26,726 --> 00:20:31,396 But l believe with every molecule of my body that you will find the person... 271 00:20:31,564 --> 00:20:34,149 ...that wants just what you want. 272 00:20:34,317 --> 00:20:37,652 That will give you what you want and what you deserve. l'm not her. 273 00:20:38,070 --> 00:20:42,157 Well, you obviously know nothing about what l want. 274 00:20:45,244 --> 00:20:47,495 My client would like to submit a song he wrote... 275 00:20:47,663 --> 00:20:52,000 ...that he believes is relevant to these proceedings. Goes something like this: 276 00:20:53,002 --> 00:20:54,628 Are you kidding? 277 00:20:58,841 --> 00:21:01,134 Quitter, quitter, quitter! 278 00:21:01,302 --> 00:21:04,262 How about l take the blame? I am the one who couldn't deal... 279 00:21:04,430 --> 00:21:07,432 ...with another weekend roaming some box-shaped superstore... 280 00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:09,142 ...buying appliances on credit... 281 00:21:09,310 --> 00:21:13,480 ...and pretending to be a couple that neither one of us ever knew how to be. 282 00:21:13,648 --> 00:21:15,023 You wanted that toaster. 283 00:21:15,191 --> 00:21:20,528 "You like faking it, fine. You're stellar. I'm the failure. l suck at faking it." 284 00:21:20,863 --> 00:21:23,698 -lt was not my finest hour. -So where do things stand now? 285 00:21:23,866 --> 00:21:26,284 We're prepared to offer half of everything... 286 00:21:26,452 --> 00:21:29,496 ...and my client's retirement accounts. 287 00:21:30,665 --> 00:21:32,874 Take it all then. Everything. 288 00:21:33,042 --> 00:21:35,377 He still said no. 289 00:21:35,878 --> 00:21:38,672 -He hates me now. -He doesn't hate you. 290 00:21:38,839 --> 00:21:41,216 His heart is broken. 291 00:21:44,387 --> 00:21:45,887 I think he hates you. 292 00:21:46,055 --> 00:21:48,014 I'm never letting you out of the basement. 293 00:21:48,182 --> 00:21:51,434 Why don't we talk next week and we'll see where things stand? 294 00:21:51,602 --> 00:21:53,186 -Okay. -These things have a way... 295 00:21:53,354 --> 00:21:54,980 ...of working themselves out. 296 00:22:10,079 --> 00:22:11,830 So why'd you become a vegetarian? 297 00:22:11,998 --> 00:22:14,249 I saw some cows slaughtered one time. 298 00:22:14,417 --> 00:22:16,251 Barely touched your dinner. 299 00:22:16,419 --> 00:22:18,753 He's 28. 300 00:22:21,590 --> 00:22:24,676 This is hard for him, isn't it? And you? 301 00:22:24,844 --> 00:22:27,178 The meditations help. 302 00:22:28,472 --> 00:22:29,764 Liz. 303 00:22:30,141 --> 00:22:33,226 You remember a couple of years ago, when you threw yourself into... 304 00:22:33,394 --> 00:22:36,062 ...the renovation of your kitchen? You were consumed... 305 00:22:36,230 --> 00:22:38,148 ...with being the perfect wife and cook. 306 00:22:38,315 --> 00:22:39,733 I was trying to make it work. 307 00:22:39,900 --> 00:22:42,777 Well, l think chanting and meditation is the same thing... 308 00:22:42,945 --> 00:22:44,612 ...in a different costume. 309 00:22:48,242 --> 00:22:49,951 Definitely give me that documentary. 310 00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:52,078 I've been thinking about vegetarianism. 311 00:22:52,246 --> 00:22:54,205 My triglycerides are through the roof. 312 00:22:54,373 --> 00:22:55,707 Yeah. Thanks for everything. 313 00:22:55,875 --> 00:22:57,917 Great to meet you. 314 00:23:02,298 --> 00:23:06,176 -What? -Nothing. lt's just... 315 00:23:06,343 --> 00:23:08,303 ...you know, you used to look like Stephen. 316 00:23:08,471 --> 00:23:10,805 Now you kind of look like David. 317 00:23:10,973 --> 00:23:12,599 You know? 318 00:23:13,392 --> 00:23:18,146 What l meant was, you know how people start resembling their dogs? 319 00:23:20,649 --> 00:23:23,109 Why would he say that, we look like the same dog? 320 00:23:23,277 --> 00:23:24,819 -He was joking. -Not funny. 321 00:23:24,987 --> 00:23:27,530 Well, he had five Heinekens. He was bombed. 322 00:23:27,698 --> 00:23:29,908 Well, not funny. 323 00:23:30,076 --> 00:23:32,535 We don't look like the same dog. 324 00:23:33,329 --> 00:23:38,792 If anything, you're a collie and l'm a Tibetan mastiff. 325 00:23:48,928 --> 00:23:51,971 Don't you wanna give me a chance to miss you? 326 00:24:13,202 --> 00:24:15,829 It begins when the object of your affection... 327 00:24:15,996 --> 00:24:19,541 ...bestows upon you a heady hallucinogenic dose... 328 00:24:19,708 --> 00:24:22,710 ...of something you've never even dared to admit you wanted... 329 00:24:22,878 --> 00:24:26,798 ...an emotional speedball of thunderous love and excitement. 330 00:24:26,966 --> 00:24:30,260 Soon you start craving that attention with the hungry obsession... 331 00:24:30,427 --> 00:24:32,053 ...of any junkie. 332 00:24:32,221 --> 00:24:35,723 When it's withheld, you turn sick, crazy, not to mention resentful... 333 00:24:35,891 --> 00:24:39,060 ...of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place... 334 00:24:39,228 --> 00:24:41,604 ...but now refuses to pony up the good stuff. 335 00:24:41,772 --> 00:24:44,732 Just frustrated, l'm concerned. I don't understand. 336 00:24:44,900 --> 00:24:46,401 What don't you get? 337 00:24:46,569 --> 00:24:48,653 What's going on? You don't look me in the eye. 338 00:24:48,821 --> 00:24:51,197 -You don't finish your-- -Nobody's asking you to make the bed! 339 00:24:51,365 --> 00:24:54,117 -You don't have sex with me! -Sometimes I'm not in the mood! 340 00:24:54,285 --> 00:24:56,911 Goddamn him, and he used to give it to you for free. 341 00:24:57,079 --> 00:25:00,081 Next stage finds you skinny, shaking in a corner... 342 00:25:00,249 --> 00:25:02,250 ...certain only that you'd sell your soul... 343 00:25:02,418 --> 00:25:04,502 ...just to have that one thing one more time. 344 00:25:04,670 --> 00:25:07,297 Well, then why don't we discuss it? Why don't we sort it? 345 00:25:07,464 --> 00:25:10,800 -Why don't we act like adults? -Okay. Can I have a little space? 346 00:25:10,968 --> 00:25:12,594 -How about that? -Meanwhile... 347 00:25:12,761 --> 00:25:16,180 ...the object of your adoration is now repulsed by you. 348 00:25:16,348 --> 00:25:19,225 -You don't always make me miserable. -There's a comfort. 349 00:25:19,393 --> 00:25:22,854 I just-- Sometimes l need to come home... 350 00:25:23,522 --> 00:25:25,273 ...and have a little David time. 351 00:25:25,441 --> 00:25:28,776 He looks at you like someone he's never met before. 352 00:25:28,944 --> 00:25:30,695 -ls that okay? -Yeah. No, it's fine. 353 00:25:30,863 --> 00:25:33,948 And not have to, like, you know, justify it. 354 00:25:34,116 --> 00:25:37,243 The irony is you can hardly blame him. 355 00:25:37,411 --> 00:25:40,788 I mean, check yourself out. You're a mess. 356 00:25:40,956 --> 00:25:43,458 Unrecognizable even to your own eyes. 357 00:25:43,626 --> 00:25:45,627 You asked me to come here? Here l am. 358 00:25:45,794 --> 00:25:47,629 And it turned into something else. 359 00:25:47,796 --> 00:25:50,256 -Didn't it? -You are such a child. 360 00:25:54,428 --> 00:25:57,805 -Right. I can't take this anymore. -Great. Perfect. 361 00:25:57,973 --> 00:26:01,309 That's a great response to a conversation. 362 00:26:01,477 --> 00:26:02,518 Goddamn it. 363 00:26:02,686 --> 00:26:07,607 You have now reached infatuation's final destination. 364 00:26:08,484 --> 00:26:14,447 The complete and merciless devaluation of self. 365 00:26:48,649 --> 00:26:50,024 You wanna go away for a year? 366 00:26:50,192 --> 00:26:52,318 Do you know what I felt when l woke up, Delia? 367 00:26:52,486 --> 00:26:57,073 Nothing. No passion, no spark, no faith, no heat. Absolutely nothing. 368 00:26:57,241 --> 00:27:00,451 I've gotten past the point where I can be calling this a bad moment. 369 00:27:00,619 --> 00:27:03,955 And it just terrifies me. Jesus, this is like worse than death to me... 370 00:27:04,123 --> 00:27:06,958 ...the idea that this is the person I'm gonna be from now on. 371 00:27:07,126 --> 00:27:08,418 This happens to people. 372 00:27:08,585 --> 00:27:10,670 They fall in love in their 20s, get married... 373 00:27:10,838 --> 00:27:13,798 ...do the granite countertop, white-picket fence in their 30s... 374 00:27:13,966 --> 00:27:16,342 ...and somewhere they realize, "This is not for me." 375 00:27:16,510 --> 00:27:20,013 So they fail and they fall down, they hurt like hell, they straighten up... 376 00:27:20,180 --> 00:27:22,432 ...and march their asses to the shrink's office. 377 00:27:22,599 --> 00:27:26,102 -They can't just check out. -l am not checking out. 378 00:27:26,270 --> 00:27:27,770 I need to change. 379 00:27:27,938 --> 00:27:30,189 You have a support system here, Liz. 380 00:27:30,357 --> 00:27:32,191 You have friends and family who love you. 381 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:36,029 And do you feel my love for you? My support for you? No. 382 00:27:36,196 --> 00:27:38,698 There's, like, nothing. l have no pulse. 383 00:27:41,243 --> 00:27:43,661 -l am going to Italy. -ltaly. Why ltaly? 384 00:27:43,829 --> 00:27:46,289 -What did you have for lunch? -l don't know. A salad. 385 00:27:46,457 --> 00:27:51,669 Exactly. l used to have this appetite for food, for my life... 386 00:27:51,837 --> 00:27:52,962 ...and it is just gone. 387 00:27:54,548 --> 00:27:58,843 I wanna go someplace where l can marvel at something. 388 00:27:59,011 --> 00:28:02,430 Language, gelato, spaghetti, something. 389 00:28:02,598 --> 00:28:05,516 -You're talking like a college kid. -l've been acting like one. 390 00:28:05,684 --> 00:28:09,228 Since I was 1 5, I've either been with a guy or breaking up with a guy. 391 00:28:09,396 --> 00:28:12,356 I have not given myself two weeks of a breather... 392 00:28:12,524 --> 00:28:15,818 ...to just deal with, you know, myself. 393 00:28:18,155 --> 00:28:20,031 What's going on with you and David? 394 00:28:28,665 --> 00:28:29,749 What, did you fall out? 395 00:28:30,084 --> 00:28:32,126 I don't know how to be here. 396 00:28:32,294 --> 00:28:35,922 You wanna know how to be here? Stop constantly waiting for something. 397 00:28:40,594 --> 00:28:45,306 I'm going to Italy and then l'm going to David's guru's ashram in lndia... 398 00:28:45,474 --> 00:28:48,893 ...and l'm going to end the year in Bali. 399 00:28:52,064 --> 00:28:53,439 That's what l'm gonna do. 400 00:28:53,607 --> 00:28:56,275 That's harder to argue with. The beaches are nice. But why? 401 00:28:56,443 --> 00:28:58,444 -Ketut told me I would. -Guy with no teeth. 402 00:28:58,612 --> 00:28:59,695 When you're desperate... 403 00:28:59,863 --> 00:29:02,365 ...and some guy who, yes, looks a little like Yoda... 404 00:29:02,533 --> 00:29:05,785 ...hands you a prophecy, you have to respond. 405 00:29:05,953 --> 00:29:08,121 -Do you need a Xanax? -Always. 406 00:29:09,123 --> 00:29:12,458 Okay, l'm just gonna say it. I'm gonna say it and be done with it. 407 00:29:12,626 --> 00:29:13,709 What if it doesn't work? 408 00:29:18,215 --> 00:29:21,050 My whole life fits in a 1 2-foot-square box. 409 00:29:22,803 --> 00:29:25,471 You know how many times I hear that in a day? 410 00:29:25,639 --> 00:29:27,932 Most of them never come back for their whole life. 411 00:29:32,813 --> 00:29:33,980 -Hello? -Liz. 412 00:29:34,148 --> 00:29:37,108 Good news. Stephen just signed the divorce papers. 413 00:29:45,826 --> 00:29:50,037 I'll probably be back in a week, penniless with dysentery. 414 00:29:50,205 --> 00:29:52,081 You're my hero. 415 00:30:05,804 --> 00:30:07,180 Hey. 416 00:30:08,765 --> 00:30:11,309 If you stay, we'll go out for lndian every night. 417 00:30:13,395 --> 00:30:15,271 You never asked me to stay. 418 00:30:21,570 --> 00:30:23,446 Go, go, go. 419 00:30:43,550 --> 00:30:45,176 You know what's funny? 420 00:30:45,344 --> 00:30:48,971 This is the first time in my life there's no one waiting at home for me. 421 00:30:49,139 --> 00:30:51,015 I don't even have a home to come back to. 422 00:30:51,183 --> 00:30:52,516 Oh, God. You'll make friends. 423 00:30:52,684 --> 00:30:54,810 You'll make friends with a backpack, of course. 424 00:30:54,978 --> 00:30:56,437 It'd be great to get away. 425 00:30:56,605 --> 00:31:00,775 Andy and l were talking about getting a little villa in Florence for a month. 426 00:31:00,943 --> 00:31:03,611 You know, and in 1 0 years, when Jack is older.... 427 00:31:04,613 --> 00:31:05,947 What? 428 00:31:08,033 --> 00:31:10,952 You know why l was giving you such a hard time? 429 00:31:12,204 --> 00:31:15,706 I love my job, my guy and my kid, but.... 430 00:31:17,626 --> 00:31:19,627 I wish I could go. 431 00:31:28,804 --> 00:31:30,304 I love you and l'm proud of you. 432 00:31:31,306 --> 00:31:32,848 Now go. 433 00:31:56,456 --> 00:31:58,332 There is a wonderful old Italian joke... 434 00:31:58,500 --> 00:32:00,835 ...about a poor man who goes to church every day... 435 00:32:01,003 --> 00:32:05,339 ...and prays before the statue of a great saint, begging: 436 00:32:06,133 --> 00:32:12,138 "Dear saint, please, please, please let me win the lottery." 437 00:32:12,973 --> 00:32:15,766 Finally, the exasperated statue comes to life... 438 00:32:15,934 --> 00:32:18,144 ...and looks down at the begging man and says: 439 00:32:18,353 --> 00:32:23,733 "My son, please, please, please buy a ticket." 440 00:32:24,568 --> 00:32:26,360 So now l get the joke. 441 00:32:26,528 --> 00:32:29,155 And l've got three tickets. 442 00:32:49,634 --> 00:32:52,678 You heat the water on the stove. 443 00:32:54,598 --> 00:32:56,891 So if I want to bathe...? 444 00:32:57,059 --> 00:33:02,063 You put the water in the tub. 445 00:33:04,483 --> 00:33:06,400 Okay. 446 00:33:06,735 --> 00:33:13,157 Yeah. lt doesn't really seem like enough water to bathe in. 447 00:33:15,243 --> 00:33:17,745 Not enough. 448 00:33:17,913 --> 00:33:19,663 Yes, it's enough. 449 00:33:19,831 --> 00:33:23,209 Fill it up three, four, five times. 450 00:33:23,710 --> 00:33:26,921 Everything that's important gets cleaned. 451 00:33:43,146 --> 00:33:45,606 Is this safe? This... 452 00:33:46,858 --> 00:33:49,110 ...scaffolding? Scaffol-- 453 00:33:49,277 --> 00:33:51,278 It holds up the ceiling. 454 00:33:51,446 --> 00:33:54,657 Otherwise it will fall apart. 455 00:33:55,325 --> 00:33:56,951 Everything falls apart, my dear. 456 00:33:57,119 --> 00:34:01,789 The only thing permanent in life is family. 457 00:34:05,877 --> 00:34:07,086 You're not married. 458 00:34:08,255 --> 00:34:10,214 No, divorziata. 459 00:34:10,632 --> 00:34:12,258 Why divorced? 460 00:34:16,179 --> 00:34:17,596 We broke it. 461 00:34:20,642 --> 00:34:23,144 You're more happy now? 462 00:34:27,524 --> 00:34:29,108 I have one rule. 463 00:34:29,651 --> 00:34:34,822 No strange men spending the night. 464 00:34:34,990 --> 00:34:37,700 You American girls when you come to ltaly... 465 00:34:37,868 --> 00:34:40,202 ...all you want is pasta... 466 00:34:40,370 --> 00:34:42,413 ...and sausage. 467 00:34:47,252 --> 00:34:48,335 I'll take it. 468 00:34:48,670 --> 00:34:49,962 Good. You chose well. 469 00:35:24,164 --> 00:35:25,206 Cappuccino. 470 00:35:25,373 --> 00:35:28,542 -lt's a zoo in here. -And my ltalian sucks. 471 00:35:28,710 --> 00:35:31,212 -How long have you been here? -Two weeks. You? 472 00:35:31,379 --> 00:35:33,297 Six weeks. You'll get better. 473 00:35:33,965 --> 00:35:35,216 Two cappuccinos, please. 474 00:35:35,383 --> 00:35:37,092 And warm the milk this time. 475 00:35:37,260 --> 00:35:39,303 Yesterday it was too hot and burned my tongue. 476 00:35:39,930 --> 00:35:41,764 -You like Napoleons? -Of course. 477 00:35:41,932 --> 00:35:44,308 And two Napoleons, please. 478 00:35:45,060 --> 00:35:47,144 Your Italian is fantastic. 479 00:35:47,312 --> 00:35:50,689 I have a wonderful tutor. I'll give you his number if you like. 480 00:35:50,857 --> 00:35:53,442 -He's really good and he needs work. -Oh, great. 481 00:35:53,610 --> 00:35:55,527 Are you Dutch? German? 482 00:35:55,695 --> 00:35:59,323 Swedish. Even colder people, if you can imagine. 483 00:35:59,991 --> 00:36:02,868 -l'm Liz, by the way. -Sofi. 484 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:22,000 485 00:37:28,621 --> 00:37:29,663 You can say: 486 00:37:34,794 --> 00:37:35,919 It's past. 487 00:37:47,682 --> 00:37:49,016 Too fast, but okay. 488 00:37:49,184 --> 00:37:50,309 You can say: 489 00:37:53,146 --> 00:37:54,521 Yeah. 490 00:38:02,781 --> 00:38:04,198 What a beautiful word. 491 00:38:04,366 --> 00:38:07,701 Come on, it's "let's cross over." It's so ordinary. 492 00:38:08,536 --> 00:38:12,873 No, it's the perfect combination of ltalian sounds. 493 00:38:13,041 --> 00:38:17,211 It's the wistful "ah," the rolling trill, the soothing "ess." 494 00:38:17,545 --> 00:38:19,380 -That's true. -l love it. 495 00:38:19,756 --> 00:38:22,091 All right, let me teach you a word. 496 00:38:26,679 --> 00:38:32,017 Therapist. 497 00:38:32,185 --> 00:38:33,977 -Come on. -Good. You gotta learn humor. 498 00:38:34,145 --> 00:38:35,646 -lt's not. -Come on. Cheers. 499 00:38:44,072 --> 00:38:46,240 -Shall we continue Tuesday at 5? -Yes. 500 00:38:46,408 --> 00:38:49,576 -With another bottle of the therapy? -Of course. 501 00:38:49,744 --> 00:38:52,121 -You're doing very well, Liz. -Thank you. 502 00:38:52,288 --> 00:38:54,456 And you must be very polite with yourself... 503 00:38:54,624 --> 00:38:56,125 ...when you learn something new. 504 00:38:56,292 --> 00:38:58,085 Yes. Grazie, I agree. 505 00:38:58,253 --> 00:39:01,797 But your English-- How are you even talking to me like this right now? 506 00:39:01,965 --> 00:39:04,508 I think you're gonna teach me more than I teach you. 507 00:39:04,676 --> 00:39:06,593 You have good Italian. Very good. 508 00:39:06,928 --> 00:39:08,220 All right. 509 00:39:52,307 --> 00:39:54,808 I am alone. 510 00:41:53,761 --> 00:41:56,263 I feel so guilty. I've been in Rome for three weeks... 511 00:41:56,431 --> 00:41:58,932 ...all l've done is learn a few ltalian words and eat. 512 00:41:59,100 --> 00:42:00,934 You feel guilty because you're American. 513 00:42:01,102 --> 00:42:02,978 You don't know how to enjoy yourself. 514 00:42:03,146 --> 00:42:05,355 -l beg your pardon? -lt's true. 515 00:42:05,523 --> 00:42:08,775 Americans know entertainment, but don't know pleasure. 516 00:42:09,444 --> 00:42:12,195 This is Luca Spaghetti, by the way, you know. 517 00:42:12,780 --> 00:42:14,906 Your name is Luca Spaghetti? 518 00:42:15,074 --> 00:42:16,950 Yes, that's what our family is called. 519 00:42:17,118 --> 00:42:19,953 We invented it. I'm serious. Listen to me. 520 00:42:20,121 --> 00:42:22,497 You want to know your problem? Americans. 521 00:42:22,832 --> 00:42:25,083 You work too hard. You get burned out. 522 00:42:25,251 --> 00:42:27,919 Then you come home and spend the whole weekend... 523 00:42:28,087 --> 00:42:30,714 ...in your pajamas in front of the TV. 524 00:42:30,882 --> 00:42:32,633 That's not far off, actually. 525 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:36,970 But you don't know pleasure. You have to be told you've earned it. 526 00:42:37,138 --> 00:42:40,057 You see a commercial that says, "It's Miller time"... 527 00:42:40,224 --> 00:42:44,311 ...and you say, "That's right. Now I will go to buy a six-pack." 528 00:42:44,479 --> 00:42:49,316 And drink the whole thing and wake up the next morning and you feel terrible. 529 00:42:49,484 --> 00:42:52,319 But an ltalian doesn't need to be told. 530 00:42:52,487 --> 00:42:56,698 He walks by a sign that says, "you deserve a break today"... 531 00:42:56,866 --> 00:42:58,325 ...and he says, "Yeah, l know. 532 00:42:58,493 --> 00:43:02,329 That's why I'm planning on taking a break at noon... 533 00:43:02,497 --> 00:43:05,749 ...to go over to your house and sleep with your wife." 534 00:43:07,335 --> 00:43:09,836 We call it "dolce far niente." 535 00:43:10,004 --> 00:43:11,421 It means... 536 00:43:11,756 --> 00:43:15,509 ...the sweetness of doing nothing. We are masters of it. 537 00:43:28,314 --> 00:43:30,232 He's right. He says... 538 00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:32,150 ...you can't learn ltalian like this. 539 00:43:32,318 --> 00:43:36,738 You don't speak the language just with your mouth, speak it with your hands. 540 00:43:36,906 --> 00:43:37,948 Like this? 541 00:43:41,536 --> 00:43:44,204 Okay. ls yelling. 542 00:43:48,209 --> 00:43:49,459 'THAT MEAL WAS EXCELLENT' 543 00:43:59,679 --> 00:44:01,054 'SUCK IT' 544 00:44:03,224 --> 00:44:05,016 All this gives me a stomachache. 545 00:44:06,185 --> 00:44:07,436 'SCREW YOU' 546 00:44:08,312 --> 00:44:11,231 -l think that's my neighbor Lorenzo. -Charming. 547 00:44:14,736 --> 00:44:17,195 ANOTHER WAY TO SAY 'SCREW YOU' 548 00:44:28,124 --> 00:44:30,542 So anyway, to start off l'd say.... 549 00:44:30,710 --> 00:44:32,377 Excuse me. 550 00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:33,962 Come here. 551 00:44:36,632 --> 00:44:37,674 For the table... 552 00:44:37,842 --> 00:44:40,927 ...a big platter of artichoke alla giudia... 553 00:44:41,262 --> 00:44:42,596 ...prosciutto with melon... 554 00:44:42,764 --> 00:44:45,140 ...and eggplant with ricotta affumicata. 555 00:44:46,058 --> 00:44:48,018 Then spaghetti alla carbonara... 556 00:44:48,686 --> 00:44:50,771 ...pappardelle with ragu of rabbit... 557 00:44:50,938 --> 00:44:52,898 ...and linguini with clams. 558 00:44:53,065 --> 00:44:55,275 Then tripe alla romana... 559 00:44:55,443 --> 00:44:56,443 ...and saltimbocca. 560 00:44:56,611 --> 00:44:59,613 And two more liters of the vino sfuso from Genzano. 561 00:44:59,781 --> 00:45:01,072 Thank you. 562 00:45:03,493 --> 00:45:06,286 You did it. Yes. 563 00:45:06,454 --> 00:45:08,455 Liz Gilbert, you are a Roman woman now. 564 00:45:08,623 --> 00:45:10,916 No, only honorary. 565 00:45:11,083 --> 00:45:13,043 That is a real Roman woman. 566 00:45:16,589 --> 00:45:19,424 Yeah, with a lot of international friends. 567 00:45:19,592 --> 00:45:21,134 That one, I'd bite. 568 00:45:22,637 --> 00:45:24,846 Maybe you and Rome just have different words. 569 00:45:25,014 --> 00:45:26,640 -Different words? -Yeah. 570 00:45:26,808 --> 00:45:30,477 Yeah. lt's like each city has a word, if you really think about it. 571 00:45:30,645 --> 00:45:33,480 Like, what is the word for London? 572 00:45:33,648 --> 00:45:36,107 -l would say "stuffy." -l would agree with that. 573 00:45:36,484 --> 00:45:39,653 -What's the word for Stockholm? -Are you kidding? "Conform." 574 00:45:39,821 --> 00:45:41,112 And New York? 575 00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:44,658 "Ambition" or "soot." 576 00:45:44,992 --> 00:45:47,160 What's the word for Rome? 577 00:45:47,578 --> 00:45:49,412 It's kind of difficult to think about. 578 00:45:49,580 --> 00:45:50,789 It's classic. 579 00:45:50,957 --> 00:45:52,457 "Sex." 580 00:45:55,044 --> 00:45:56,670 Of course. 581 00:46:23,030 --> 00:46:26,700 So, what's your word, Liz? I'm curious. l can't figure it out. 582 00:46:26,868 --> 00:46:28,535 Well.... 583 00:46:31,247 --> 00:46:33,373 It might be.... 584 00:46:34,166 --> 00:46:39,045 It started as "daughter." I was good at that. And then... 585 00:46:39,505 --> 00:46:42,382 ..."wife." Not so good. 586 00:46:42,550 --> 00:46:44,384 "Girlfriend." 587 00:46:45,386 --> 00:46:47,053 Not so good. 588 00:46:47,221 --> 00:46:48,680 My word's "writer." 589 00:46:48,848 --> 00:46:52,350 Yeah, but that's what you do. That isn't who you are, no? 590 00:46:52,852 --> 00:46:55,020 Maybe you're a woman in search of her word. 591 00:47:08,284 --> 00:47:12,579 Hey, Sofi, it's Liz. Let's go to Naples. Maybe my word is "pizza." 592 00:47:27,094 --> 00:47:30,680 Listen, lady, I am only 7, but l can tell you're a complete moron... 593 00:47:30,848 --> 00:47:33,183 ...because I am from Naples. 594 00:47:33,768 --> 00:47:36,061 I love this place, but Giovanni said to watch out. 595 00:47:36,228 --> 00:47:38,772 His cousin got mugged here in a museum. 596 00:47:38,940 --> 00:47:41,441 -Are you serious? -Watch out for the scooter. Yeah. 597 00:47:55,289 --> 00:47:58,959 I'm in love. l'm having a relationship with my pizza. 598 00:47:59,335 --> 00:48:02,420 You look like you're breaking up with the pizza. What's the matter? 599 00:48:02,588 --> 00:48:03,797 I can't. 600 00:48:03,965 --> 00:48:06,424 What do you mean, you can't? This is pizza in Napoli. 601 00:48:06,592 --> 00:48:08,760 It is your moral imperative to eat that pizza. 602 00:48:09,136 --> 00:48:13,264 I want to, but I've gained, like, 1 0 pounds. 603 00:48:13,432 --> 00:48:15,433 I mean, l've got this.... 604 00:48:15,601 --> 00:48:17,811 Right here. What's it called? What's the word? 605 00:48:18,104 --> 00:48:20,313 A muffin top. 606 00:48:21,148 --> 00:48:22,816 I have one too. 607 00:48:22,984 --> 00:48:25,735 I unbuttoned my jeans five minutes ago just looking at this. 608 00:48:25,903 --> 00:48:27,195 Let me ask you a question. 609 00:48:27,363 --> 00:48:30,448 In all the years you've ever undressed in front of a gentleman.... 610 00:48:30,950 --> 00:48:34,285 -Hasn't been that many. -All right, well... 611 00:48:34,704 --> 00:48:36,329 ...has he ever asked you to leave? 612 00:48:36,497 --> 00:48:39,290 -Has he ever walked out? Left? -No. 613 00:48:39,667 --> 00:48:41,126 Because he doesn't care. 614 00:48:41,293 --> 00:48:44,004 He's in a room with a naked girl. He's won the lottery. 615 00:48:44,171 --> 00:48:48,008 I'm so tired of saying no and then waking up in the morning... 616 00:48:48,175 --> 00:48:51,136 ...and recalling every single thing I ate the day before. 617 00:48:51,303 --> 00:48:53,346 Counting every calorie so l know exactly... 618 00:48:53,514 --> 00:48:56,474 ...how much self-loathing to take into the shower. 619 00:48:56,851 --> 00:48:58,518 I'm going for it. 620 00:48:58,686 --> 00:49:02,022 I have no interest in being obese. I'm just through with the guilt. 621 00:49:02,356 --> 00:49:04,983 This is what l'm gonna do. I'm gonna finish this pizza... 622 00:49:05,151 --> 00:49:07,986 ...and then we're gonna go watch the soccer game. 623 00:49:08,154 --> 00:49:10,572 And tomorrow we're gonna go on a little date... 624 00:49:10,740 --> 00:49:14,159 ...and buy ourselves some bigger jeans. 625 00:49:15,369 --> 00:49:17,829 Giovanni likes a muffin. 626 00:49:21,042 --> 00:49:22,208 Attagirl. 627 00:49:36,557 --> 00:49:38,892 He's saying, "For whom are you playing?" 628 00:49:39,060 --> 00:49:40,310 Per chi, for whom. 629 00:49:47,026 --> 00:49:50,111 Pull, pull. l'm sucking it in. 630 00:49:51,864 --> 00:49:53,531 Put some Swedish muscle into this. 631 00:49:57,912 --> 00:49:59,913 You think this happened to Sophia Loren? 632 00:50:00,081 --> 00:50:01,539 There it goes. Almost got it. 633 00:50:03,417 --> 00:50:05,418 Go, go, go. You're not trying. 634 00:50:07,379 --> 00:50:10,048 I've almost got it. l've almost got it. I did it. 635 00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:36,074 Oh, that's beautiful. You should get it. 636 00:50:37,701 --> 00:50:39,369 For whom? 637 00:50:39,829 --> 00:50:42,622 For you, Liz. Just for you. 638 00:50:45,876 --> 00:50:48,962 No, I'm happy just with my big lady pants. 639 00:51:06,397 --> 00:51:08,398 Thanks for the day. And the leg room. 640 00:51:10,025 --> 00:51:11,317 It was fun. 641 00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,113 We're gonna go for food. Wanna come? 642 00:51:15,281 --> 00:51:17,824 No. No, l'm good. 643 00:52:19,136 --> 00:52:21,679 The sweetness of doing nothing. 644 00:52:34,985 --> 00:52:36,736 Please. Please get off the floor. 645 00:52:44,161 --> 00:52:48,039 Will you please just...? Will you come up here? 646 00:52:57,883 --> 00:53:02,512 What if we just acknowledge that we have a screwed-up relationship... 647 00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,556 ...and we stick it out anyway? 648 00:53:06,725 --> 00:53:10,103 We accept that we fight a lot... 649 00:53:10,271 --> 00:53:13,106 ...and we hardly have sex anymore... 650 00:53:13,274 --> 00:53:17,026 ...but that we don't wanna live without each other. 651 00:53:17,486 --> 00:53:20,655 And that way we can spend our lives together... 652 00:53:20,823 --> 00:53:22,865 ...miserable... 653 00:53:23,993 --> 00:53:26,953 ...but happy not to be apart. 654 00:53:34,962 --> 00:53:36,713 Dear David: 655 00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:38,965 We haven't had any communication in a while... 656 00:53:39,133 --> 00:53:42,135 ...and it's given me time I needed to think. 657 00:53:42,594 --> 00:53:45,888 Remember when you said we should live with each other and be unhappy... 658 00:53:46,056 --> 00:53:47,390 ...so we could be happy? 659 00:53:47,558 --> 00:53:49,809 Consider it a testimony to how much I love you... 660 00:53:49,977 --> 00:53:52,645 ...that I spent so long pouring myself into that offer... 661 00:53:52,813 --> 00:53:54,981 ...trying to make it work. 662 00:53:55,357 --> 00:53:58,318 But a friend took me to the most amazing place the other day. 663 00:53:58,485 --> 00:53:59,986 It's called the Augusteum. 664 00:54:00,487 --> 00:54:03,906 Octavian Augustus built it to house his remains. 665 00:54:04,074 --> 00:54:07,493 When the barbarians came, they trashed it along with everything else. 666 00:54:07,661 --> 00:54:11,164 The great Augustus, Rome's first true great emperor... 667 00:54:11,373 --> 00:54:13,291 ...how could he have imagined that Rome... 668 00:54:13,459 --> 00:54:17,003 ...the whole world, as far as he was concerned, would be in ruins? 669 00:54:17,171 --> 00:54:20,923 During the Dark Ages, someone came in here and stole the emperor's ashes. 670 00:54:21,091 --> 00:54:23,593 In the 12th century, it became a fortress... 671 00:54:23,761 --> 00:54:25,136 ...then a bullring. 672 00:54:25,304 --> 00:54:27,305 They stored fireworks in here after that. 673 00:54:28,515 --> 00:54:30,683 Nowadays, it's a bathroom for the homeless... 674 00:54:30,893 --> 00:54:33,686 ...so you better watch your step going down. 675 00:54:36,315 --> 00:54:40,693 It's one of the quietest and loneliest places in Rome. 676 00:54:40,861 --> 00:54:44,322 The city has grown up around it over centuries. 677 00:54:44,490 --> 00:54:46,491 It feels like a precious wound... 678 00:54:46,658 --> 00:54:50,370 ...like a heartbreak you won't let go of because it hurts too good. 679 00:54:50,537 --> 00:54:52,705 I like it messy. 680 00:54:53,290 --> 00:54:56,042 We all want things to stay the same, David. 681 00:54:56,210 --> 00:54:58,878 I guess the guy before me must've been some angel, huh? 682 00:54:59,046 --> 00:55:00,421 Settle for living in misery... 683 00:55:00,589 --> 00:55:03,674 ...because we're afraid of change, of things crumbling to ruins. 684 00:55:03,842 --> 00:55:08,388 Then I looked around in this place, at the chaos it's endured... 685 00:55:08,555 --> 00:55:11,391 ...the way it's been adapted, burned, pillaged... 686 00:55:11,558 --> 00:55:15,812 ...then found a way to build itself back up again, and I was reassured. 687 00:55:15,979 --> 00:55:19,232 Maybe my life hasn't been so chaotic. It's just the world that is... 688 00:55:19,400 --> 00:55:23,027 ...and the only real trap is getting attached to any of it. 689 00:55:24,238 --> 00:55:26,239 Ruin is a gift. 690 00:55:26,448 --> 00:55:29,575 Ruin is the road to transformation. 691 00:55:29,743 --> 00:55:31,411 Hey. 692 00:55:32,037 --> 00:55:33,579 You ready? 693 00:55:34,665 --> 00:55:36,332 Yeah. 694 00:55:43,215 --> 00:55:46,217 Even in this eternal city, the Augusteum showed me... 695 00:55:46,385 --> 00:55:50,763 ...that we must always be prepared for endless waves of transformation. 696 00:55:55,269 --> 00:55:57,520 Both of us deserve better than staying together... 697 00:55:57,688 --> 00:56:00,898 ...because we're afraid we'll be destroyed if we don't. 698 00:56:58,540 --> 00:57:01,709 My mother's stuffing. Stale bread, walnuts, got those. 699 00:57:01,877 --> 00:57:04,128 Will you get me some more potatoes? 700 00:57:04,296 --> 00:57:06,339 Oh, l'm always getting you more potatoes. 701 00:57:06,757 --> 00:57:09,800 It's my dream, a real American Thanksgiving. 702 00:57:10,802 --> 00:57:13,179 The perfect way to say goodbye to our Liz. 703 00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:16,349 So... 704 00:57:17,351 --> 00:57:19,560 -...you leave this week, huh? -Yes. 705 00:57:20,437 --> 00:57:22,813 And where are you going? lran? 706 00:57:23,607 --> 00:57:24,690 India. 707 00:57:27,528 --> 00:57:29,445 Liz is making us an American meal tonight. 708 00:57:29,613 --> 00:57:32,573 -You are not married, yeah? -No. 709 00:57:33,659 --> 00:57:36,494 What's wrong with your friend, is she a lesbian? 710 00:57:39,873 --> 00:57:42,542 No, Mama, she's not a lesbian. And she understands ltalian. 711 00:57:42,709 --> 00:57:44,877 How's she going to find another husband and start a family... 712 00:57:45,045 --> 00:57:47,713 ...when she's on the other side of the world? 713 00:57:48,173 --> 00:57:53,553 If a man said, "l'm going to travel for a year and meet wonderful people...." 714 00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:55,221 But she's not a man. 715 00:57:55,764 --> 00:58:01,018 It's more difficult for a woman to feel that she has the right to make choices. 716 00:58:01,186 --> 00:58:03,896 -lt takes a lot of courage. -Exactly. 717 00:58:04,731 --> 00:58:07,233 You call it courage, I call it stupidity. 718 00:58:07,401 --> 00:58:09,193 Mama, enough. 719 00:58:10,028 --> 00:58:12,613 I know a number of people who would agree with you. 720 00:58:13,740 --> 00:58:15,241 Luca? 721 00:58:15,409 --> 00:58:17,410 What time will the turkey be ready? 722 00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:19,704 The turkey.... 723 00:58:19,913 --> 00:58:21,247 I haven't defrosted it yet. 724 00:58:24,668 --> 00:58:26,627 Oh, shit. 725 00:58:27,421 --> 00:58:29,422 You only had one thing to do and you screwed it up. 726 00:58:29,590 --> 00:58:32,883 I was distracted! It can happen! 727 00:58:33,051 --> 00:58:34,885 Too much good food! 728 00:58:35,053 --> 00:58:36,887 Too many women! 729 00:58:37,055 --> 00:58:38,973 And l forgot! 730 00:58:39,141 --> 00:58:41,267 Now, before we eat, everyone... 731 00:58:41,435 --> 00:58:44,395 ...it is Thanksgiving, so let us give thanks. 732 00:58:44,563 --> 00:58:47,273 -Yeah. Come on, join hands. -Okay. 733 00:58:47,441 --> 00:58:49,567 So we just say what we.... 734 00:58:50,027 --> 00:58:53,654 What we thank God for tonight. Sofi, why don't you start? 735 00:58:56,283 --> 00:58:59,452 I am grateful for you, Liz... 736 00:59:00,037 --> 00:59:03,956 ...for helping me appreciate life... 737 00:59:04,374 --> 00:59:07,460 ...with all that comes with it... 738 00:59:08,462 --> 00:59:11,213 ...muffin tops and bad times. 739 00:59:11,673 --> 00:59:12,923 And for Giovanni... 740 00:59:13,592 --> 00:59:16,052 ...for making me feel... 741 00:59:16,219 --> 00:59:17,803 ...loved and secure. 742 00:59:20,140 --> 00:59:21,641 And Giulio. 743 00:59:21,808 --> 00:59:25,686 Me, l'm grateful for my beautiful family. 744 00:59:25,854 --> 00:59:28,230 My two little daughters and my wife. 745 00:59:28,398 --> 00:59:32,735 I thank God and the Holy Virgin... 746 00:59:32,903 --> 00:59:34,904 ...for this very, very special day. 747 00:59:35,238 --> 00:59:38,991 And for this beautiful family... 748 00:59:39,451 --> 00:59:40,910 ...that today is so much bigger. 749 00:59:42,371 --> 00:59:43,496 Very much bigger. 750 00:59:48,502 --> 00:59:52,505 I thank you all for this new custom of celebration. 751 00:59:52,673 --> 00:59:55,257 And Liz's stuffing... 752 00:59:55,842 --> 00:59:57,385 ...and God... 753 00:59:57,552 --> 00:59:59,845 ...for my sexiness. 754 01:00:03,392 --> 01:00:04,433 And you, Ruffina? 755 01:00:08,689 --> 01:00:11,524 I thank God for... 756 01:00:11,692 --> 01:00:13,526 ...my sexiness. 757 01:00:17,739 --> 01:00:19,824 Go ahead. Giovanni. 758 01:00:19,991 --> 01:00:22,493 I thank God for... 759 01:00:24,371 --> 01:00:25,329 ...fear... 760 01:00:25,497 --> 01:00:29,375 ...because for the first time... 761 01:00:30,252 --> 01:00:33,087 ...l'm afraid the person next to me... 762 01:00:33,630 --> 01:00:36,173 ...will be the one who wants to leave. 763 01:00:41,722 --> 01:00:43,431 Liz? 764 01:00:45,517 --> 01:00:50,187 Well, this all makes me so grateful. 765 01:00:51,523 --> 01:00:53,566 Seeing all you happy people... 766 01:00:53,734 --> 01:00:57,278 ...who know how to love each other and take care of each other. 767 01:00:59,156 --> 01:01:03,200 I look at the amazing women l've met who l admire so much... 768 01:01:03,368 --> 01:01:08,456 ...and the great men, taking care of their women... 769 01:01:08,623 --> 01:01:11,459 ...and putting their children to bed. 770 01:01:12,961 --> 01:01:15,296 I just feel happy... 771 01:01:15,797 --> 01:01:19,467 ...to see it and to be part of it. 772 01:01:24,222 --> 01:01:27,308 I'm the luckiest girl in the world. 773 01:02:55,063 --> 01:02:57,565 It's a good breakfast, huh? 774 01:04:22,734 --> 01:04:24,944 I will take this to your room. 775 01:04:30,075 --> 01:04:31,951 It has already started. 776 01:05:17,789 --> 01:05:20,958 -l fell asleep. -Yeah. Pity. 777 01:05:21,126 --> 01:05:25,337 Probably the only person in the world who ever fell asleep during meditation. 778 01:05:32,971 --> 01:05:36,557 -This leads to the meditation garden. -ls the guru here? 779 01:05:36,725 --> 01:05:40,102 -She's always here. -l know, but is she "here" here? 780 01:05:40,270 --> 01:05:42,354 She's at her ashram in New York. 781 01:05:42,522 --> 01:05:44,898 But l came from New York to see her here. 782 01:05:45,066 --> 01:05:47,735 Sounds like one of her little tricks. 783 01:05:51,364 --> 01:05:53,741 The meditation cave. 784 01:05:53,950 --> 01:05:58,954 It's open 24/7 and it's air-conditioned. 785 01:06:06,588 --> 01:06:08,464 Corella? 786 01:06:08,757 --> 01:06:12,468 -This is Liz Gilbert. -Hi. Nice to meet you. 787 01:06:16,097 --> 01:06:19,433 -Where did you get that button? -They sell them in the bookstore. 788 01:06:19,601 --> 01:06:23,187 That is exactly what I need. I need something like that. l don't listen. 789 01:06:23,354 --> 01:06:26,273 I never have. My mom used to call me Little Miss Chatty Cathy... 790 01:06:26,441 --> 01:06:28,358 ...because I just ramble. I am a rambler. 791 01:06:28,526 --> 01:06:31,403 I am rambling now. l'm sorry. 792 01:06:32,113 --> 01:06:34,114 Silence is a wonderful spiritual practice... 793 01:06:34,282 --> 01:06:38,077 ...but if Corella could speak, she'd tell you it's more challenging than it looks. 794 01:06:38,244 --> 01:06:41,121 -Wait till you've been here for a while. -Okay. 795 01:06:53,301 --> 01:06:56,136 Thank you, Corella. I'll be sure to tell her. 796 01:06:56,304 --> 01:06:58,639 -What did she say? -No idea. 797 01:06:58,807 --> 01:07:01,475 Change into your work clothes. I'll take you to your seva. 798 01:07:01,643 --> 01:07:04,311 It's a Hindu word for "selfless devotional work." 799 01:07:04,479 --> 01:07:08,524 -lt's required of everyone who stays. -Okay. Thank you. 800 01:07:35,176 --> 01:07:38,679 Is there anything in this world skinnier than an lndian teenage boy? 801 01:07:41,266 --> 01:07:43,142 -l'm Tulsi. -Liz. 802 01:07:43,685 --> 01:07:44,852 Where are you from? 803 01:07:45,019 --> 01:07:48,981 The next town. My parents have been devotees of the guru for many years. 804 01:07:49,149 --> 01:07:50,524 We spend a lot of time here. 805 01:07:50,692 --> 01:07:52,359 But... 806 01:07:52,569 --> 01:07:55,946 ...they are trying to marry me off. That's the custom. 807 01:07:56,114 --> 01:08:00,492 -That's not what you want? -No way. lt sucks. 808 01:08:05,373 --> 01:08:10,210 I want to study psychology, just as our guru did when she attended college. 809 01:08:10,587 --> 01:08:13,547 I prefer to be with God than boys my age. 810 01:08:13,715 --> 01:08:17,342 No one in my family understands my coming all the way to India. 811 01:08:17,886 --> 01:08:21,847 Do you ever look at them and wonder, "What am I doing in this family?" 812 01:08:22,849 --> 01:08:24,224 You have no idea. 813 01:08:51,002 --> 01:08:55,589 The Guru Gita is an ancient text 1 82 verses long. 814 01:08:55,798 --> 01:08:58,884 In it, the goddess Parvati is asking Shiva, or God... 815 01:08:59,427 --> 01:09:01,261 ...for the secrets of fulfillment. 816 01:09:02,472 --> 01:09:05,474 It's said to have transforming qualities. 817 01:09:05,934 --> 01:09:09,311 I would just like to take a risk here and say.... 818 01:09:09,479 --> 01:09:13,690 Me and Guru Gita, we just do not get along. 819 01:09:14,359 --> 01:09:16,693 -What is it you have trouble with? -Everything. 820 01:09:16,986 --> 01:09:19,988 It's long, it's tedious, I can't keep up... 821 01:09:20,156 --> 01:09:24,993 ...and l get these insane anxieties about everything in my life... 822 01:09:25,161 --> 01:09:26,912 ...and l've lost my place. 823 01:09:27,121 --> 01:09:28,997 Sounds like it has a positive effect... 824 01:09:29,165 --> 01:09:32,584 ...if you're having such strong emotions and physical reactions. 825 01:09:34,003 --> 01:09:35,879 You keep trying. 826 01:09:43,805 --> 01:09:46,181 It is most commendable that you ended your marriage. 827 01:09:46,891 --> 01:09:49,267 You seem like such a happy, free person now. 828 01:09:49,435 --> 01:09:52,479 I think my ex-husband would describe me as selfish. 829 01:09:53,773 --> 01:09:57,150 You mustn't be angry with yourself or disappointed. 830 01:09:57,318 --> 01:10:01,321 You don't have to make children or be married to have a family. 831 01:10:03,324 --> 01:10:06,159 Oh, man. They got mosquitoes here big enough... 832 01:10:06,327 --> 01:10:08,662 ...to stand flat-footed and screw a chicken. 833 01:10:09,998 --> 01:10:10,000 -l love you. -Liz, have you met... 834 01:10:10,000 --> 01:10:12,165 -l love you. -Liz, have you met... 835 01:10:12,165 --> 01:10:12,333 836 01:10:12,333 --> 01:10:14,668 -...Richard from Texas? -Hello, Richard from Texas. 837 01:10:14,668 --> 01:10:14,836 838 01:10:14,836 --> 01:10:17,170 -Nice to meet you, Groceries. -Groceries? 839 01:10:17,170 --> 01:10:17,338 840 01:10:17,338 --> 01:10:20,507 Yeah. Yeah, l heard you eating before l saw you. 841 01:10:20,507 --> 01:10:20,717 842 01:10:20,717 --> 01:10:22,000 I never seen anybody eat so much at one time. 843 01:10:22,000 --> 01:10:23,510 I never seen anybody eat so much at one time. 844 01:10:23,720 --> 01:10:26,013 You sure do enjoy your groceries. 845 01:10:26,764 --> 01:10:30,809 You know, it's been a rough day, and if no one takes it personally... 846 01:10:30,977 --> 01:10:34,813 ...l'm going to take my large meal someplace else to eat it in silence. 847 01:10:34,981 --> 01:10:37,149 Oh, no, stay. I'm done. 848 01:10:41,529 --> 01:10:43,655 Looked like you were working through some... 849 01:10:43,823 --> 01:10:46,491 ...pretty rough stuff this morning. 850 01:10:46,659 --> 01:10:48,535 Stuff with your ex-husband? 851 01:10:49,370 --> 01:10:51,496 I got an ex-wife. 852 01:10:52,123 --> 01:10:55,167 She thinks l changed my name to "Motherfucker." 853 01:10:58,546 --> 01:11:00,380 I-- 854 01:11:00,882 --> 01:11:05,886 I just spent some time in Rome and l came here feeling so great. 855 01:11:06,054 --> 01:11:09,514 And now here l am, at the source... 856 01:11:09,682 --> 01:11:12,559 ...and l feel more disconnected than ever. 857 01:11:13,394 --> 01:11:15,020 Why'd you come here? 858 01:11:16,564 --> 01:11:17,898 I just want some peace. 859 01:11:18,483 --> 01:11:20,233 Peace? 860 01:11:21,861 --> 01:11:24,529 You wanna get to the castle, Groceries... 861 01:11:24,697 --> 01:11:26,281 ...you got to swim the moat. 862 01:11:29,577 --> 01:11:32,579 Here, you can finish that. I know you can. 863 01:11:39,003 --> 01:11:40,087 Okay. 864 01:11:40,588 --> 01:11:44,299 Simply empty your mind. 865 01:11:44,801 --> 01:11:45,926 Breathe. 866 01:11:47,929 --> 01:11:51,389 What am l going to do when this year is over? 867 01:11:51,557 --> 01:11:53,266 Where am I going to live? 868 01:11:53,434 --> 01:11:54,726 Well, maybe Chicago. 869 01:11:55,812 --> 01:11:59,397 Oh, my God. I could build a meditation room-- 870 01:11:59,565 --> 01:12:03,568 No. Stop thinking. Why is this so hard? 871 01:12:09,242 --> 01:12:11,743 Screw you, Corella. How the hell does she do this? 872 01:12:11,911 --> 01:12:14,538 She looks like frigging Mother Teresa. 873 01:12:16,833 --> 01:12:19,459 Oh, my God, kill me. 874 01:12:22,547 --> 01:12:24,131 -Who's in the moat today? -Shut up. 875 01:12:24,340 --> 01:12:26,466 Sounds like you wrestled some big-ass crocs. 876 01:12:26,634 --> 01:12:29,886 You know what? lf you're so goddamn smart, what are you doing here? 877 01:12:30,054 --> 01:12:31,972 If you're here, it makes you smart already. 878 01:12:32,140 --> 01:12:35,433 -Do you wanna talk about what--? -No, not to you. Thank you. 879 01:12:35,601 --> 01:12:38,645 I'm the only one here. You're gonna talk about it sooner or later. 880 01:12:38,855 --> 01:12:39,938 I cannot focus in there. 881 01:12:40,106 --> 01:12:44,359 All I think about is my meditation room and how to decorate. 882 01:12:46,320 --> 01:12:47,487 Are you shitting me? 883 01:12:48,322 --> 01:12:49,322 Are you kidding me? 884 01:12:49,490 --> 01:12:52,826 The meditation room is within, Groceries. Decorate that. 885 01:12:52,994 --> 01:12:54,786 Do you always talk in bumper sticker? 886 01:12:54,954 --> 01:12:56,329 I do, and here's another one. 887 01:12:56,497 --> 01:12:59,499 You have to learn to select your thoughts the way you select... 888 01:12:59,667 --> 01:13:02,502 ...your clothes every day. That's a power you can cultivate. 889 01:13:02,670 --> 01:13:05,922 You wanna come here and control your life so bad, work on the mind. 890 01:13:06,090 --> 01:13:07,966 That's the only thing you should control. 891 01:13:08,134 --> 01:13:10,802 If you can't master your thoughts, you're in trouble. 892 01:13:10,970 --> 01:13:12,012 I am trying. 893 01:13:12,180 --> 01:13:15,182 Yeah, hello, that's the damn problem. Stop trying. Surrender. 894 01:13:15,391 --> 01:13:18,852 Go out into the garden and just sit there and still your mind... 895 01:13:19,020 --> 01:13:20,520 ...and you watch what happens. 896 01:13:20,688 --> 01:13:22,522 Why don't you just let it be? 897 01:13:24,525 --> 01:13:27,027 Has anyone ever told you you look like James Taylor? 898 01:13:31,657 --> 01:13:32,908 Every day. 899 01:13:39,916 --> 01:13:42,083 God, he really does. 900 01:13:47,215 --> 01:13:48,882 My prayers were always the same. 901 01:13:49,050 --> 01:13:53,220 "Please, God, please. Open my heart, send me a sign... 902 01:13:53,429 --> 01:13:57,140 ...because we both know I ain't the sharpest tool in the shed." 903 01:13:58,893 --> 01:14:01,228 Look at you, floating through Calcutta. 904 01:14:01,896 --> 01:14:04,022 Looks like you had a great meditation. 905 01:14:04,190 --> 01:14:05,899 I probably have malaria now. 906 01:14:06,150 --> 01:14:07,525 The bites will go away. 907 01:14:08,069 --> 01:14:09,903 Eventually everything goes away. 908 01:14:10,071 --> 01:14:12,739 You ever done that, Groceries? Begged for a sign? 909 01:14:14,742 --> 01:14:16,076 That sounds vaguely familiar. 910 01:14:16,244 --> 01:14:18,703 Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it. 911 01:14:18,871 --> 01:14:20,080 What is your problem? 912 01:14:20,248 --> 01:14:24,084 Did you fall in love with the wrong woman or something? 913 01:14:24,752 --> 01:14:26,253 Excuse me, Miss Gilbert. 914 01:14:26,462 --> 01:14:28,588 You have a phone call. 915 01:14:29,840 --> 01:14:32,259 How's the Guru Gita treating you? 916 01:14:32,927 --> 01:14:36,096 Fine. You'd like her. 917 01:14:37,265 --> 01:14:39,683 Did you get my e-mail? 918 01:14:40,393 --> 01:14:44,354 Yeah. l'm sorry l didn't call sooner. 919 01:14:44,522 --> 01:14:45,939 Why didn't you? 920 01:14:46,107 --> 01:14:47,440 Because if l didn't respond... 921 01:14:47,608 --> 01:14:51,611 ...we were still having a conversation. I was still in it. 922 01:14:53,990 --> 01:14:57,993 I'm sorry. We were just bad timing. 923 01:14:59,996 --> 01:15:04,624 I just wanted things to be easy. We were good when things were easy. 924 01:15:04,792 --> 01:15:09,129 It's not that I need "easy" right now. I just can't have "so hard." 925 01:15:11,424 --> 01:15:12,507 Well, you sound good. 926 01:15:13,384 --> 01:15:14,801 Stronger. 927 01:15:15,011 --> 01:15:16,303 So do you. 928 01:15:18,014 --> 01:15:19,639 Yeah, well, l'm an actor, Liz. 929 01:15:23,060 --> 01:15:25,020 I got a part. 930 01:15:27,023 --> 01:15:30,150 It's off-Broadway, but it's pretty cool. 931 01:15:30,318 --> 01:15:32,485 I'm happy for you. 932 01:15:34,447 --> 01:15:36,156 All right. 933 01:15:36,324 --> 01:15:38,825 Well, l'll see you around, kid. 934 01:16:05,770 --> 01:16:06,853 Check you out. 935 01:16:07,063 --> 01:16:10,065 I have never seen you so focused. 936 01:16:22,078 --> 01:16:23,203 You need a Thums Up. 937 01:16:26,582 --> 01:16:29,876 No, no. No lips on the bottle. 938 01:16:30,086 --> 01:16:32,837 First rule in lndia is never touch anything but yourself. 939 01:16:37,093 --> 01:16:41,513 Oh, good God. That's, like, five times sweeter than Coke. 940 01:16:45,559 --> 01:16:48,395 I think it might have methamphetamines in it. 941 01:16:49,230 --> 01:16:51,147 We can only hope. 942 01:16:54,735 --> 01:16:56,069 I know you feel awful. 943 01:16:57,571 --> 01:16:59,864 But your life's changing. 944 01:17:00,032 --> 01:17:02,242 That's not a bad thing. 945 01:17:02,410 --> 01:17:06,037 And you're in the perfect place for it. Surrounded by grace. 946 01:17:06,997 --> 01:17:11,209 I thought I was over him, but... 947 01:17:11,877 --> 01:17:12,919 ...l love him. 948 01:17:13,379 --> 01:17:14,421 Big deal. 949 01:17:14,630 --> 01:17:17,090 -So you fell in love with someone. -l really miss him. 950 01:17:17,258 --> 01:17:18,758 So miss him. 951 01:17:18,926 --> 01:17:22,637 Send him some light and love every time you think of him, then drop it. 952 01:17:23,431 --> 01:17:27,183 You know, if you could clear out all that space in your mind... 953 01:17:27,351 --> 01:17:29,436 ...that you're using to obsess over this guy... 954 01:17:29,645 --> 01:17:32,939 ...and your failed marriage, you'd have a vacuum with a doorway. 955 01:17:33,149 --> 01:17:36,276 And you know what the universe would do with that doorway? 956 01:17:37,570 --> 01:17:40,947 Rush in. God would rush in. 957 01:17:41,157 --> 01:17:46,286 Fill you with more love than you ever dreamed of. Man. 958 01:17:50,416 --> 01:17:52,292 Groceries. 959 01:17:52,460 --> 01:17:56,796 I think you have the capacity someday to love the whole world. 960 01:18:02,178 --> 01:18:04,304 What do they sell over there? 961 01:18:09,810 --> 01:18:13,313 Ganesh. Remover of obstacles. 962 01:18:16,066 --> 01:18:17,859 I'm gonna need a lot of these. 963 01:18:18,027 --> 01:18:22,655 Speaking of elephants, there's a rogue elephant on the loose in the area. 964 01:18:22,990 --> 01:18:24,324 He was with carnival. 965 01:18:24,492 --> 01:18:28,119 They say he is very, very unpredictable and volatile. 966 01:18:28,287 --> 01:18:30,371 That just makes him more attractive to her. 967 01:18:30,539 --> 01:18:33,500 How'd you get to be so smart? I'll bet it was the hard way. 968 01:18:33,667 --> 01:18:34,876 Don't change the subject. 969 01:18:35,628 --> 01:18:39,756 Well, when is this grieving phase going to pass? 970 01:18:39,924 --> 01:18:42,258 You want a day on a calendar you can circle? 971 01:18:42,426 --> 01:18:45,345 -Can you give me one? -No. You got to do the work. 972 01:18:45,513 --> 01:18:48,181 Meditate and go to seva... 973 01:18:48,349 --> 01:18:51,559 ...and most important, get your butt down to the Geet every morning... 974 01:18:51,727 --> 01:18:53,019 ...and something'll change. 975 01:18:53,187 --> 01:18:57,190 I just cannot get through the Guru Gita. I can't find that feeling of devotion. 976 01:18:57,358 --> 01:19:01,444 Okay. Devotion's love. Pick somebody or something you wanna devote it to. 977 01:19:01,612 --> 01:19:04,864 It doesn't have to be the guru. It's all the same to her. 978 01:19:05,032 --> 01:19:07,242 This is about you. 979 01:19:08,786 --> 01:19:13,540 Can l tell you something, Groceries? You got some serious control issues. 980 01:19:13,707 --> 01:19:15,542 Is it obvious? 981 01:19:15,709 --> 01:19:19,671 All right, Richard, get out from inside my head now. 982 01:19:19,838 --> 01:19:20,880 Shut the door. 983 01:19:23,342 --> 01:19:26,052 -That's him? -That's him. 984 01:19:26,554 --> 01:19:31,224 -He's hideous. -No, he's not. He's cute. 985 01:19:31,392 --> 01:19:32,767 He's a Sagittarius. 986 01:19:33,394 --> 01:19:35,353 He studies computer programming in Delhi. 987 01:19:35,521 --> 01:19:37,355 He has very good grades. 988 01:19:37,523 --> 01:19:40,900 And his family is very, very wealthy. 989 01:19:41,569 --> 01:19:46,906 He will be very conceited and dictatorial. 990 01:19:48,075 --> 01:19:49,909 My life is over at 1 7. 991 01:19:56,917 --> 01:19:58,793 Tulsi. 992 01:22:34,908 --> 01:22:37,243 Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the dance floor... 993 01:22:37,411 --> 01:22:40,580 ...for their very first couples dance, Liz and Stephen. 994 01:22:53,093 --> 01:22:54,969 My people. 995 01:22:55,596 --> 01:22:56,971 -Are you ready? -l'm ready. 996 01:22:59,391 --> 01:23:01,434 -You look beautiful. -Thank you. 997 01:23:01,602 --> 01:23:03,936 I married a hottie. 998 01:23:06,315 --> 01:23:09,358 -What is that? That's not our song. -No, it is not. 999 01:23:09,526 --> 01:23:11,110 Baby, that's not our song. 1000 01:23:11,278 --> 01:23:13,780 -Definitely not. -Everybody's looking at us. 1001 01:23:13,989 --> 01:23:17,241 It's okay. I'm gonna go talk to the guy. It's gonna be fine. 1002 01:23:28,629 --> 01:23:31,088 -l told you l'd get it. -This is taking care of it? 1003 01:24:29,189 --> 01:24:33,150 I owe you a wedding gift. I didn't know what was appropriate. 1004 01:24:35,696 --> 01:24:38,573 I wanted to tell you l've been... 1005 01:24:38,949 --> 01:24:41,075 ...dedicating my Guru Gita to you. 1006 01:24:43,120 --> 01:24:46,873 Imagining you happy is what got me through it. 1007 01:24:49,877 --> 01:24:52,044 What did it look like... 1008 01:24:52,212 --> 01:24:54,380 ...when I was happy? 1009 01:24:58,010 --> 01:25:01,304 I imagine you and Rijul... 1010 01:25:01,471 --> 01:25:04,473 ...smiling and looking at each other... 1011 01:25:05,392 --> 01:25:07,852 ...with love and kindness. 1012 01:25:08,645 --> 01:25:11,397 It seemed very real. 1013 01:25:13,817 --> 01:25:16,235 Thank you so much, Liz. 1014 01:25:17,237 --> 01:25:20,197 That helps me to believe it as well. 1015 01:25:36,548 --> 01:25:38,925 Thinking about your own wedding? 1016 01:25:39,676 --> 01:25:41,427 Yeah, me too. 1017 01:25:41,637 --> 01:25:45,431 The funny thing about weddings, you end up thinking about yourself. 1018 01:25:46,308 --> 01:25:51,228 Did you throw yourself a big shindig? Big, white, floppy dress? 1019 01:25:51,855 --> 01:25:57,610 Yep. l arranged it all. Nobody forced me into anything. 1020 01:25:57,778 --> 01:26:00,237 Yeah. And now you can't forgive yourself. 1021 01:26:00,405 --> 01:26:04,784 Honestly, I'm waiting for him to forgive me. 1022 01:26:04,952 --> 01:26:06,452 To release me. 1023 01:26:06,662 --> 01:26:09,747 Waiting for him to forgive you is a damn waste of time, Groceries. 1024 01:26:09,915 --> 01:26:11,791 Forgive yourself. 1025 01:26:13,085 --> 01:26:15,294 It's not that easy. 1026 01:26:16,630 --> 01:26:18,130 Yeah. 1027 01:26:33,814 --> 01:26:35,106 Good night, Richard. 1028 01:26:35,440 --> 01:26:37,775 -Follow me. -l'm tired. 1029 01:26:38,151 --> 01:26:39,443 Get your butt up here. 1030 01:27:06,430 --> 01:27:08,848 It's not a pretty story... 1031 01:27:09,808 --> 01:27:11,976 ...but it's pretty classic. 1032 01:27:12,728 --> 01:27:18,149 Too much alcohol, too many drugs, too much mindless cheating. 1033 01:27:19,943 --> 01:27:21,819 Just regret. 1034 01:27:24,448 --> 01:27:26,699 Ocean of regret. 1035 01:27:29,036 --> 01:27:31,370 I lost everything. 1036 01:27:32,122 --> 01:27:34,540 My pride, my job. 1037 01:27:35,333 --> 01:27:37,209 My family. 1038 01:27:39,880 --> 01:27:42,006 I lost my family. 1039 01:27:53,894 --> 01:27:58,397 One day after work, l stopped off at a bar and I got shitfaced. 1040 01:27:59,066 --> 01:28:01,484 I was a lot like you, you know. 1041 01:28:01,651 --> 01:28:05,237 I was just-- I don't know. I thought too much, I felt too.... 1042 01:28:06,782 --> 01:28:09,283 I wanted to feel nothing. 1043 01:28:12,370 --> 01:28:14,205 I should've called a cab, but I didn't. 1044 01:28:14,372 --> 01:28:17,625 I just got in my car and l drove home. 1045 01:28:21,588 --> 01:28:23,506 My little boy.... 1046 01:28:28,512 --> 01:28:31,555 He was 8 years old at the time. He was pl-- 1047 01:28:36,228 --> 01:28:41,190 He was sitting in the driveway with his little Hot Wheels, waiting for his lost... 1048 01:28:41,358 --> 01:28:43,776 ...drunk, miserable dad... 1049 01:28:44,945 --> 01:28:47,738 ...to come home and play with him. 1050 01:28:49,324 --> 01:28:51,325 I didn't see him. 1051 01:28:52,244 --> 01:28:57,623 I didn't. I just roared into that driveway and l didn't see my little boy. 1052 01:28:59,084 --> 01:29:01,710 But he-- No, he.... 1053 01:29:03,130 --> 01:29:05,256 He got out of the way. 1054 01:29:09,970 --> 01:29:12,888 He was used to getting out of the way when l was around. 1055 01:29:14,224 --> 01:29:15,933 And l-- You know, I don't-- 1056 01:29:16,101 --> 01:29:17,893 I don't know. I don't remember a thing. 1057 01:29:18,061 --> 01:29:20,771 Next day, l woke up and they were gone. 1058 01:29:22,399 --> 01:29:27,319 My wife had been watching what happened out the window. 1059 01:29:28,155 --> 01:29:29,989 She just wasn't gonna.... 1060 01:29:31,825 --> 01:29:34,368 She just wasn't gonna do it anymore. 1061 01:29:35,495 --> 01:29:37,163 So.... 1062 01:29:41,835 --> 01:29:43,586 He's 1 8 now. 1063 01:29:43,753 --> 01:29:47,381 He's in school and, oh, God, he's so smart. 1064 01:29:52,637 --> 01:29:55,639 God, he's so funny and he's.... 1065 01:29:58,185 --> 01:30:00,186 He's so sweet. 1066 01:30:06,526 --> 01:30:08,444 I missed it all. 1067 01:30:08,612 --> 01:30:10,487 I missed... 1068 01:30:12,365 --> 01:30:15,784 ...my son's growing up. Just missed it. 1069 01:30:28,798 --> 01:30:30,549 Okay? 1070 01:30:33,178 --> 01:30:34,720 Come here. 1071 01:30:42,729 --> 01:30:43,729 Here's the deal. 1072 01:30:44,564 --> 01:30:47,399 You're gonna stay here till you forgive yourself. 1073 01:30:47,567 --> 01:30:49,443 You hear me? 1074 01:30:50,570 --> 01:30:53,447 Everything else will take care of itself. 1075 01:30:54,741 --> 01:30:57,576 Is this where you forgave yourself? 1076 01:31:00,914 --> 01:31:03,582 I'm trying, Elizabeth. 1077 01:31:03,750 --> 01:31:05,960 I am trying. 1078 01:31:54,634 --> 01:31:56,218 Hey. 1079 01:31:58,888 --> 01:32:02,808 I believe this is the song they were supposed to play at our wedding. 1080 01:32:39,262 --> 01:32:41,805 I did love you, Stephen. 1081 01:32:48,563 --> 01:32:50,356 I know. 1082 01:32:52,817 --> 01:32:55,319 But l still love you. 1083 01:33:04,704 --> 01:33:06,789 So love me. 1084 01:33:12,379 --> 01:33:14,546 But l miss you. 1085 01:33:18,009 --> 01:33:20,302 So miss me. 1086 01:33:21,304 --> 01:33:25,641 Send me love and light every time you think of me... 1087 01:33:25,809 --> 01:33:27,059 ...then drop it. 1088 01:33:45,620 --> 01:33:48,205 It won't last forever. 1089 01:33:49,874 --> 01:33:52,000 Nothing does. 1090 01:34:11,312 --> 01:34:13,397 -Bye-bye. -Goodbye, Mr. Richard. 1091 01:34:13,565 --> 01:34:15,441 I'll see you. 1092 01:34:16,317 --> 01:34:19,778 Now that you're going, who is gonna kick my ass every day? 1093 01:34:19,946 --> 01:34:23,782 Oh, l'd stay till a monsoon swept me away if I could. Bye-bye. 1094 01:34:23,950 --> 01:34:26,201 But you've got bills to pay and houses to build. 1095 01:34:26,369 --> 01:34:29,455 You just keep doing the work and move on with your life, will you? 1096 01:34:29,622 --> 01:34:32,291 The man is getting on a plane and you're still bossing me. 1097 01:34:32,459 --> 01:34:37,921 I've got your whole list: move on, use mosquito repellent and.... 1098 01:34:38,089 --> 01:34:41,258 I don't know. There were some other things. I wrote them down. 1099 01:34:45,889 --> 01:34:48,599 Go back to Texas, Richard. 1100 01:34:57,567 --> 01:35:00,486 Well, l ain't getting any prettier standing here. 1101 01:35:02,906 --> 01:35:04,114 So l'm off. 1102 01:35:14,167 --> 01:35:16,126 Hey, Groceries. 1103 01:35:16,628 --> 01:35:17,836 Believe in love again. 1104 01:35:41,736 --> 01:35:44,196 Liz. Liz, l've just taken my badge off today. 1105 01:35:44,364 --> 01:35:47,366 I've done so well. Four weeks of silence. lt was so dull. 1106 01:35:47,534 --> 01:35:49,910 But it's like a facelift because your face... 1107 01:35:50,078 --> 01:35:54,790 ...you know, just relaxes and your throat just drops down. It's a bargain. 1108 01:35:54,958 --> 01:35:56,542 We've got so much to catch up on. 1109 01:35:59,796 --> 01:36:05,342 Oh, golly. Good for you. You will get so much out of that. 1110 01:36:05,885 --> 01:36:09,346 And your throat will look amazing as well. 1111 01:36:13,309 --> 01:36:14,518 Excuse me, Elizabeth. 1112 01:36:14,686 --> 01:36:17,563 They're asking you to report to the seva office after dinner... 1113 01:36:17,772 --> 01:36:19,064 ...if you don't mind. 1114 01:36:19,691 --> 01:36:22,067 We're taking you off the floor-scrubbing team. 1115 01:36:22,277 --> 01:36:25,737 There are about 50 devotees arriving tomorrow from all over the world... 1116 01:36:25,905 --> 01:36:29,408 ...for a 1 0-day retreat and we'd like you to be the key hostess. 1117 01:36:29,909 --> 01:36:33,078 We ask that you don't take part during the meditations. 1118 01:36:33,288 --> 01:36:38,083 We need you to watch over the flock, make sure everyone is all right. 1119 01:36:38,418 --> 01:36:42,379 We call the person who does this job Little Suzy Cream Cheese. 1120 01:36:42,880 --> 01:36:47,092 You need to be social and bubbly and smiling all the time. 1121 01:36:50,597 --> 01:36:52,431 Madam... 1122 01:36:52,890 --> 01:36:54,933 ...l'm your girl. 1123 01:37:10,116 --> 01:37:12,951 So just find your suitcase, it should be here somewhere... 1124 01:37:13,119 --> 01:37:15,329 ...and then head down the path to your room. 1125 01:37:16,372 --> 01:37:21,835 So the holy truth of the whole adventure here in India is in one line: 1126 01:37:22,211 --> 01:37:25,714 God dwells within you as you. 1127 01:37:25,882 --> 01:37:28,133 God's not interested in watching a performance... 1128 01:37:28,343 --> 01:37:30,636 ...of how a spiritual person looks and behaves. 1129 01:37:30,803 --> 01:37:33,722 The quiet girl who glides silently through the place... 1130 01:37:33,890 --> 01:37:37,726 ...with a gentle, ethereal smile, who is that person? 1131 01:37:37,894 --> 01:37:42,147 That's lngrid Bergman in The Bells of St. Mary's, not me. 1132 01:37:42,357 --> 01:37:46,652 God dwells within me as me. 1133 01:38:55,930 --> 01:38:58,223 Child tormented by demon. 1134 01:39:05,231 --> 01:39:06,982 It looks like teething. 1135 01:39:07,150 --> 01:39:09,067 Same thing. 1136 01:39:12,447 --> 01:39:14,072 Your turn. 1137 01:39:19,954 --> 01:39:21,246 Hello, Ketut. 1138 01:39:22,039 --> 01:39:23,540 I'm very happy to meet you. 1139 01:39:24,959 --> 01:39:26,585 You are a world traveler. 1140 01:39:27,670 --> 01:39:29,921 No, I came to see you about a year ago. 1141 01:39:30,590 --> 01:39:33,925 -You girl from California? -No, I girl from New York. 1142 01:39:35,094 --> 01:39:36,428 Don't remember. 1143 01:39:40,183 --> 01:39:42,434 Well, you told me I should come back here to Bali. 1144 01:39:42,602 --> 01:39:44,728 You said I could help you with your English... 1145 01:39:44,896 --> 01:39:47,272 ...and you would teach me the things that you know. 1146 01:39:50,860 --> 01:39:52,611 You gave me this. 1147 01:39:53,488 --> 01:39:55,280 Okay. 1148 01:40:00,620 --> 01:40:03,789 You. You. l remember you. 1149 01:40:03,956 --> 01:40:06,124 -Oh, good. -You sad girl from New York. 1150 01:40:06,292 --> 01:40:08,919 -Yes. -You Liss. You came back. 1151 01:40:09,086 --> 01:40:11,129 -l came back. -You, you, you. 1152 01:40:11,297 --> 01:40:12,422 Me, me, me. 1153 01:40:12,715 --> 01:40:14,633 So long ago we meet. 1154 01:40:14,801 --> 01:40:19,971 Last time, you have too much worry, too much sorrow. 1155 01:40:20,139 --> 01:40:23,099 Last time, you look like sad old woman. 1156 01:40:24,227 --> 01:40:26,895 Now you pretty. 1157 01:40:27,063 --> 01:40:29,564 -Why so different? -Well... 1158 01:40:29,732 --> 01:40:31,983 ...a lot of things, really. 1159 01:40:32,151 --> 01:40:34,986 But l was in Rome for four months, just feeding myself... 1160 01:40:35,154 --> 01:40:37,614 ...and then I went to live at an ashram in lndia. 1161 01:40:37,782 --> 01:40:40,158 Now, we put together. 1162 01:40:40,326 --> 01:40:41,827 Exactly. That's why l'm here. 1163 01:40:41,994 --> 01:40:44,329 -Ketut good for that. -What'd you give him? 1164 01:40:47,834 --> 01:40:50,335 Do you still want me to help you with your English? 1165 01:40:50,503 --> 01:40:52,629 English later, Liss. 1166 01:40:52,797 --> 01:40:56,007 First, better idea. 1167 01:41:00,471 --> 01:41:02,514 How old are these? 1168 01:41:02,682 --> 01:41:05,350 From grandfather. Very important spells. 1169 01:41:05,518 --> 01:41:08,019 Also mantras, cures. 1170 01:41:08,187 --> 01:41:10,438 Thousand years' worth. 1171 01:41:10,606 --> 01:41:14,150 All I have, all l know, right here. 1172 01:41:14,318 --> 01:41:15,485 You copy for me? 1173 01:41:15,653 --> 01:41:17,696 Absolutely. l can go to town and take these-- 1174 01:41:17,864 --> 01:41:19,698 No. You don't take. 1175 01:41:22,952 --> 01:41:25,370 You copy here, better, Liss. 1176 01:41:25,538 --> 01:41:28,081 I take a nap now. l very old. 1177 01:41:30,209 --> 01:41:31,543 How old are you, Ketut? 1178 01:41:31,711 --> 01:41:33,336 One hundred and one... 1179 01:41:33,504 --> 01:41:36,715 ...or maybe 64. 1180 01:41:36,883 --> 01:41:39,217 Don't remember. 1181 01:41:47,226 --> 01:41:49,394 This is gonna take me the rest of my life. 1182 01:41:49,562 --> 01:41:53,231 He make you pretty, find you husband, you work hard for him. 1183 01:41:53,399 --> 01:41:55,525 That's exactly opposite of why l'm here. 1184 01:41:55,693 --> 01:41:58,111 Everybody need husband. 1185 01:42:04,118 --> 01:42:05,744 Would you mind getting me water? 1186 01:42:05,912 --> 01:42:07,412 No. 1187 01:42:07,622 --> 01:42:12,250 Fine. Keep making copies. I get water. 1188 01:42:26,098 --> 01:42:29,434 So, Liz, the Balinese believe that Bali's the center of the universe. 1189 01:42:29,602 --> 01:42:31,269 And here we are in the center of Bali. 1190 01:42:31,437 --> 01:42:33,772 You got the one bedroom, got your fish pond. 1191 01:42:33,940 --> 01:42:35,649 You got your own meditation temple. 1192 01:42:35,942 --> 01:42:38,568 I tell you, since the bombing, tourism's been way down... 1193 01:42:38,736 --> 01:42:42,197 ...so l can give you this place at a very, very good price right now. 1194 01:42:42,365 --> 01:42:44,282 Paradise. 1195 01:42:47,036 --> 01:42:49,245 -l'll take it. -People in Bali understand... 1196 01:42:49,413 --> 01:42:52,457 ...in order to stay happy, must always know where you are... 1197 01:42:52,667 --> 01:42:54,125 ...every moment. 1198 01:42:54,293 --> 01:42:58,922 Right here is perfect balance. Right at meeting of heaven and earth. 1199 01:43:00,132 --> 01:43:02,884 Not too much God, not too much selfish. 1200 01:43:03,052 --> 01:43:06,137 Otherwise, life too crazy. 1201 01:43:06,305 --> 01:43:09,766 You lose balance, you lose power. 1202 01:43:09,934 --> 01:43:13,311 In morning, you do meditation from India. 1203 01:43:13,813 --> 01:43:15,814 Serious. Very serious. 1204 01:43:15,982 --> 01:43:18,108 In day, you enjoy Bali. 1205 01:43:27,994 --> 01:43:30,996 Then in afternoon, come see me. 1206 01:43:38,212 --> 01:43:40,964 End of day, you do new meditation. 1207 01:43:41,132 --> 01:43:42,173 Very simple. 1208 01:43:42,341 --> 01:43:46,011 Sit in silence and smile. 1209 01:43:47,263 --> 01:43:48,638 I feel balanced already. 1210 01:43:48,806 --> 01:43:50,181 Not so easy, Liss. 1211 01:43:50,349 --> 01:43:55,020 Smile with face. Smile with mind. 1212 01:43:55,229 --> 01:43:58,231 Even smile in liver. 1213 01:44:00,151 --> 01:44:02,527 See you later, alligator. 1214 01:45:15,434 --> 01:45:17,060 Oh, God. 1215 01:45:17,228 --> 01:45:19,437 -Are you all right? -Are you blind? 1216 01:45:19,605 --> 01:45:24,442 -Please, let me take you to a doctor. -l'm fine. l just-- 1217 01:45:28,114 --> 01:45:29,781 It looks bad. 1218 01:45:29,949 --> 01:45:31,616 Very bad, Liss. 1219 01:45:31,826 --> 01:45:34,953 -What happen? -This idiot ran me off the road. 1220 01:45:35,162 --> 01:45:36,955 A man? He rich? 1221 01:45:38,290 --> 01:45:39,749 This very hot. 1222 01:45:40,251 --> 01:45:43,294 -You need healer. -l have you. You're a medicine man. 1223 01:45:43,462 --> 01:45:47,090 -No. You need Wayan. -Yeah. 1224 01:45:57,017 --> 01:46:00,645 Jamu. Drink this. Better than antibiotic. 1225 01:46:06,986 --> 01:46:08,945 She make you drink this? 1226 01:46:09,113 --> 01:46:11,156 -My name's Liz. What's yours? -Tutti. 1227 01:46:11,365 --> 01:46:13,491 Nice to meet you, Tutti. 1228 01:46:13,659 --> 01:46:16,494 -Are you married? -No. 1229 01:46:22,501 --> 01:46:24,377 You sure? Not even once? 1230 01:46:24,837 --> 01:46:26,754 Okay, well, there was this one time... 1231 01:46:26,922 --> 01:46:30,800 ...but l find when l tell people in Bali that I'm divorced, it upsets them. 1232 01:46:30,968 --> 01:46:33,178 Me too, divorce. 1233 01:46:33,387 --> 01:46:37,515 Divorce make you sad and make you an outcast. 1234 01:46:39,643 --> 01:46:42,520 You have no sex for a long time, baby. 1235 01:46:42,688 --> 01:46:44,189 I can tell by your knee. 1236 01:46:44,398 --> 01:46:48,359 The cartilage very dry. Hormones from sex lubricate joint. 1237 01:46:48,527 --> 01:46:50,320 -Okay. -l pray for you. 1238 01:46:50,487 --> 01:46:53,114 We sisters. 1239 01:46:53,574 --> 01:46:55,992 Armenia! 1240 01:46:58,412 --> 01:47:00,038 Armenia from Brazil. 1241 01:47:00,206 --> 01:47:01,998 Armenia, this is Liz from New York. 1242 01:47:02,166 --> 01:47:04,375 -Hi. -Lovely to meet you, Liz. 1243 01:47:04,543 --> 01:47:06,294 Time for a banana root hair treatment? 1244 01:47:06,462 --> 01:47:09,547 -Yes, of course. -lt makes the hair long and lustrous. 1245 01:47:09,715 --> 01:47:13,885 Like Cher circa 1 975. 1246 01:47:15,012 --> 01:47:16,679 Do you have a nice dress? 1247 01:47:17,056 --> 01:47:18,056 One. 1248 01:47:18,224 --> 01:47:20,225 Put it on tonight, come to the Beach Shack. 1249 01:47:20,434 --> 01:47:23,311 I'll introduce you to everyone. The expats, the locals. 1250 01:47:23,479 --> 01:47:25,396 You'll dance. You will love it. 1251 01:47:25,564 --> 01:47:28,191 Oh, no, l don't think I can dance with my leg like this. 1252 01:47:28,359 --> 01:47:31,027 Of course you can. Leg no problem. 1253 01:47:31,403 --> 01:47:33,196 You see. 1254 01:47:33,822 --> 01:47:35,949 Now you have to come. 1255 01:48:28,627 --> 01:48:32,255 Hi. Could I get a tequila on the rocks with a lot of lime, please? 1256 01:48:32,423 --> 01:48:34,132 Coming right up. 1257 01:48:39,763 --> 01:48:41,264 Can l buy you a drink? 1258 01:48:41,432 --> 01:48:42,974 No, thank you, I'm fine. 1259 01:48:43,142 --> 01:48:45,143 I-- l almost killed you. 1260 01:48:45,311 --> 01:48:48,313 I am sorry for that, really. 1261 01:48:49,273 --> 01:48:51,649 -Hello. -Hi. 1262 01:48:51,817 --> 01:48:54,068 I'm sorry, really. 1263 01:48:56,155 --> 01:48:57,655 Yeah. 1264 01:49:08,375 --> 01:49:10,835 I'm sorry I'm laughing, but it's amazing. 1265 01:49:11,045 --> 01:49:14,672 I was actually listening to this song in the car when the tape jumped. 1266 01:49:14,840 --> 01:49:18,176 And l leaned over to fix it and l ran you off the road. 1267 01:49:18,927 --> 01:49:23,139 -Did you tell them to play it? -No, no, no. I make them mixtapes. 1268 01:49:23,349 --> 01:49:24,432 Mostly Brazilian music. 1269 01:49:24,600 --> 01:49:28,853 But l'm also very much into Phil Collins and Air Supply. 1270 01:49:29,813 --> 01:49:33,191 You really shouldn't say things like that out loud. 1271 01:49:35,736 --> 01:49:36,778 Liz! 1272 01:49:37,571 --> 01:49:41,157 -Hi. -Oh, I see you've already met Felipe. 1273 01:49:42,868 --> 01:49:47,205 Oh, of course. Two sad divorces. You have so much in common. 1274 01:49:50,793 --> 01:49:53,378 I have the perfect man for you. 1275 01:49:53,962 --> 01:49:57,382 Just a little love affair. Everyone has a little love affair in Bali. 1276 01:50:00,010 --> 01:50:01,594 Isn't he charming? lan. 1277 01:50:02,471 --> 01:50:03,721 Doesn't he look like Sting? 1278 01:50:03,889 --> 01:50:06,391 Oh, yeah. I made a very good mixtape of Sting. 1279 01:50:12,898 --> 01:50:14,857 You should dance with him. 1280 01:51:00,863 --> 01:51:02,405 Got you. Come on, l got you. 1281 01:51:02,573 --> 01:51:04,949 That's gonna hurt tomorrow. 1282 01:51:05,117 --> 01:51:07,618 All right. You know what? 1283 01:51:07,786 --> 01:51:12,415 -That is it. We are going swimming. -No, I don't even have my-- l-- 1284 01:51:12,583 --> 01:51:15,585 You don't have your-- You don't-- 1285 01:51:16,753 --> 01:51:17,962 You're so naked. 1286 01:51:18,172 --> 01:51:20,965 Yeah, l'm naked. 1287 01:51:21,300 --> 01:51:23,759 Armenia says everyone should have a love affair. 1288 01:51:23,927 --> 01:51:27,388 This is Bali. Everyone should have a love affair in Bali. 1289 01:51:27,556 --> 01:51:28,973 Yeah, but-- 1290 01:51:29,141 --> 01:51:31,142 Oh, God. No, no, no. 1291 01:51:31,310 --> 01:51:33,686 -Love affairs are awesome, dude. -They are. l just-- 1292 01:51:33,854 --> 01:51:35,480 I dated you 1 5 years ago. 1293 01:51:35,689 --> 01:51:39,775 And l dated you six months ago. 1294 01:51:39,943 --> 01:51:41,819 So l'm gonna go. 1295 01:51:41,987 --> 01:51:43,988 You're not-- You're really-- You're going. 1296 01:51:44,156 --> 01:51:45,990 But you're cute. 1297 01:51:48,827 --> 01:51:50,328 I think I look good. 1298 01:51:53,332 --> 01:51:54,373 Wait a minute. 1299 01:51:54,541 --> 01:51:56,125 Oh, sorry. Here. 1300 01:51:58,003 --> 01:51:59,670 -Thank you. -Do you need a ride? 1301 01:52:01,089 --> 01:52:03,007 That way I won't run you over again. 1302 01:52:12,809 --> 01:52:14,936 Hello. 1303 01:52:15,103 --> 01:52:17,939 -What time is it? -Five a.m. 1304 01:52:18,482 --> 01:52:21,025 Oh, you party hard. 1305 01:52:21,193 --> 01:52:22,860 You really do. 1306 01:52:23,028 --> 01:52:26,197 Thank you for.... 1307 01:52:26,365 --> 01:52:27,365 -The ride? -Yeah. 1308 01:52:27,533 --> 01:52:29,867 You're very welcome. Need help with the bicycle? 1309 01:52:30,035 --> 01:52:31,202 You keep it. 1310 01:52:31,370 --> 01:52:33,371 Keep it? But it has a basket. 1311 01:52:34,248 --> 01:52:36,249 It also has a bell. 1312 01:52:56,144 --> 01:52:58,354 Good afternoon. How are you? 1313 01:52:58,522 --> 01:52:59,564 What are you doing here? 1314 01:52:59,773 --> 01:53:03,734 Well, l've brought you Wayan's famous hangover cure... 1315 01:53:03,902 --> 01:53:07,029 ...because you drank a little bit too much last night. 1316 01:53:07,197 --> 01:53:11,242 And here it is. Very delicious, as you can see... 1317 01:53:11,410 --> 01:53:12,743 ...and very tasty. 1318 01:53:12,911 --> 01:53:15,413 Do you make it a habit of walking into people's houses? 1319 01:53:15,581 --> 01:53:18,541 Do you make it a habit of sleeping with your front door open? 1320 01:53:23,505 --> 01:53:25,047 It's a call. Moment. 1321 01:53:26,592 --> 01:53:29,760 -Hello, darling. How are you? -Can't get the coffee machine to work. 1322 01:53:29,928 --> 01:53:32,263 Okay. l've told you 50 times. It's very easy. 1323 01:53:32,431 --> 01:53:34,432 You change the filter, you add the coffee... 1324 01:53:34,600 --> 01:53:37,727 ...you add water and that's it. How did you get into college? 1325 01:53:37,894 --> 01:53:40,771 -How do l make it like you? -Listen, l've been making coffee... 1326 01:53:40,939 --> 01:53:44,942 ...darling, for 40 years, so you have to be patient with yourself. All right? 1327 01:53:45,110 --> 01:53:48,613 Okay. So, what's up with you? 1328 01:53:48,780 --> 01:53:52,074 -Nothing. l just can't talk right now. -Holy shit. You're with a girl. 1329 01:53:52,242 --> 01:53:54,118 -l have to go. -Who is she? ls she hot? 1330 01:53:54,286 --> 01:53:56,120 -Jesus, she's hot. -Dad, if you hang up... 1331 01:53:56,330 --> 01:53:58,581 ...l'll call back and embarrass you. 1332 01:53:58,749 --> 01:53:59,915 Dad, don't-- 1333 01:54:02,085 --> 01:54:04,462 That's a lot of "darlings," darling. 1334 01:54:04,630 --> 01:54:06,130 Yeah. That darling was my son. 1335 01:54:06,548 --> 01:54:09,634 I've called all my children "darling" since they were little. 1336 01:54:09,843 --> 01:54:12,803 Then there was a moment that between the pets and the children... 1337 01:54:12,971 --> 01:54:15,640 ...l was confused, so l called everybody "darling." 1338 01:54:15,891 --> 01:54:17,391 Okay, you need to rest. 1339 01:54:17,559 --> 01:54:20,061 Here is my number and my address. 1340 01:54:20,228 --> 01:54:24,482 I'm gonna leave it here on the table, in case you need a tour guide. 1341 01:54:24,941 --> 01:54:26,651 A tour guide. 1342 01:54:26,860 --> 01:54:31,072 And please, drink that up, because it's gonna help you a big deal. 1343 01:54:31,239 --> 01:54:33,366 Because you really look.... 1344 01:54:33,950 --> 01:54:37,495 -Ravishing? -Astonishing. 1345 01:54:37,663 --> 01:54:40,331 -Go away. Please. -Okay. Drink it up. 1346 01:54:40,499 --> 01:54:41,666 It's gonna be helpful. 1347 01:54:49,257 --> 01:54:50,633 Hey, Mr. Tour Guide. 1348 01:54:51,885 --> 01:54:53,344 Can we start with a coffee? 1349 01:54:56,765 --> 01:54:58,182 Okay. 1350 01:54:58,392 --> 01:54:59,850 What are these? 1351 01:55:00,018 --> 01:55:01,852 These are rambutan. They're delicious. 1352 01:55:02,020 --> 01:55:05,606 It's like an orange made love to a plum. Would you like some? 1353 01:55:05,774 --> 01:55:08,526 When you put it that way, yes, thank you. 1354 01:55:09,194 --> 01:55:11,028 Excuse me. 1355 01:55:12,406 --> 01:55:13,531 What is that? 1356 01:55:14,616 --> 01:55:16,492 No, no, no. 1357 01:55:16,660 --> 01:55:18,369 They taste like dirty feet. 1358 01:55:18,537 --> 01:55:19,829 -Really? -Dirty feet. 1359 01:55:19,996 --> 01:55:21,539 They taste like feet. 1360 01:55:21,707 --> 01:55:24,875 Look out. Nice. How many places have you visited? 1361 01:55:25,043 --> 01:55:29,213 I have 46 stamps on my passport. 1362 01:55:29,423 --> 01:55:33,509 I happen to have 49 stamps on my passport. 1363 01:55:33,677 --> 01:55:35,720 -Forty-nine? I knew it. -Yes. 1364 01:55:35,929 --> 01:55:37,430 -Knew what? -l knew it. 1365 01:55:38,807 --> 01:55:41,183 We are both antevasins, my dear. 1366 01:55:41,351 --> 01:55:42,393 What is that? 1367 01:55:42,561 --> 01:55:44,729 Antevasin is.... 1368 01:55:45,564 --> 01:55:47,815 It's an in-between. 1369 01:55:47,983 --> 01:55:50,067 It is the one who lives by the border... 1370 01:55:50,235 --> 01:55:53,654 ...because they renounce to the comfort of family life... 1371 01:55:53,822 --> 01:55:56,824 ...in order to seek "enlightment." 1372 01:55:56,992 --> 01:55:58,909 I like your word. 1373 01:55:59,077 --> 01:56:01,203 And l like the way you say "enlightment." 1374 01:56:01,371 --> 01:56:02,747 "Enlightment." I try. 1375 01:56:02,956 --> 01:56:06,208 You're missing a syllable, but I like it. 1376 01:56:06,960 --> 01:56:08,586 It's beautiful, no? 1377 01:56:08,754 --> 01:56:12,256 It's Pura Melanting, which means "Temple of Prosperity." 1378 01:56:13,049 --> 01:56:14,759 -Beautiful. -Yup. 1379 01:56:15,260 --> 01:56:17,928 -So next attraction of the tour? -Yes. 1380 01:56:18,096 --> 01:56:20,014 -Food from Bali. -Oh, good. l'm starving. 1381 01:56:20,182 --> 01:56:22,600 -Where should we go? -To the best restaurant in town. 1382 01:56:22,768 --> 01:56:25,102 -Of course. -My place. 1383 01:56:27,522 --> 01:56:28,898 Subtle. 1384 01:56:29,775 --> 01:56:32,276 Did you always live in Brazil before you came to Bali? 1385 01:56:32,486 --> 01:56:33,778 No, no. Only for 20 years. 1386 01:56:33,945 --> 01:56:38,199 Then l met my wife and l moved with her to Australia. 1387 01:56:38,366 --> 01:56:41,410 She traveled a lot because of the job. 1388 01:56:41,578 --> 01:56:45,122 -And I stayed home with the children. -A good feminist husband. 1389 01:56:45,290 --> 01:56:48,793 Yeah. Yeah. Didn't turn out to be what she wanted, l'm afraid. 1390 01:56:49,002 --> 01:56:50,461 -What happened? -What happened? 1391 01:56:50,629 --> 01:56:51,962 Well, the children were grown. 1392 01:56:52,130 --> 01:56:57,802 And l run an import-export jewelry business, so I could live anywhere. 1393 01:56:58,011 --> 01:57:02,807 And Bali seemed like the perfect place to recover from a divorce. 1394 01:57:04,935 --> 01:57:07,937 And here l am. Here l am. 1395 01:57:08,104 --> 01:57:09,772 -And you? -Well, far less tragic. 1396 01:57:09,940 --> 01:57:15,486 We were immature and really too young to get married. We grew apart. 1397 01:57:15,654 --> 01:57:17,154 Hearts were broken. 1398 01:57:17,781 --> 01:57:19,657 Yes. 1399 01:57:19,825 --> 01:57:21,909 Then it's the same. 1400 01:57:27,541 --> 01:57:28,958 This is just perfect. 1401 01:57:29,543 --> 01:57:31,418 So are you. 1402 01:57:31,586 --> 01:57:34,463 You know what you are? You're a falsa magra. 1403 01:57:34,631 --> 01:57:36,507 -You know what that is? -What? 1404 01:57:36,675 --> 01:57:40,177 You are slender and elegant in a distance... 1405 01:57:40,345 --> 01:57:43,848 ...but up close, you are round and fleshy. 1406 01:57:45,517 --> 01:57:47,560 Thank God for Brazilians. 1407 01:57:51,481 --> 01:57:53,357 Stop that! 1408 01:57:59,614 --> 01:58:01,699 You are a world traveler. 1409 01:58:01,867 --> 01:58:03,200 He says that to everyone. 1410 01:58:04,160 --> 01:58:05,494 Already make your money. 1411 01:58:06,329 --> 01:58:09,331 You don't have young-man ambition. 1412 01:58:10,166 --> 01:58:14,503 -He's good. -You have three children. 1413 01:58:14,671 --> 01:58:16,881 Two. That's a callous. 1414 01:58:19,509 --> 01:58:20,843 And you have divorce. 1415 01:58:22,095 --> 01:58:23,345 Very difficult. 1416 01:58:23,513 --> 01:58:26,515 You loved her very much. 1417 01:58:27,559 --> 01:58:29,101 You haven't healed that wound. 1418 01:58:29,895 --> 01:58:34,106 Now you are scared to open your heart. 1419 01:58:35,066 --> 01:58:38,402 You are afraid hurt will happen to you again. 1420 01:58:39,112 --> 01:58:41,030 Only way to heal... 1421 01:58:41,197 --> 01:58:43,741 ...is to trust. 1422 01:58:45,619 --> 01:58:49,872 This okay. To have broken heart mean you have tried for something. 1423 01:58:53,960 --> 01:58:57,087 Is it going to be broken again? 1424 01:58:57,255 --> 01:58:59,423 He a good man, Liz. You need a good man. 1425 01:59:01,927 --> 01:59:03,594 Thank you. 1426 01:59:03,762 --> 01:59:06,347 True. Ketut knows. 1427 01:59:10,685 --> 01:59:13,562 I am so sick of people telling me I need a man. 1428 01:59:13,730 --> 01:59:17,775 You don't need a man, Liz. You need a champion. 1429 01:59:23,782 --> 01:59:27,117 -Some spring break, huh? -Come on. You're moving like turtles. 1430 01:59:27,285 --> 01:59:28,953 His enthusiasm is exhausting. 1431 01:59:29,120 --> 01:59:31,455 Try being dropped off at school when you're 1 0... 1432 01:59:31,623 --> 01:59:33,791 ...and having your father kiss you on the mouth. 1433 01:59:33,959 --> 01:59:35,542 He still does it. 1434 01:59:35,710 --> 01:59:39,421 I'm sure it's all normal in Brazil, but I didn't grow up in Brazil. 1435 01:59:39,589 --> 01:59:41,382 Friends would tease the crap out of me. 1436 01:59:41,549 --> 01:59:43,050 Why didn't you ask him to stop? 1437 01:59:43,218 --> 01:59:45,678 No, I did at first, but then l realized... 1438 01:59:45,845 --> 01:59:48,639 ...how happy it made the old guy and l just gave in. 1439 01:59:48,807 --> 01:59:53,602 You know what? My grandmother hikes faster than you both... 1440 01:59:53,770 --> 01:59:56,230 ...but she's already dead. 1441 01:59:56,398 --> 01:59:59,149 Get him. Go get him. 1442 01:59:59,317 --> 02:00:02,486 How about you carry the packs for a while, eh? 1443 02:00:02,737 --> 02:00:05,280 Come here. Look at this. 1444 02:00:05,657 --> 02:00:07,574 Is it nice? 1445 02:00:08,118 --> 02:00:09,159 Baby. 1446 02:00:10,161 --> 02:00:12,246 Bringing up the rear. 1447 02:00:22,007 --> 02:00:24,758 -So have you slept with her yet? -What was that? 1448 02:00:24,926 --> 02:00:26,301 Have you slept with her yet? 1449 02:00:26,469 --> 02:00:28,178 Crossing the line. 1450 02:00:28,346 --> 02:00:32,141 Dad, it's been 1 0 years. lt's time. 1451 02:00:44,612 --> 02:00:46,989 Stay away from all the beautiful girls. 1452 02:00:47,157 --> 02:00:49,533 They are dangerous. 1453 02:00:54,372 --> 02:00:56,123 -A week is too short. -Yeah. 1454 02:00:56,291 --> 02:00:59,209 -A week is too short. -Yup. 1455 02:00:59,794 --> 02:01:03,172 Listen, l've made you a mixtape. 1456 02:01:03,882 --> 02:01:06,383 And l give you a present. For you. 1457 02:01:08,553 --> 02:01:09,762 Thank you. 1458 02:01:09,929 --> 02:01:12,723 I'm missing you already. 1459 02:01:20,565 --> 02:01:22,316 Bye, Liz. 1460 02:01:24,569 --> 02:01:27,029 -Be safe. -Same to you. 1461 02:01:29,532 --> 02:01:31,075 So don't I get a kiss? 1462 02:01:31,284 --> 02:01:33,077 I don't know. 1463 02:01:35,538 --> 02:01:38,165 -l love you, Dad. -l love you too. 1464 02:01:52,430 --> 02:01:55,099 So stupid, I know. 1465 02:01:55,683 --> 02:02:00,604 He's 1 9 years old and he's such a man. 1466 02:02:02,398 --> 02:02:04,233 It's sweet. 1467 02:02:04,567 --> 02:02:06,443 You're sweet. 1468 02:03:40,705 --> 02:03:42,497 Darling... 1469 02:03:42,665 --> 02:03:44,541 ...it's time. 1470 02:04:37,512 --> 02:04:38,553 -Liz. -What? 1471 02:04:38,721 --> 02:04:42,099 Liz. Come here. I have to tell you something. 1472 02:04:48,273 --> 02:04:50,941 No. I should really, really be meditating. 1473 02:04:52,277 --> 02:04:54,403 Go, go. Do it. 1474 02:05:00,994 --> 02:05:03,412 You know, I have not been to see Ketut in two weeks. 1475 02:05:03,579 --> 02:05:04,621 -Really? -Yes. 1476 02:05:04,789 --> 02:05:06,999 -Okay. Go, go. -Okay. 1477 02:05:10,378 --> 02:05:14,298 Oh, gosh. But you are just so much cuter than Ketut. 1478 02:05:17,135 --> 02:05:21,305 No, I have to go. I have to go. 1479 02:05:28,479 --> 02:05:30,272 Why? 1480 02:05:42,535 --> 02:05:44,953 You have bladder infection. 1481 02:05:45,121 --> 02:05:49,666 Common after no sex, then too much sexy time. 1482 02:05:49,834 --> 02:05:53,420 We haven't even been apart for a minute in two weeks. 1483 02:05:58,760 --> 02:06:01,178 You're afraid now, right? 1484 02:06:01,346 --> 02:06:02,679 I understand. 1485 02:06:02,847 --> 02:06:04,973 You don't want to lose yourself. 1486 02:06:05,350 --> 02:06:08,518 Love is scary, dangerous. 1487 02:06:08,686 --> 02:06:10,187 Happen to me. 1488 02:06:11,522 --> 02:06:15,192 I pray every day, but husband bad for me. 1489 02:06:15,693 --> 02:06:17,569 I have to get away from him. 1490 02:06:18,863 --> 02:06:22,157 This from where he hit me... 1491 02:06:22,325 --> 02:06:23,867 ...with motorcycle helmet. 1492 02:06:24,869 --> 02:06:27,162 And then my daughter... 1493 02:06:28,039 --> 02:06:30,165 ...she begged me to leave him. 1494 02:06:30,333 --> 02:06:31,875 Is that right, honey? 1495 02:06:32,085 --> 02:06:34,878 I said, "I think you should get a divorce, Mommy." 1496 02:06:35,088 --> 02:06:38,673 She was 4 years old when she said it. 1497 02:06:43,846 --> 02:06:46,807 Don't feel bad about Felipe. 1498 02:06:46,974 --> 02:06:49,559 Everybody needs affection, honey. 1499 02:06:49,727 --> 02:06:51,728 Make people do funny things. 1500 02:06:51,896 --> 02:06:55,232 Everyone gets like that at beginning of relationship. 1501 02:06:55,400 --> 02:06:59,027 Want too much happiness, too much pleasure... 1502 02:06:59,195 --> 02:07:02,197 ...until make yourself sick. 1503 02:07:02,615 --> 02:07:06,910 Even to Wayan, this happen at beginning of my love affair. 1504 02:07:07,120 --> 02:07:09,913 I lose myself, Liz. 1505 02:07:11,624 --> 02:07:13,208 Dear friends and loved ones: 1506 02:07:13,376 --> 02:07:15,085 My birthday's coming up soon. 1507 02:07:15,253 --> 02:07:17,754 If I were home, l'd be planning a stupid, expensive... 1508 02:07:17,922 --> 02:07:21,883 ...birthday party and you'd all be buying me gifts and bottles of wine. 1509 02:07:22,051 --> 02:07:25,053 A cheaper, more lovely way to celebrate would be to... 1510 02:07:25,221 --> 02:07:27,973 ...make a donation to help a healer named Wayan Nuriyasih... 1511 02:07:28,141 --> 02:07:30,267 ...buy a house in Indonesia. 1512 02:07:30,435 --> 02:07:33,603 She's a single mother. ln Bali, after a divorce... 1513 02:07:33,771 --> 02:07:36,523 ...a woman gets nothing, not even her children. 1514 02:07:36,691 --> 02:07:40,735 To gain custody of her daughter, Tutti, Wayan had to sell everything... 1515 02:07:40,903 --> 02:07:43,447 ...even her bath mat, to pay for a lawyer. 1516 02:07:44,449 --> 02:07:46,450 For years, they've moved from place to place. 1517 02:07:46,659 --> 02:07:50,287 Each time, Wayan loses clientele and Tutti has to change schools. 1518 02:07:51,205 --> 02:07:55,125 This little group of people in Bali have become my family. 1519 02:07:55,293 --> 02:07:58,795 And we must take care of our families, wherever we find them. 1520 02:07:58,963 --> 02:08:02,299 Today l saw Tutti playing with a blue tile she'd found in the road... 1521 02:08:02,467 --> 02:08:05,135 ...near a hotel construction site. She told me: 1522 02:08:05,303 --> 02:08:07,971 Maybe if we have a house someday... 1523 02:08:08,181 --> 02:08:10,974 ...it can have a pretty blue floor like this. 1524 02:08:11,809 --> 02:08:13,602 When I was in Italy, I learned a word-- 1525 02:08:13,769 --> 02:08:15,020 It's "tutti" with double T. 1526 02:08:15,980 --> 02:08:20,442 --which in ltalian means "everybody." So that's the lesson, isn't it? 1527 02:08:20,610 --> 02:08:23,153 When you set out in the world to help yourself... 1528 02:08:23,321 --> 02:08:25,614 ...sometimes you end up helping Tutti. 1529 02:08:28,951 --> 02:08:32,162 -Tell me again. -Eighteen thousand American dollars. 1530 02:08:32,330 --> 02:08:34,998 I brought you the e-mails to look at. 1531 02:08:37,460 --> 02:08:38,668 Oh, my God. 1532 02:08:38,836 --> 02:08:40,128 We get a house. 1533 02:08:40,296 --> 02:08:43,507 It can be the house for everybody! 1534 02:08:45,510 --> 02:08:48,845 I can have a pharmacy! I can have a library! 1535 02:08:50,014 --> 02:08:52,682 -All right. Oh, God. -Close them again. Close your eyes. 1536 02:08:52,850 --> 02:08:55,185 Careful. You don't wanna break a tooth or anything. 1537 02:08:55,353 --> 02:08:58,188 -Don't worry, but close your eyes. -Where are you taking me? 1538 02:08:58,356 --> 02:08:59,356 You will see. 1539 02:08:59,524 --> 02:09:02,025 -You helped Wayan to get a house... -l know. 1540 02:09:02,193 --> 02:09:03,693 ...and we're going to celebrate. 1541 02:09:03,861 --> 02:09:05,487 -Here, here, here. -All right. 1542 02:09:05,655 --> 02:09:08,156 -Turn, turn, turn. -l know we're at the beach. 1543 02:09:08,324 --> 02:09:10,200 Here you go. 1544 02:09:11,369 --> 02:09:13,328 We're going to take a little boat trip. 1545 02:09:14,539 --> 02:09:15,539 Where? 1546 02:09:15,748 --> 02:09:18,708 Where? To a little island nearby. 1547 02:09:18,876 --> 02:09:22,379 It's my favorite place in the world. I've packed for two. 1548 02:09:22,547 --> 02:09:27,384 We can stay there until next Tuesday. And l have the perfect camping spot. 1549 02:09:27,885 --> 02:09:31,555 Just you and l and 400 parrots. 1550 02:09:34,392 --> 02:09:36,518 Do you like it? 1551 02:09:38,563 --> 02:09:43,233 I was going to save it for tonight, but I think this is the right moment. 1552 02:09:43,401 --> 02:09:46,194 I have to be in Bali because my business is here... 1553 02:09:46,362 --> 02:09:48,071 ...and you have to be in New York... 1554 02:09:48,239 --> 02:09:50,907 ...because that's where your life is, right? 1555 02:09:51,409 --> 02:09:55,370 What if we tried to create a life that is divided between the two places? 1556 02:10:00,543 --> 02:10:02,294 Why would you wanna do that? 1557 02:10:02,795 --> 02:10:04,921 Because I'm in love with you. 1558 02:10:10,553 --> 02:10:12,804 -Let's go. Let's go. -Oh, no. I.... 1559 02:10:13,931 --> 02:10:16,057 -What? -l can't. l'm sorry. 1560 02:10:16,601 --> 02:10:17,767 -l just.... -You can't? 1561 02:10:17,935 --> 02:10:19,436 -l'm sorry. I can't. -Can't what? 1562 02:10:19,604 --> 02:10:24,441 I can't go on a trip right now, okay? I.... 1563 02:10:24,609 --> 02:10:28,445 I haven't been home in five days. I haven't seen Ketut in weeks. 1564 02:10:28,613 --> 02:10:31,114 -lt's just too much. -lt's not much. 1565 02:10:33,784 --> 02:10:35,452 To go... 1566 02:10:35,620 --> 02:10:37,120 ...by ourselves... 1567 02:10:37,288 --> 02:10:41,625 ...apart from everything else for a couple of days, is that much for you? 1568 02:10:41,834 --> 02:10:44,878 Liz, não entendo. What's the problem, Liz? 1569 02:10:45,046 --> 02:10:48,715 I mean, l have the same fears, I have the same scars that you have... 1570 02:10:48,883 --> 02:10:50,925 ...and l show them to you. 1571 02:10:51,093 --> 02:10:54,721 But l guess the only difference between you and l is that... 1572 02:10:55,097 --> 02:10:56,806 ...you are afraid to love again. 1573 02:10:56,974 --> 02:10:58,350 My darling, this is it. 1574 02:10:58,726 --> 02:11:01,645 You have to look me in the eye and let me know the truth. 1575 02:11:02,271 --> 02:11:06,107 Please. Do you love me or do you love me not? 1576 02:11:10,154 --> 02:11:11,738 Look me in the eyes and tell me... 1577 02:11:11,906 --> 02:11:15,367 ...do you love me or don't you love me not? lt's very easy. 1578 02:11:15,951 --> 02:11:18,495 I know you feel the same way. Why can't you say it back? 1579 02:11:18,663 --> 02:11:20,747 I don't know why. 1580 02:11:22,792 --> 02:11:24,000 Why can't l? 1581 02:11:24,168 --> 02:11:27,504 Because you're terrified, my love. But listen, it's fine. Me too. 1582 02:11:27,880 --> 02:11:30,840 But l still want to get into that boat with you. 1583 02:11:31,008 --> 02:11:33,510 -No. Okay, look. Look. -What? 1584 02:11:33,678 --> 02:11:36,680 I don't know why you can't understand this. 1585 02:11:36,889 --> 02:11:40,433 I found something and l can't give it up. 1586 02:11:40,601 --> 02:11:44,854 And trust me, if I did, you wouldn't be so all in love with me. 1587 02:11:45,022 --> 02:11:48,525 Okay, the balance thing. You traveled around the world to find your balance. 1588 02:11:48,693 --> 02:11:51,194 And the balance that you think you've found is what? 1589 02:11:51,404 --> 02:11:55,323 Meditating for 20 minutes and going to see an old medicine man? 1590 02:11:55,491 --> 02:11:59,202 Listen, balance, my darling, balance is not letting anybody love you... 1591 02:11:59,412 --> 02:12:02,372 -...less than you love yourself. -You know what? You know what? 1592 02:12:02,540 --> 02:12:06,459 Do not tell me what lessons l have and haven't learned in the last year... 1593 02:12:06,627 --> 02:12:09,045 ...and don't tell me how balanced and wise you are... 1594 02:12:09,213 --> 02:12:11,548 ...and how I can't express myself. 1595 02:12:11,716 --> 02:12:15,385 And do not say "darling" to me again because l am just gonna lose it. 1596 02:12:15,553 --> 02:12:19,848 Listen to me! l do not need to love you to prove that l love myself. 1597 02:12:26,814 --> 02:12:28,732 Run away from me? 1598 02:12:29,400 --> 02:12:34,863 You are running away from all the great possibilities of your own life. 1599 02:12:38,701 --> 02:12:41,077 I'm getting into that boat. 1600 02:14:08,332 --> 02:14:09,499 For you. 1601 02:14:09,667 --> 02:14:12,001 A goodbye gift. 1602 02:14:20,344 --> 02:14:21,845 Ketut. 1603 02:14:32,857 --> 02:14:34,691 Liss... 1604 02:14:35,067 --> 02:14:37,318 ...you healed me. 1605 02:14:39,488 --> 02:14:41,990 You healed me too, Ketut. 1606 02:14:44,618 --> 02:14:47,620 If it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have come back to Bali... 1607 02:14:47,788 --> 02:14:50,540 ...and l wouldn't have come back to myself. 1608 02:14:50,708 --> 02:14:53,001 You want coffee? Roast pig? 1609 02:14:54,461 --> 02:14:56,045 Coffee. 1610 02:14:56,213 --> 02:14:57,505 I get you coffee. 1611 02:14:57,673 --> 02:14:59,549 You fly back to America soon? 1612 02:14:59,717 --> 02:15:01,885 In two hours. 1613 02:15:02,052 --> 02:15:03,887 Have you ever been on an airplane, Ketut? 1614 02:15:04,597 --> 02:15:07,390 Ketut cannot fly on aeroplane. 1615 02:15:08,726 --> 02:15:11,227 Ketut have no teeths. 1616 02:15:14,899 --> 02:15:18,067 You are good friend to me. 1617 02:15:18,235 --> 02:15:19,903 You are like daughter. 1618 02:15:21,030 --> 02:15:23,156 When I die... 1619 02:15:23,324 --> 02:15:26,701 ...you will come back to Bali? Come to my cremation? 1620 02:15:27,620 --> 02:15:30,121 Balinese cremation ceremony is very fun. 1621 02:15:30,915 --> 02:15:32,916 -You will like it. -Okay. 1622 02:15:34,376 --> 02:15:39,380 You still smile with your liver, like l tell you? 1623 02:15:39,548 --> 02:15:40,590 Yes. 1624 02:15:40,758 --> 02:15:44,761 You still meditate like your guru in India teach you? 1625 02:15:45,137 --> 02:15:47,138 -Yes. -You happy now with God? 1626 02:15:48,223 --> 02:15:52,060 -Yes. -You love your new boyfriend? 1627 02:15:57,942 --> 02:15:59,859 I ended it. 1628 02:16:01,654 --> 02:16:03,905 Don't understand. Why you do that? 1629 02:16:07,785 --> 02:16:10,787 I couldn't keep my balance. 1630 02:16:12,289 --> 02:16:16,376 Liss, listen to Ketut. 1631 02:16:16,543 --> 02:16:20,713 Sometimes to lose balance for love... 1632 02:16:20,881 --> 02:16:25,176 ...is part of living balanced life. 1633 02:16:39,316 --> 02:16:41,150 In the end... 1634 02:16:41,318 --> 02:16:46,114 ...I've come to believe in something I call "The Physics of the Quest." 1635 02:16:48,158 --> 02:16:52,996 A force in nature governed by laws as real as the laws of gravity. 1636 02:16:53,497 --> 02:16:57,000 The rule of Quest Physics goes something like this: 1637 02:16:57,209 --> 02:17:01,295 If you're brave enough to leave behind everything familiar and comforting... 1638 02:17:01,463 --> 02:17:04,966 ...which can be anything from your house to bitter, old resentments... 1639 02:17:05,134 --> 02:17:07,677 ...and set out on a truth-seeking journey... 1640 02:17:07,845 --> 02:17:10,805 ...either externally or internally... 1641 02:17:10,973 --> 02:17:13,516 ...and if you are truly willing to regard everything... 1642 02:17:13,684 --> 02:17:16,686 ...that happens to you on that journey as a clue... 1643 02:17:16,854 --> 02:17:21,357 ...and if you accept everyone you meet along the way as a teacher... 1644 02:17:25,863 --> 02:17:28,364 ...and if you are prepared, most of all... 1645 02:17:28,532 --> 02:17:32,869 ...to face and forgive some very difficult realities about yourself... 1646 02:17:33,037 --> 02:17:35,371 ...then the truth will not be withheld from you. 1647 02:17:36,040 --> 02:17:37,790 Felipe? 1648 02:17:50,137 --> 02:17:52,388 I can't help but believe it, given my experience. 1649 02:18:25,756 --> 02:18:28,299 I decided on my word. 1650 02:18:36,433 --> 02:18:38,434 It means: 1651 02:18:40,270 --> 02:18:42,605 "Let's cross over."